The teen years are when we begin to search for our identity. Something many teen adoptees struggle with on a deeper level than those that are not adopted. For adoptees it is much more complex. Adoptees look for their birth mothers for a number of reasons, ranging from needing answers to curiosity. Social media and the power of the internet has provided teens with free resources that have proved to be successful in reuniting teens with their birth mother.
The first step is to gather all information you may have about your adoption and birth family – names, documents, files, etc. You will need this information to plug into internet searches and to complete forms.
Below are resources to help teen adoptees search for their birth mother:
Non-identifying Information
The state where your adoption took place will determine how much information is available to you and when you can access it. Google: Non-Identifying Information and your state to determine how much information about your birth parents you can access. In most states non-identifying information will provide you with medical history, physical description of birth parents, level of education attained by birth parents, religion, ethnicity, cause of death, and reason for relinquishment.
This information will be the basis of your search.
State and Nationwide Reunion Registries
Reunion registries are known as mutual consent registries. These registries work by encouraging members of the adoption triad to register in hopes that there will be a match for reunion.
Register on the sites below:
International Soundex Reunion Registry (ISSR) is one of the world’s largest and oldest free mutual consent adoption reunion registries.
Find My Family Adoption Reunion Registry is a registry for adoptees and birth families that are mutually searching for each other.
Click here to see if your state has an adoption registry.
Social Media Sites
Social media has dramatically influenced the way people connect. It has reunited people from all over the world with a few keystrokes and a click of the mouse without an intermediary.
Facebook has been the most successful social media site used to reunite families, followed by Twitter and Instagram.
Two ways to use these social sites is to plug in the names you have acquired from your adoption record or your birth last name into the search box of Facebook. Search through profiles to see if there are any commonalities that can draw up leads. The second option is to create a post with your adoption information and photo. Post it on Facebook and encourage your friends and family to share it. Your post can possibly go viral as many have in the past for those looking to reunite with their birth family. People love to hear a reunion story and want to be a part of it by helping reunite families on social media.
You can check out a couple of our other posts here or here for some more help or information.