Our use of the terms “putting up” or “giving up” does not reflect how we feel about adoptive placement. These terms remain the most widely used search terms for those who are considering adoption for their baby, and we wish to reach all who seek this important information.

If you have been wondering how to “give up my baby” for adoption, first, know that you are not “giving up” your baby and recognize that you are making a very difficult decision based on love. Placing a child for adoption is a big decision for any mother, and it is important to be informed as to what your rights are as you go through the process of adoption and understand how that process actually works. This article is a good starting point for those looking to learn about the process of giving a child up for adoption in TX but if at any point you have questions or if information pertaining to your specific situation is not covered here then feel free to contact either us at the Adoption Network Law Center.

Determining Whether Adoption is Best for You

The very first step in the adoption process, before anything else, is determining whether adoption is the right decision for you. Adoption is always an option when it comes to unplanned pregnancy. Choosing adoption is never easy, and it is not a decision that should be made without due consideration. But when the decision is made, it is always with your child’s best interests at heart, a decision made out of love in order to give your child the best possible life.

Some common questions that come up when considering adoption are:

  • “Does the father need to be involved/notified of my intention to go through with adoption?” Both your and the Birth Father’s parental rights need to be terminated in order to complete the adoption process.
    • If the Birth Father does not agree with an adoption plan then he will have to prove that he is able to support the child and take custody, otherwise his parental rights may still be revoked.
    • If the father is in and out of your life then it may be possible to go forward with the adoption, but you will need to consult with your adoption attorney to determine the next steps.
    • If the father is abusive or in jail then it is possible to move forward with the adoption, but it depends on the particular circumstances in each situation. Once again it is best to discuss your situation with your adoption attorney to fully understand your rights.
    • If the father’s identity or whereabouts are unknown and you have made all efforts to find or locate him, then you may be able to go forward with the adoption. In the state of Texas if the father has not registered with the Putative Father Registry within 31 days of the child’s birth, then the father’s paternal rights may be terminated. This only applies if you were not married to or living with the man ‘presumed’ to be the father (your attorney can go into more detail regarding the difference).
  • “Is adoption free?” In short, the answer is yes, putting your baby up for adoption is free of cost to you.
    • In addition, you may be eligible to receive financial assistance to cover things like: maternity clothes, child care, prenatal care, medical care throughout pregnancy, legal representation, counseling, living expenses, rent, phone and transportation, groceries and more.
    • Your adoption agent or facilitator will be able to go through the entire list with you and explain all of the costs that can and will be covered.
  • “Can I stay in contact with my child and Adoptive Family?” Today most adoptions have some level of openness meaning that you will be able to stay in contact with your child and Adoptive Family. It is for you and the Adoptive Family to decide what level of openness is right for you.

Creating an Adoption Plan

After deciding on adoption, the next step in the process is creating your adoption plan. There are three main steps in creating an adoption plan and it is important to keep in mind that you are in control of your own adoption plan. Your chosen adoption professional can help you craft the plan, but ultimately each decision is yours.

  1. Choosing an Adoptive Family – You will get to look through profiles of prospective Adoptive Parents so that you can be sure that your child is going to go to the family that you are most comfortable with, and that you are most confident will provide the kind of life that you wish for your baby. During this step of the process many Birth Mothers feel a greater sense of peace and confidence in their decision as they look through all of the great families looking to adopt and finally settle on the one that is “right.” The process of finding that “right” family is illustrated below:
    • You will discuss what type of family you are looking for with your Adoption Advisor (meaning family makeup, siblings, pets, occupations, education, religion, and anything else that is important to you)
    • Your Advisor will present you with the profiles of prospective Adoptive Parents that fit the description you are looking for and you will have the opportunity, if you so choose, to meet or talk to the families and get to know them before you make your decision.
    • You will be able to discuss your hopes and dreams for your baby with whichever family you choose.
    • You can stay in contact with the family up until delivery and afterwards (the amount afterwards is dependent on the level of openness in the adoption that you decide on)
  2. Choosing a Birth Plan – This is the part of the plan where you get to decide
    • Which hospital in TX you would like to give birth at
    • Whether you want to give birth vaginally or via c-section
    • Who will accompany you to the hospital (this can be family, friends, and / or the Adopting Parents) it is up to you what role the Adopting Parents play in the actual birth of the child.
    • It is also up to you how much time you spend with the baby after birth (Texas law requires you to wait a minimum of 48 hours after birth before you can give your final consent to the adoption).
  3. Choosing an Adoption Type and Post-Adoption Communication – you do not have to have contact with the baby or birth family after the completion of the adoption (this is called a closed adoption) but you can if you wish. An “open adoption” is any adoption that leaves the lines of communication open after the completion of the adoption. The amount of communication (or level of openness to the adoption) is totally up to you and can include phone calls, visits, pictures, emails, letters etc.
    • Your Adoption Advisor can help work with you and the Adoptive Parents to determine exactly what level of openness, if any, is right for you.

Finalizing the Adoption and Post-Adoption

The adoption is not finalized until after the completion of your 48 hour state-mandated waiting period following the birth of the child. Once the 48 hour window has passed and you have consented to the adoption, your parental rights will be considered terminated and the responsibility of the child will be turned over to the Adoptive Parents. Once you terminate your parental rights, the decision is final.

Once the adoption is completed there are recourses to help you both physically and emotionally as the process can prove draining for Birth Mothers. Your Adoption Advisor will be able to help arrange any help or support that you may need following the birth of the baby and subsequent adoption.

Feel free to contact us at the Adoption Network Law Center at any time if you have any questions regarding adoption. We are here to help in any way that we can. Our phone number is 1-800-367-2367.