I am sitting here on a Wednesday evening trying to come up with the words to convey both my understanding of who you are and what you are going through while making the most selfless decision you have probably ever made. The truth is I don’t know you. At no point during this process will I ever be able to fully understand who you are or what has led you to consider giving my wife and me the gift of life.
As my wife and I have gone through the incredibly humbling and personal struggle of infertility it has taught me more about the preciousness of life. It has taught me that no amount of prayer, money, or fighting can change biology. My wife and I have considered many options. Most of the options have a lot to do with daily injections and expensive procedures all for what boils down to a very slim chance of ever conceiving on our own. It’s a heck of a thing to realize, understand, and comprehend that the one basic thing every other human in the world is supposed to be able to do, you can’t. So admittedly, I am already impressed by you.
But the true expression and feeling that comes over me when I think of you is humility. To extend the love that you have for your child to another family, for them to raise as their own, is insurmountable. You are not just giving the gift of adoption, you aren’t just giving a child a different life, you are giving my wife and me an opportunity at a life that we have dreamed about since we met, a life that we have been fighting a daily battle for since before we were married. Just your consideration of us gives us hope. It gives us a light in a very difficult and dark tunnel. I can’t imagine how difficult the process to come to this decision has been for you. But you making that decision gives my wife and me an opportunity at a life that we have been praying for, for quite some time now. Your decision will make us a family. And it’s a decision that we will never forget.
Every Christmas, every birthday, every dinner, every kiss we will be a family because of the decision you made. Love is unconditional. Whether it is from a mother who gives her child the gift of a different life, or a family who prays every day for that mother to give them the gift of adoption, all of those difficult decisions are born out of love. Your courage is undeniable, your love is inspirational, and your humility will be with us every day for the rest of our lives. I hope this letter finds you at peace and comfort during this time. The love that my wife and I share will only grow for each other and your child. My wife and I will cherish your decision and carry it with us for all time.
Our unconditional love and guidance will surround your child and blanket him or her. Your gift of adoption will never be forgotten or taken for granted. I know you don’t know us and I know that we don’t know you, but unconditional love for your child has brought us together. It has brought our paths to an intersection. And although those paths may move in different directions over time, for a brief moment a beautiful baby brought us together and brought peace. Thank you for viewing our profile, for your time, and for your love.
Chris and Tia