Dear Expectant Mother
Thank you for taking the time to read our profile. We have no idea what you are going through, but we imagine you might be feeling very overwhelmed right now. Regardless of the circumstances that led you here, we admire you so much for considering adoption for your child. This is most likely the hardest thing you’ve been through and probably the most difficult decision of your life. Perhaps you are a young woman in high school or college and are not ready to be a mother right now; perhaps you are already a mother and feel you are unable to provide for another child. Whatever your situation, we would never judge you. We know you love your child unconditionally, and we too have an unconditional love to share with you and your child.
We can’t pretend to know how you feel right now, but we imagine your heart is breaking at the thought of not being able to raise your child. We’ve experienced heartbreak on our journey to parenthood; we tried for years to conceive and then had several failed IVF attempts, all the while begging God to place a child in our arms. We want to help heal your heartbreak by letting you know that we have so much love to give a child, and that even if you aren’t raising your child you will always have a place in your child’s life. We adopted our son, Dominic, and have maintained an open and friendly relationship with his mother. She is able to see pictures and Skype with us and watch him grow up. We watched Dominic’s mother break her own heart to give him a loving, stable, two-parent family that she couldn’t give him, but we’ve also watched her heal and move forward with creating a good life of her own. We would like the same kind of relationship with you, if that is what you would like too. We would never cut you off from your child; we believe your child should know you and respect you as he or she grows up and know the sacrifice you are making for their future.
We’ve wanted children since we were married and knew our road to parenthood would not be as easy for us as it is for many of our friends. It was a bumpy road, but becoming Dominic’s parents turned our already great lives from black-and-white to color. We have been so blessed to be Dominic’s parents, but we’ve always known we wanted one more child. When we think about bringing home another baby, perhaps your baby, our eyes fill with tears and our hearts overflow. Not only would we give your child two loving parents, but also an adoring big brother who is so excited to have a baby brother or sister. We’ve been waiting so long to complete our family; we are praying for one more miracle, and perhaps your child is the miracle we’ve been praying for.
There is no way to describe the gratitude an adoptive parent feels towards their child’s mother, and we realize this gift is more precious than anything in the world. We know you love your child deeply, and that you want him or her to have a wonderful life full of love and happiness. We want you to know that your child is loved and your child is wanted, and we would be honored to share our lives with him or her.
Joel & Andrea