Dear Expectant Mother,
Thank you for taking the time to get to know us.
We can’t imagine how emotional and stressed you feel.
Obviously, we have never been in your situation, but we have thought about you
and worried for you. We are proud
parents to two 13-year-old boys who were adopted from another country and we
feel they are a testament to the beauty of adoption. One thing we always tell
people about being adoptive parents is that we get the gift of watching our
children grow and discover their own talents and passions.
We don’t have any preconceived ideas that they should be like
us or like what we like. It is so fun to see them discover an interest and then
help them learn and explore. Through our boys interests we have learned a lot
about science, technology, music and history, things we probably would not have
explored as much ourselves. They enrich our lives with their interests and we
marvel in watching them grow.
want to assure you that respect whatever level of openness and contact that you
want to have with your child. Please feel confident that you will be a valued
member of our family and that time and distance will never be an issue. We
believe that any adoption plan should be flexible. You may want different levels
of contact or visits and we are happy to facilitate your wants and needs.
We hope you have people around you that can offer you
support. Life is so hard and we need to help each other get through the tough
times. This is another area we know so much about. Before we adopted our boys,
we had a son and then a daughter, but they were both born with a genetic
disorder and passed away the same day they were born. It was heartbreaking in a
way words cannot express, but we got through the sadness and grief with the
support of family and friends. We hope you have this type of support.
We were part of a support group for parents who lost infants,
and making those connections with people who really understood our emotions got
us through the toughest times.
Take care of yourself and know that even if we never meet, we
are thinking of you and hoping and praying you find peace.
Terry and Sarah
PS: Please view our adoption blog that we
created especially for journey: www.terrysarahadopt.wordpress.com