Ask The Adoption Coach: Starting School and Disclosing Adoption

Reader: With school getting ready to start, should I tell my child’s teacher that my child was adopted?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:This is a question I’ve had myself a few years ago when one of my children started preschool, and I believe it’s a very common concern among adoptive parents.My friends who are fellow adoptive parents as well as some of my friends who are teachers, have varying opinions. Some parents feel that their child being adopted is a non-issue and doesn’t need to be disclosed t...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Addressing Adopted Son’s Questions

Reader: I’m starting to get lots of questions from my son, just in our evening conversation. I want to answer everything right, not answer more than he asks, and make it feel natural—but it breaks my heart. Are there wrong or right answers, or things to stay away from?Adoption Coach: Dear Reader:Thank you for question and your honesty. You didn’t mention how old your son is or the circumstances of his adoption, but I can offer you some tips to help guide you.First, I think keeping your chil...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Explaining Adoption to a Developmentally Delayed Child

Reader: My husband and I adopted our 6 year old son from Ethiopia. He came home at 14 months. At age 3.5 he was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). He is bright, but not yet at the point of understanding that all babies grow in tummies, let alone that some babies live with their birth mothers, others, including him, are adopted. Are there any resources for explaining adoption to kids with developmental delays, or should I just try to keep it simpl...

Ask The Adoption Coach: Adoption Books

Reader: I am looking for a good kids book to help my biological child age 9 understand the adoption of his younger sister. Any suggestions would be welcomed.Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Congrats on adding to your family through adoption! You are wise to carefully consider your son’s feelings and adoption education.First, be prepared to acknowledge, validate, and discuss your son’s range of feelings regarding the addition of a sister. It’s important to establish an environment of openness in your h...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Struggling With Open Adoption

Reader: I have an issue I would like some advice if possible. We are foster parents and have been for almost 14 years.We adopted our daughter at age 7 she came to us at age 4. We were open to a semi-open adoption and were giving bio mom pictures and emails, but this woman kept wanting more (and yes, I do understand and empathize with her); however, our daughter has stabilized and continues to make strides with us. This woman has said nasty things about me on anti CAS sites and then expects more...