Dear Expectant Mother,
We are extremely grateful for the opportunity to tell you about ourselves. We have sympathy for the overwhelming job you have of choosing who will be the parents to your baby. We respect your selfless effort to find a caring and loving family for this awesome responsibility. Please know we’d love for you to choose us, but if you choose another couple or make a different choice, we want you, above all things, to find the situation that is best for you and your baby.
When we talked about having kids, both adoption and biological children were always part of our family plan. We knew going into our marriage that getting pregnant would be difficult and were given less than a 6% chance of carrying a baby to term with in vitro fertilization. We have completed 4 unsuccessful rounds of IVF, each one harder and harder emotionally, but our ultimate goal was always to be parents, so we decided to focus on adoption. Our hope to grow our own family never waivers and even in our darkest moments on this path to parenthood, we have known we will find our child. We would love and cherish any baby as our own.
In our marriage, we have different strengths and weaknesses that complement each other. We have a great friendship, mutual respect and lots of laughter and love. We are each other’s biggest cheerleader! We believe the best relationships in life are the ones when both people feel like they are the lucky ones and each of us will tell you “it’s me” every day. To show our child how we treat each other and care for one another daily is one of the greatest gifts we have to give. We’re proud we have a marriage that is loving, fun and dependable as a foundation for our family. We hope to be an example to your child and that we’ve created an environment where your child will always feel safe and loved, and will be surrounded by family and friends.
On weekdays, we take turns talking to family, cooking, cleaning and taking care of our German Shepherd, Otis. We have what we refer to as the “zing;” it’s the moment when you catch someone off-guard and make them laugh as hard as possible. We spend every day trying to “zing” each other. Most of our weekends we are typically relaxing and doing things around the house, taking the dog to the park and cooking a nice meal together. We love to go to the market, a movie or one of the many festivals in our area. Every few weeks we typically host family or friends and we both have parents who will soon be moving near us.
Our most recent experience with babysitting was with our friends’ 7-month-old son on the day he cut his first tooth! He was a challenging, fevered, crying mess, and we still found it hard to hand him back. We are lucky to have many children in our lives and have fallen in love with each of them. We love to cuddle, play and go to the park, zoo or library. We love to be a part of their learning, whether it’s reading, tying shoes or the more complicated how to share or make friends. We want to teach our child to have fun and explore, and on a recent visit to the science museum with our nephew we had a blast going in flight simulators and building tornadoes! For the children in our lives, we love the little everyday moments as much as the milestones and building family traditions. We look forward to having all these experiences with our own child.
We often try to put ourselves in your shoes, wonder what questions you would ask. Our hope is that you have found answers in our letter. We appreciate and thank you for getting to know us.
Dan & Sarah