To Our Hero
We have been thinking about writing this letter for a while now. We wanted it to be the perfect letter. We realized, though, nothing is perfect in life. If it were, neither one of us would be where we are today. Life has definitely given us some obstacles to overcome. This has been the most difficult obstacle that we have had to face.
I have wanted to be a mother for as long as I can remember. Growing up, I had many part time jobs. All but two of those jobs revolved around children: being a nanny, working in a specialty toy store or indoor playground, and now becoming a teacher are some of the jobs I have had. Ten years ago, I packed all of my bags and left my family in Pennsylvania to move to Virginia for a teaching job. I did this completely on my own. I was thirty-four and life seemed to be passing me by. All of my friends were married with at least two kids. After a year in Virginia, I decided to join an online dating service. That is where I met my husband. He was the first and only person I ever actually went on a date with. We married two years after we met. We started trying for a baby as soon as we got married. Having children was a definite must for the both of us. We wanted to be able to share our love of the outdoors and amusement parks with our children. Anytime we went somewhere or did something, we would discuss how great it would be to have children and do the same things we loved with them.
After three years though, nothing was happening and the emptiness in our hearts started to grow. We began seeking treatments for fertility. We tried fertility drugs and IUIs. Nothing was successful. After five years, I found out both of my tubes had become blocked. I had surgery to repair them, and it was also unsuccessful. I was officially diagnosed with endometriosis. This has been the hardest thing I have had to deal with. I couldn't give my husband the family he has always wanted. After a lot of discussion, we decided we would build our family through adoption. We never looked back! After five years of thinking that it was never going to happen, we have become excited again to know that it will happen in time! We began talking again about taking our kids hiking and camping. God has a plan for everyone, and we now know that His plan for us is to adopt a beautiful baby and give him or her the best life possible. Sometimes I become overwhelmed with excitement thinking about the day we will get to bring our baby home.
Our family and friends have become a great support system for the both of us. We have numerous friends who have built their families through adoption, and they share in our excitement. My youngest sister just got married this summer. She will soon face the same challenges that we have because she cannot have children either. We hope that we can be as encouraging and supportive as all of our friends and family have been for us.
All of that being said, my life obstacles seem small compared to yours. We can't even imagine what you are going through or what you are feeling. We are sure that it is a struggle every day for you to put your trust in total strangers. The dictionary defines a hero as, “a person who is admired for great or brave acts or fine qualities." There are many different types of heroes in life. You are our hero! You have swooped in to save our day! Your selfless act of kindness will fill the emptiness and void in our hearts. It will change our lives forever. You will provide us with the family that we have always wanted. Your child may not have our hair color or our eye color. He or she may not have our noses or even look like us. But we assure you that the one thing your child will always have, is all of our hearts!
Josh and Erin