To our Special Birthmom,
Wow. What do we say to someone who could become one of the most significant people in our lives? First of all, thank you. The simple fact that you are reading our letter demonstrates just how special you are to have made the most heroic decision for you and your baby – the gift of adoption. We can only imagine just how difficult it must have been for you, from learning you were pregnant to thinking and worrying about what you were going to do and finally, arriving at your decision. We hold you in high regard for all that you have gone through and feel honored that you are reading our letter.
We have something in common because adoption has also touched our lives in a way we could have never imagined! But, first a little about us…
We are Chris and Amy, Amy and Chris. Best friends, college sweethearts, husband and wife, mom and dad, roommates, teammates, soul mates. We met 18 years ago when our mutual friends introduced us and we have been together ever since. We are getting ready to celebrate our 15th wedding anniversary and are excited to see what the future holds for us.
We have a 10-year-old son, Mason, whose birth was a miracle, because we have since learned that reoccurring miscarriage is what has prevented us from the ability to grow our family. That knowledge ultimately led us down the path of adoption which is how our 2nd child - our beautiful Sophia, now age 2, joined our family.
Our adoption experience was a miracle and life changing! I feel blessed that I have been able to experience the birth of our children in two very different ways and yet with the same end result - kids that are happy, healthy, beautiful and smart with no difference in how they are loved, parented or bonded with. And we can’t talk about the adoption of our daughter without bringing up the woman who made it all possible – her birthmother. To us, she is more than a birthmother- she is the person who gave us the gift of family. We are incredibly grateful to her and she will always hold a top spot in our hearts and prayers.
Our adoption journey and birthmother taught us so much. When we first started learning about the process, Chris and I were excited, but also a bit scared! We didn’t know what to expect and we were afraid of the unknown (another thing in common as I imagine you had similar fears!) We were afraid of an “open” adoption, of a birthmother changing her mind, and of having our hearts broken.
And yet, everything fell into place with our birthmother - things just felt “right.” What we learned was that God has a plan – for ALL of us! That we are meant to be connected in life; that “openness” in adoption is not something to be feared, rather cherished; it’s okay not to know exactly what the future holds – we will be guided.
Why again? To understand why we wish to adopt our third child, you should first know that Chris and I always dreamed of being a family of 5. As an only child myself and with Chris being a twin, three kids always felt like the right number for us. Our family just does not yet feel complete. And we can’t imagine a more precious time to be blessed with another child than now, when Sophia is a toddler and young enough to “be-friend” a little brother or sister all the while with big brother Mason adoringly looking over them (he LOVES being a big brother!) Chris and I never lost sight of our dream of being that family of 5, despite our fertility challenges earlier on in our marriage.
Our wish is to find you to answer any questions you have about us and to share more about ourselves and our family, so we can continue on this journey together and make it as fulfilling as possible for all who are involved. We hope to hear from you soon and wish you the best during your pregnancy! Thank you for taking the time to get to know us.
Amy and Chris