Married Since: 2014

Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We intend to honor and carry out the good work you’ve begun. And while it is likely that your child will want to know about you and have a relationship with you, we also wonder if you might be curious about how they will grow and develop. So, in whatever capacity you are comfortable staying in touch, and/or building and maintaining a relationship, we are open to that. No matter what, know that your child will know of the positive impact your strength, bravery, and heartfelt decision has made on his or her life.

Daryl and Shirlee

from Connecticut

 

Daryl

Ancestry: Chinese

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Data Scientist

Education: PhD

Hobbies: Piano, Reading, Cooking

Shirlee

Ancestry: German, Norwegian

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Homemaker

Education: BS

Hobbies: Gardening, Baking, Hiking

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Favorites

Daryl

Animal
Bears
Childhood Memory
Playing with my cousins and brother
Color
Green
Family Actiity
Playing games and traveling
Food
Biryani
Hobby
Trying new foods
Holiday
Thanksgiving
Leisure Activity
Reading
Scripture
Corinthians 12:24-26 But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.
Sport
Soccer

Shirlee

Animal
Penguin
Childhood Memory
Swimming
Color
Purple, Orchid
Family Activity
Playing games
Food
Sushi
Hobby
Gardening and baking
Holiday
Christmas
Leisure Activity
Hiking
Scripture
Proverbs 3:5-6 Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your rways acknowledge Him, and He will direct your paths.
Sport
Volleyball
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From Us to You

Hello There!

We are grateful to you for considering us to raise your baby. We recognize that, as you seek to find just the right loving home for your child, your ultimate decision will be deeply rooted in unspoken measures of faith, trust, hope and perhaps a bit of uncertainty. So thank you for reading on to learn more about us and our intentions for raising your child.

First, though, we wonder about what you’ve been through, what you’re going through now, and how you’re feeling about everything. We can only imagine that your recent experiences and this big, important decision may be the toughest and most emotionally-taxing of your life. We recognize that the choice of who will raise your child is perfectly unique to you, as you are your baby’s one-and-only birth mother. We truly hope that you are proud of yourself for the brave and self-sacrificial decision you are making, for the hard work you’ve done so far, and for the commitment you’ve made, which impacts your life, your baby’s, and that of the adoptive parents you choose. There is nothing easy or simple about the situation you are in or the decision you are making.

As for us, we have always envisioned our complete family to include biological and adopted children. We attempted to have a biological child first. For six years we tried, but with no success. It was a very difficult season. We were disappointed and it felt unfair that we wanted a child, worked hard and waited patiently for one, but to no avail. As a result, we spent time being sad over the loss of our original dream. Accepting this reality was hard work, but a few very important things happened as a result. Our relationship became stronger because of the hardship we worked through together. We are now able to relate more deeply to people dealing with difficult circumstances. And we are much more appreciative than we originally thought possible, of you, the mom who might trust us to raise her child, and for your child, the one we’ve been praying and preparing for, to join our long awaited family.

As for your child, we will provide him or her with a strong foundation, and help them build life skills and healthy habits that will carry them through adulthood and old age! They will be allowed freedom to make mistakes, and from them, encouraged to learn and grow. They will be encouraged to explore the world and their surroundings, to laugh, play, imagine, create and build. As much as possible, we will foster a sense of curiosity, and an ability to strive to do their personal best by thinking critically and accomplishing challenges they set for themselves. They will spend plenty of time outdoors playing with siblings and friends, and eating fresh fruits and vegetables from the garden. We’ll take trips to Nevada and California to visit grandparents and cousins, and we’ll learn about different cultures by traveling to places they’ve never been, and trying local foods. They’ll learn bible verses and fun worship songs, and practice learning to trust God and do what is right, even when times are hard. We will have lots of conversations, share our thoughts and feelings, challenge each other, celebrate victories together, and explore ways to help each other solve problems. Most importantly, though, we will love your child immensely and work hard to provide him/her with a joy-filled life.

And as for you, you are carrying your child. He or she may look like you and have unique personality traits like yours. And it is you who will choose the adoptive family best suited to raise them. You are already an invaluable and unmatchable piece of your child’s wellbeing and future. We intend to honor and carry out the good work you’ve begun. And while it is likely that your child will want to know about you and have a relationship with you, we also wonder if you might be curious about how they will grow and develop. So, in whatever capacity you are comfortable staying in touch, and/or building and maintaining a relationship, we are open to that. But no matter what, know that your child will know of the positive impact your strength, bravery, and heartfelt decision has made on his or her life.

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

Adoption has been a dream of each of ours since before we met. Daryl has a younger brother who was adopted when Daryl was 6 years old, and Shirlee has always wanted to be a parent of an adopted child. Together, we hope to provide a safe, loving home for at least one or two children. We feel we have a gift for caring for blended families, and that we have an ability to relate to people of different ages, backgrounds, strengths and weaknesses, and that we can encourage and help them to engage in ways where feelings of fear or insecurity may stifle that. We do this at work – mentoring individuals and fostering teams. We do this with relatives – engaging with nieces and nephews, in-laws, parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins. We also do this in social settings – people are happy to invite us, and tell us we make newcomers feel safe, heard and valued. We love children! They bring us joy, and we love teaching them, playing with them, nurturing their innate curiosities, discovering their unique personalities and developing their talents. We also enjoy challenging their minds, and supporting them as they continuously learn, develop and grow.

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About Shirlee, from Daryl

When I first met Shirlee I remember being captivated by her loving spirit and her great sense of humor. I think much of this comes from being the only girl in a family of 5 children – as the oldest child, she’s had to learn to be emotionally flexible. I appreciate that she loves spending time with loved ones, young children, and seniors. It’s from this joy of being with family and friends that I’ve personally grown to see the importance of balancing life to make sure that we take time to enjoy life with others.

Outside of spending time with friends and family, Shirlee loves deep conversations about relationships, spirituality, and human development. Though she’s a novice at it, she enjoys gardening. But mostly she enjoys understanding how others find joy and hearing their stories. Though I’d describe our 8 years of marriage as wonderful, life hasn’t always been easy for us. It’s through these difficult times that I’ve been able to experience Shirlee’s strength and emotional fortitude. I find myself impressed by the calm she exhibits when confronted with turmoil and appreciate the peace that she brings to our family.

I realize this small snapshot isn’t able to fully encapsulate what it’s been like to have Shirlee in my life – but I am truly grateful that I’ve met her and get to spend my life with her.

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About Daryl, from Shirlee

Daryl is caring, generous and loves to help people in need. He is smart, works hard and is very social. When not working, he spends his time reading, baking bread, staying up-to-date on current events and traveling. A couple of things I love most about him are his tender heart toward living things, especially children and animals, and his passion for food.

At a party or social event, if someone is sitting alone, he’ll immediately go to them and start up a conversation. He asks good questions, and enjoys hearing stories about their life. He has a great memory, so is typically able to recall specifics and pick up where they left off during their next interaction.

Daryl is also a great story teller. He has a great imagination and is quite animated when telling them. Children and adults alike enjoy hearing his stories, because we never know where his adventure will take us. We all are often surprised and amused by how the story unfolds as he incorporates the children’s silly suggestions and character descriptions into his story. In addition to storytelling, our youngest nieces and nephews love it when he visits, and immediately ask him to give them “airplane rides,” where he puts them in an empty laundry basket, pushes them jerkily around the floor, then lifts them off into the air for a gentle, yet “turbulent” ride.

Daryl’s all-time favorite thing is food, and it doesn’t take much time for anyone to realize this. He is skilled at finding the best, most authentic, ethnic restaurants in a city or town, ordering a smorgasbord of too many delicious dishes, and then locking away in his memory the texture and flavor profile of each one. He is an encyclopedia of knowledge when it comes to flavors and cooking techniques, not only from different countries, but also the specific regions of each country.

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Our Families

We love our families! They are very important to us. We are currently spread across the US, but make a priority of visiting each other throughout the year, and Face-Timing in between. Daryl’s family includes his mom, dad and younger brother. His brother is 3 years younger, and was adopted when Daryl was 6 years old. Daryl’s brother has a long-time girlfriend, and two little dogs. Shirlee has a large family with mom, dad, four younger brothers, three sisters-in-law, and 10 nieces and nephews ranging in age from two to fourteen years old. Both of our families love to eat, play games, and tease one another. Daryl’s family enjoys trying different cuisines from various restaurants, hoping to find the best one of each type. They love to read, attend theater and musical events, travel, and learn about different cultures. They are generous and fun-loving and have been patiently waiting for a grandchild to spoil, spend time with, and love on. Shirlee’s family enjoys family get-togethers and potluck-style backyard barbecues, outdoor sports and games, and indoor card and board games. Because of the large number of children in her family, Shirlee’s parents’ house is full of books, toys, puzzles, games and ice cream.

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Our Home

We live in a relatively new apartment complex nestled in a peaceful neighborhood in Connecticut. The buildings are spread out and the grounds are pristine. We enjoy walking around, admiring the nuances of nature during each changing season. Our home is on the third floor, shared with one neighbor. It is spacious and modern, and contains one bedroom, one bathroom, and an open kitchen/living room. We have a beautiful view of the natural landscape, complete with trees that provide shelter to a family of squirrels and a wide variety of birds. Our community is made up of singles, families with young children, recent retirees, and senior citizens. We’ve found them to be friendly, fun and helpful when we’ve needed anything. Management prides itself on fostering a family-like community, and provides us with regular social opportunities like card games, book clubs, and occasionally even breakfast! The complex also contains a swimming pool and playground, dog parks & community gardens. While we love where we live, and appreciate the friendships we’ve made, we also look forward to settling into our future home one day soon. We’re looking forward to having plenty of space inside and a large backyard for your child to run around and explore, and we all enjoy barbecuing and gardening.

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Our Lifestyle

We try to approach life thoughtfully and educate ourselves about the world, but we also love to laugh and tease each other. We encourage one another to be the best we can be, and not worry about things we cannot control. We also try to maintain a healthy and balanced lifestyle where we work hard during the week, and enjoy leisure activities on weekends. During the week, Daryl works from home while Shirlee completes household chores, appointment scheduling, grocery shopping, healthy meal preparation, and maintaining the social calendar. After dinner, we take walks around our neighborhood or exercise in our apartment community’s gym. From there, we watch TV, read books or play a game before preparing for our favorite nighttime activity – sleeping! Occasionally we have dinner with friends, or attend a church function, but we prefer to save those for weekends. On weekends we spend time with close friends, participate in social events within our apartment and church community, and attend local baseball and soccer games. We also take hikes, explore new places, and try different restaurants. We are very family-oriented, so we take any opportunity possible to visit our immediate and extended families.

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Our Personalities

Shirlee has a light-hearted, optimistic, “don’t worry unless it’s necessary” personality. She likes to remain in the present moment, taking in the sights, sounds and feelings around her. She looks for humor and irony in situations where things don’t go as planned, and often responds with a joke or touch of sarcasm. In uncertain circumstances, she will typically be agreeable and try to improve the mood around her. She likes to plan, organize, and be prepared. She is a good listener and cares deeply about the wellbeing of others.

Daryl is kind, loving and has a great sense of humor. He is also analytical and can be serious. His inclination is to attend first to matters of business and then take time to enjoy life. He often envisions a worst case scenario and carefully plans accordingly. He’s future-focused and likes to do things well, with accuracy, and few mistakes. If something goes wrong, he assesses to determine the cause of the breakdown and then works to ensure it won’t happen again. In uncertain circumstances he becomes more of a leader, taking charge of the situation and caring for the people involved.

We are both good-natured and enjoy social settings, where we get to meet new people and hear their stories. We like learning new games, and teaching others the ones we already know. Shirlee’s favorites are word games, while Daryl likes cooperative and strategy games.

Our different personalities sometimes caused us frustration, but by blending our perspectives and unique approaches to problem solving, we end up with better outcomes than we envisioned! We look forward to working together to raise your precious child, and we’re curious as to how his/her personality and unique traits will influence, enrich and round out our family dynamic.

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Family Traditions

We love to celebrate! In part because Shirlee loves to decorate, host small gatherings of family and friends, plan fun events, bake and cook! But also because it requires us to break from the business of daily life to remember, honor, connect with and celebrate the people, historical events and cultural norms that make us unique and our backgrounds strong. In our family, we celebrate many things. We celebrate birthdays for the importance and value of human life and the richness that each individual contributes to our family and the world around them. We also celebrate traditional American holidays like Christmas, Thanksgiving, Halloween and Easter by decorating, preparing traditional foods, exchanging gifts and gathering with family and friends. Because we are Christian, we also focus on the reason behind Christmas and Easter – the birth and resurrection of Jesus – and its importance to each of us, personally. In addition to these typical holidays, we also observe cultural holidays, especially those specific to individuals in our household. For instance, Daryl’s family comes from China. As a result, we celebrate Chinese New Year by sharing a native dish called hot pot with our close friends. We look forward to celebrating our children and the cultural traditions they will bring to our family. We want them to be well connected to their birth culture – as this ties them to who they are and what makes them unique and special.

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Vacations and Leisure Time

We love to travel! Well, Daryl loves to travel. He says there’s a feeling of exhilaration that overwhelms him when he sets foot in a big city, small town, or any other region of the world – a feeling which cannot be replicated by any other experience. It may have something to do with his natural curiosity for history, culture, and local cuisine. He also enjoys the challenge of learning languages, and even speaking with locals for practice! As a result of exploring with him, Shirlee has grown to appreciate traveling, too, and has even become adept at reading maps and navigating public transportation systems. She has also overcome fears and anxieties which used to cause her to avoid being in unfamiliar places and trying new things. Daryl is excited to share his passion for exploring new places with his family. He’ll equip them with maps and little backpacks to safely transport their collected treasures. He’ll teach them to navigate public transportation systems, find the tastiest cuisines, and encourage them to enjoy the experience of trying new things.

Shirlee’s favorite way to spend vacation and leisure time is surrounded by family. Specifically, everyone in one place such as someone’s home, a rented cabin, or cluster of campsites where everyone can chat, play games, hike, kayak, tell stories, laugh, eat together and tease each other.

As you can see, we have different opinions on the best way to spend our leisure time, but we truly appreciate and find value in each other’s preferences and, as a result, enjoy a well-rounded blend of vacation and leisure styles. We can’t help but get excited over the thought of creating cherished memories and sharing these joy-filled experiences with your child, too

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Our Careers

Shirlee received her bachelor’s degree in nutrition, an area of study that she loves. In her late teens, she got very sick and, in an effort to heal, began incorporating healthy diet and lifestyle habits into her daily routine. She was surprised and thrilled to experience a full and quick recovery, which impressed even her doctors. This unexpected health discovery resulted in a newfound passion and desire to ensure others struggling with chronic ailments might also find help. So, she dedicated herself to learning about how foods can provide nourishment, improve moods, minds and bodies, and also about food science, food service, hospitality, and cooking! Since college, Shirlee has worked in a variety of related fields, such as counseling patients through holistic wellness programs, managing food service teams in hospitals and public schools, and managing a naturopathic doctor’s office. She loves helping people in this capacity, and has found deep fulfillment in her work. Most importantly, though, she looks forward to bonding with your child through food, teaching them to cook and bake, exposing them to the many tastes and textures of different foods, and educating them on the healing properties of fruits, vegetables and animal products.

Daryl’s current job involves making self-driving car technology safe to use. His career passions are in science and engineering, and using them to help both people and the environment. In addition, he enjoys teaching and mentoring kids and adults to help them understand the deeper mysteries of the universe. For example, did you know that there are colors we can’t see because our eyes can only detect some of the colors on the spectrum?! Daryl looks forward to sharing his passion for understanding and exploring the natural world with your child. He envisions taking them on nature hikes to observe insects and plant life and learn about their unique traits and the ways they help each other to survive.

We’re very curious about what your child’s passions and interests will be. We’re excited to help them discover their talents, and to support them as they pursue and achieve their dreams.

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Racial and Cultural Diversity

We are constantly fascinated by the differences and similarities of different races, ethnicities and cultures. We love learning about them by participating in cultural events and holidays, spending time in diverse communities, and hearing stories from individuals. Our favorite way of connecting with people of different cultures is through their food! We were both fortunate to grow up in communities with plenty of diversity, and have also spent periods of time traveling in different regions of the world, such as Asia (including India), Europe, as well as close by through the US, Canada, and Mexico. With each experience, we’ve seen firsthand the unique set of cultural norms that provide a richness, hospitality and beauty unique to each one. Unfortunately, we’ve also seen ugliness that can arise in different cultures too, including our own. In our family, we continuously open our hearts and minds to learn and understand more, to acknowledge areas that need improvement, and to celebrate the qualities that make each culture unique and beautiful. We want to be intentional about helping to heal the gap caused by misunderstandings and fear.

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Our Faith

Our faith is probably the most important thing to us. It is by trusting in a God who loves us, cares for us, forgives our deepest wrong-doings, and gently guides us into a better way of life, that we are able to live a more fulfilling life. And as we spend time in the stillness and quiet, sharing with him our concerns and fears, thanking him for the good things he’s done, and asking for his will
to be done in our lives, he reminds us that he is with us, has a plan for our lives, and a vision for our future.

We are Christians, and though we don’t ascribe to a particular denomination, we do seek to understand the Bible and incorporate its teachings into our daily lives. We believe in a loving, living God, in Jesus who lived on the earth deeply caring for the ones struggling most, and in the Holy Spirit who guides and helps us as we try to live out our days the best we can.

We attend church services on Sundays and Bible studies during the week. We find deep value in meeting regularly with our small group, where our friends, who are more like family, help us through struggles, share in our victories, and encourage us to make wise decisions, honor God with our time and resources, and continue to know and trust Him.

We know that your child will love making friends in Sunday school, learning Bible stories, singing worship songs, and doing arts & crafts. And we look forward to helping him or her learn to trust God, wait patiently for his guidance and answers, and to care well for others in need.

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Our Hobbies

Together we enjoy traveling, eating, watching crime and mystery shows, playing games, walking and hiking. We were fortunate to spend a year in China teaching English to elementary aged students. During that time we traveled to Hong Kong, Singapore, Thailand, Laos, Japan, and Korea. We have also spent time in India, where we attended a good friend’s wedding, and we recently drove across the country from California to our new home in Connecticut. Since moving to Connecticut, we’ve traveled throughout New England, exploring different states and their unique, beautiful nuances. We’ve also discovered plenty of hiking spots, and taken full advantage of the cuisine: the most delicious fresh seafood, authentic Italian, and renowned pizza!

Individually, Shirlee likes to be home, organizing, planning events, tidying, preparing meals, baking, gardening and doing puzzles. Her favorite garden hobby is attending to her fairy garden, where she arranges tiny little figurines with interesting looking, brightly colored plants to make a fun, whimsical mini world. In addition, she once spent a year baking and decorating a special birthday cake for each of her nieces and nephews. They got to choose the flavors and theme, and she took on the challenge of creating the masterpiece.

Daryl likes to play the piano, read, study new subjects, learn languages, bake bread, and listen to books on tape. His current focus is on creating the perfect bread experience: a crispy, golden brown crust and soft, springy middle filled with the perfect amount of air pockets. He does good work, but claims he hasn’t mastered the recipe yet!

We look forward to when your child will join us in participating in our favorite hobbies, and we are excited to help them discover their favorite pastimes, pursue their interests and creative outlets, and just share in the things that bring them joy.

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Our Promise to You

Our goal for your child is to help him/her grow up into a healthy, happy, loving and confident adult who will make a positive impact on the world around them. In an effort to accomplish this, we promise to work hard to provide them with a safe, healthy, loving home and community environment where they can laugh, play and be challenged. They will be free to make mistakes, but from them we’ll guide them to learn and grow. We will teach them to understand right and wrong, and to make wise decisions. We will foster healthy relationships with them, and help them to know the difference between healthy and unhealthy ones. We will challenge them to become the very best version of themselves possible – in body, mind and soul. We will teach them, by example, to trust God, and listen for His whispering voice and loving guidance. We will laugh together and tease each other, because a developed sense of humor is a very important tool for managing the hardest parts of life, relaxing, and also for connecting with others.

Message Daryl and Shirlee

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

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  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!