Will There be Counseling Available to Me After Adoption Placement?

This seemingly simple question can actually be very complicated. Is there counseling available? Sure. No problem. Will it automatically be made available to you post-placement? Not necessarily. It all depends on three factors.First, who is handling your adoption? Is it your private family attorney? An agency? Someone else? One major thing an agency has going for it is that they are already equipped to handle pre- and post-placement counseling. They don’t need to be brought up to speed. They don’...

Post Adoption: Coping with Your Child’s Absence During the Holidays

What if every year, at every celebration, there was something missing? What if no one knew you felt that way? What if what was missing was knowing where and how your child was?Children are not the only ones to think about birth parents. Birth parents also think about their children. Holidays and other celebrations or times of the year (i.e. Mother’s Day and Father’s Day) can be an emotional time for a birth parent.Deciding to make an adoption plan for a child does not mean yo...

Picture and Letter Correspondence With Birth Parents

Adoptees have two sets of parents. This can be confusing to a young adoptee. An adoptive parent shares how her adopted son reacts to seeing pictures of his birth parents.At an early age, I introduced both of my kids to pictures of their birth parents. I talked about adoption at birth, but I held off on the pictures until they could hold on to them without damaging the pictures. My son is 19 months and I have shown him his pictures 3 times. The first two times he just stared and was mesmerized be...

Coping with Postpartum Depression

You’ve just had a baby. You were expecting to look and feel like the celebrity moms that grace the covers of supermarket magazines—completely put together and blissfully serene. However, in reality, you feel that you are neither of these things. You don’t feel like yourself and you are having some feelings of moodiness or sadness.Don’t worry just yet. You’ve recently had a baby after all! Your body has gone through a very stressful experience. In addition to your hormones being out of...

Recovery After Delivery

After your baby arrives your body changes as it returns to your pre-pregnancy state. The bigger the baby, the tougher the recovery. Postpartum is from delivery to 6 weeks following delivery. But take heart—recovery after delivery won’t last forever!Physical ChangesBleeding and vaginal discharge (lochia) – Your body will continue to cleanse the uterus and bleeding can last several weeks. The discharge will gradually lessen and become lighter and turn from pink to yellow or white.After pains...