We haven’t met yet. We have tried to adequately find the words for our feelings for you, and the decision you are considering for you and for your child. Saying that it is one of the toughest decisions in the world, doesn’t seem to convey the depth. A mother protects, loves and makes sacrifices. A mother does the impossible, because only she can. You have to make so many decisions for your child, all without knowing the outcome or the future. But you still make those decisions with faith, courage, and hope. We don’t know the story of what brought you here, but we want to know. We want to know so that we can share. We want to be able to share your story, and our story, in the hopes that we will be able to share both with your child.
Let us share with you a little of our story. We are Iain and Katja. We met almost five years ago online. We spent several weeks chatting via email. During that time, our southern city was plummeted with an unexpected 3 inches of snow, shutting down the city, which meant we had to postpone our first date. Our second attempt to meet was also one of amusement. Katja was running late and wanted to see if we could meet somewhere closer, so instead of a place Iain had spent hours agonizing over, we ended up at a place that neither of us would have otherwise picked, but it didn’t matter. We spent the whole night laughing and talking. We discovered we had so much in common, like our love of food, cooking, travel and good company.
We shared so many stories during those first months, and then we started creating our own special memories and stories together. Our first trip together was to Savannah with Katja’s senior citizen Labrador, Cody. Since then we have traveled to England to visit Iain’s parents, Ireland, Belgium, and South Africa. While we have created memories and stories together, we can’t wait to share and create new stories with your child. We can’t wait to show them what it’s like to take a boat through a canal, or what it looks like to see elephants and giraffes in their natural environment. We want to see your child discover the world around them. We can’t wait to share our childhood traditions of falling asleep under the Christmas tree the first night it’s decorated, or waking up on Christmas morning to find a big stocking filled with goodies at the foot of their bed. Or simple family picnics to feed the ducks. Those are the kinds of memories we are looking forward to creating, but only better. Because we want to include important memories and traditions from you as well. A child’s story is not complete unless all the chapters are filled.
We know that so many things in life can’t be planned or predicted. But we can guarantee that your child would be loved. Loved by so many. Your child is already loved greatly by you, and also by us. There are two sets of grandparents, several aunts and uncles, and two more parents, all of whom already love your child.
As you go through this journey, we hope you find the support and strength that you need. And we hope that we get to meet you and be a part of your journey.
With a gracious heart,
Iain and Katja