Dear Expectant Mom,
We can’t imagine what a difficult time this must be for you.
We can’t think of a more heart-wrenching, brave, selfless act than what you are
faced with. We know that you are not giving your child up, but you are giving
them a gift of a better chance at life in an already tough world. If we are
lucky enough to adopt your child, they will always know how much you love them
and that what you did was the most difficult decision of your life, but one you
made with only love and the child’s best interest in mind. Your child will
always know that you never abandoned them.
We are adopting because we have gone through over 5 years of
infertility and want to start our family. Obviously, because we
have never been in your situation, we can’t sympathize with exactly what you’re
going through, but we do have an incredible amount of empathy for you. Although
we have never faced what you are facing, we have faced many other losses
throughout our many attempts. We want you to know that your child will be
incredibly well loved, not just by us but also by our extended family and
friends. We have many people close to us that have adopted, so we have a great
support system and resources to help with the unique issues of adoption.
We want to emphasize how well loved your child will be with
us. We are a loving family with two wonderful, sweet, small dogs. We live in a
very family friendly neighborhood where kids play freely throughout the many
parks scattered around. Your child will be well-traveled, as we have family
that lives in Europe. Your child will enjoy all that Colorado has to offer,
including skiing, camping, hiking and biking. Your child will grow up with many
aunts, uncles, cousins, grandparents and friends who will love him/her
unconditionally. Education will also be of utmost importance for your child. We
will make sure your child has every opportunity to succeed in life, no matter
what success looks like for them.
We realize adoption is a life-long journey that we will take
with you. While no one can predict what the future will hold, our hope is to
have you as part of our family, if you so wish. Nothing would make us happier
than if your child can continue to have a relationship with you after the
adoption. We understand this isn’t always possible or even wanted, but we want
you to know that the opportunity is there.
Thank you for taking the time to read our letter under such
circumstances. We hope to meet and talk to you soon and begin what we think
will be a wonderful journey with you.
Lots of love,
Joanne and Nick