Ask the Adoption Coach: Substance Abuse and Adoption

Reader: I have a question about these kinds of scenarios. Are we as potential adoptive parents made aware of the fact that the birthmom continued to drink while pregnant? Is information like that made available or only if the birthmom is willing to divulge it? How can we know?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your questions. It seems that you are concerned about an expectant mother’s health, recreational drug choices, and if that information will or won’t be disclosed to you, as a prospec...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Approaching Your Child’s Birth Mother About Prenatal Exposure to Substances

Reader: My 9-yo child is having difficulties, ADD, anger issues. I’m all over it – seeing specialists, started therapy. I was told he tested positive for marijuana at birth, hence his being removed and, thank God, placed with me first as a foster and within a year, my namesake! He had an abnormal EEG today and has to go for an MRI. I’m “friends” with bio-Mom on FB (Facebook), and feel he deserves answers like was it only marijuana? How do I approach it? Do I approach it at all? This is my child’...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Cost of Adoption

Reader: Why is adoption so expensive? If the birth mother/parents have insurance, legal fees CANNOT make up that whole number?! Where does the rest go? Especially if it is an infant/newborn.Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Your question is common to those new to adoption. Why is adoption so expensive? First, take note that adopting from the foster care system is almost always cost-free to the adoptive parents, including completion of the home study, court costs, adoption professionals’ assistance, and...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Beginning Adoption

Reader: Hello everyone! My partner and I are looking to adopt and it’s a bit easy to get overwhelmed with all the information that comes your way once you start down this road. Would anyone be willing to share their experience/provide information on how their adoption went. We would also be particularly interested in how you were able to overcome the financial obstacles that come along with adoption. We both have college degrees with stable careers; however, we don’t have 20-30 thousand dollars...

Something To Consider When Talking About Adoption: An Adoptive Parent's Perspective

Lost pregnancies, tracking cycles, scheduled sex, and injecting hormones strong enough to take down a race horse – it’s enough to make you want to… who knows… something terrible. Something unspeakable.  Well, I see you.  My four miscarriages make me one of you, and I have also spent many tearful nights supporting ladies like you who are struggling with infertility. I will not subject you to another round of hair-pats, or offer bizarre platitudes about things happening for a re...