What Happens After Adoption?

When deciding to place a child with an adoptive family, there may be a lot of unanswered questions about what will it be like after the adoption. Here are some basic facts to give you an idea of what to expect.The biggest mystery of the adoption process for a birth mother may be what it will be like after she places a child with an adoptive family. Depending on which state you live in, and the terms of the adoption, birth mothers may have different experiences after the baby is born, but some of...

How do I Adopt? Where do I start?

Adoption is a complex topic, but it shouldn’t be overwhelming if you arm yourself with knowledge about the process and how to adopt, and the right adoption professional.Growing your family with adoption is a big undertaking. This is a chance to experience parenthood in a unique way, and start a family, maybe for the first time. But there are very real risks with adoption, and not just the financial ones. The better prepared you are for the pitfalls, the better you’ll feel about starting your ado...

Origin Stories and Adoption

At times, origin stories and adoption intertwine.My placed son, Cricket, has become very interested in origin stories. He shares with me a love of caped crusaders. His interest is particularly in how superheroes and villains came to be. Many include origin stories and adoption. He told me about some of the stories he has learned. His adoptive mom read to me a couple of the origin stories he has created. My favorite was Morning Glory who had a formative experience with vines and now has all the p...

Competition in the Adoption Community

Sometimes I feel like there is this underlying force in the adoption community. I hate that it is there. I do all I can to fight it. I do all I can to stay as far away from it as possible…but sometimes, it’s just there.I don’t know when, why, or how competition snuck it’s ugly little head into the adoption world, but it did. Maybe it’s because of social media? The need to have more “likes” than the next page, more comments on your blog post, an amount of page views you can brag about? Who k...

Creating a Village: How You Can Start an Adoption Support Group

Five years ago, I was struggling to find my footing as a new, adoptive mother. My husband and I had just adopted our first child, and I was desperate to find support beyond just the adoption books and blogs I had been reading. I craved face-to-face interaction with women who understood what it is like to constantly be asked, “Is she your real child?” and “How much does adoption cost?” and “Why didn’t you have your own kids?”My search to find an existing support group didn’t yield what...