Ask the Adoption Coach: Struggling With Open Adoption

Reader: I have an issue I would like some advice if possible. We are foster parents and have been for almost 14 years.We adopted our daughter at age 7 she came to us at age 4. We were open to a semi-open adoption and were giving bio mom pictures and emails, but this woman kept wanting more (and yes, I do understand and empathize with her); however, our daughter has stabilized and continues to make strides with us. This woman has said nasty things about me on anti CAS sites and then expects more...

Ask The Adoption Coach: Adoption and Obituaries

Reader: I have a question that although unpleasant I would appreciate some input. As a mother in the process of an adoption, and as the wife of an adopted person, (who’s biological sister passed away recently) we have had to discuss this. Is it okay, or helpful, or just plain wrong to ever include info about the biological family in an adopted person’s obituary? I know some adoptions are open and some are closed, and I am thinking about adults who later meet their birth parents and somehow wanti...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Social Media is Complicating Our Open Adoption

I am looking for some advice/input from other adoptive parents and birth parents on an unusual situation I have found myself in. My daughter’s birth parents live in the same town that we do. She is seventeen months old, and was a month old when we adopted her through the local foster system. We have an open adoption, with regular emails back and forth, and we are very open to having visits in the future, but M and J are not comfortable with the idea yet as they kept the pregnancy a secret. Despi...

Ask The Adoption Coach: Meeting Our Son’s Birth Family

Reader: We are going to be meeting our son’s birth family for the first time since he was born 3 years ago. We have kept in contact via e-mail. Any suggestions for us?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your question! What an exciting time for your family! Certainly, you are feeling a range of emotions. I applaud you for your openness toward your son’s birth family.First, I would suggest preparing your son for the visit. Many kids thrive on routine and predictability, and your son may very...

Ask the Adoption Coach: The Birth of Your Baby

Reader: My Husband and I are adopting a baby who will be born the beginning of April, we want to be present for the birth of the baby. We are in Illinois and the birth Mom is in Florida, our problem is trying to figure out what to do if she should go in labor before the scheduled C-Section. We have figured out flying will probably be the best but if she goes into labor early then what? Any suggestions?Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Thank you for your question! First, one thing that is important to c...