Adoption Stories: Interview with 5-Year-Old Adoptee

Many adult adoptees graciously share their adoption stories.Many adult adoptees graciously share their adoption stories rich with deep emotion—both good and bad—stemming from being adopted. Trading adoption stories with these adults has made me look at parenting an adopted child a little differently. It has caused me to stop and think about how my kids will feel growing up.My husband and I have always been very open about adoption with both of our kids. We never shy away from discussing their ad...

Naming Our Adopted Child

It was a surprise that we would not be naming our adopted child.When my husband and I first began our adoption journey, we really knew nothing about adopting. So, it really came as a surprise that we would not be naming our adopted child until finalization. We had figured her last name wouldn’t be the same as ours until finalization, but we were shocked to learn that we didn’t get to choose her first and middle name until she was nearly 6 months old. It was actually a little disappointing becaus...

International Adoption: My First Few Days in America

In this compelling international adoption story, an adoptee shares what it’s like to arrive in America after living in an orphanage in Ukraine.Living in the orphanage before my brother and I were adopted through international adoption, we were only shown glamorous movies of what United States was like. We pictured America as glamorous. Everyone is rich, it’s always warm, and everyone is happy all the time. So you can guess my disappointment when we landed in the middle of winter in Minnesot...

Nontraditional Families and Adoption

I was recently asked this question, “Would you have placed your daughter with a nontraditional family, like a same-sex couple or a single mother/father? I’m curious what your feelings are about this and what your process was in choosing a couple.First, I think this is a fantastic question. There are so many wonderful nontraditional families out there waiting and hoping to adopt. I have no doubt in my mind that each and every one of them not only deserve to be parents, but would be absolutel...

Birth Family Contact in Open Adoption

We adopted and didn’t know anything about birth family contact.When we adopted our daughter 4 years ago, we really didn’t know anything about birth family contact in open adoption. We were informed by our adoption advisor that we would have a semi-open adoption. To them, this meant we would send pictures to our daughter’s birth mother every 3 months for the first year of her life. Then we would send pictures and an update letter once a year until our daughter turned 18. To be honest, I...