How to Choose What’s Right for You

If you’re considering adoption, one of the most important decisions you’ll make is whether to have an open, semi-open, or closed adoption.

You might be wondering:

“Will I get to stay in contact with my baby?”
“Can I keep this private?”
“What happens after I choose?”

The good news is — you get to decide.

There’s no right or wrong answer. It’s about what feels best for you now and in the future. Let’s walk through what each option means and how to make the choice that fits your comfort and goals.

What Is Open Adoption?

In an open adoption, you and the adoptive family share contact. You might:

• Exchange names and contact information
• Text or email before and after birth
• Share photos or updates over time
• Have phone calls or in-person visits
• Build a lifelong relationship — if that’s what you both want

This arrangement is flexible and guided by mutual agreement. Many birth mothers say open adoption gives them peace of mind and connection without parenting responsibility.

What Is Semi-Open Adoption?

Semi-open adoption gives you the ability to stay informed — without direct contact.

Typically, this includes:

• Photos and letters shared through ANLC
• Non-identifying communication
• Some updates during key moments (birthdays, milestones, etc.)

You know your baby is loved and safe — but you can maintain privacy and boundaries.

What Is Closed Adoption?

In a closed adoption, there is no contact or identifying information shared between you and the adoptive family.

You may choose this if:

• You want full privacy
• The pregnancy was traumatic or unexpected
• You need distance to heal
• You’re not ready for contact now (you can revisit this later)

You can still write a letter to your baby or create a keepsake if you’d like. ANLC can hold it on file in case your child seeks contact years later.

Can I Change My Mind Later?

In many cases, yes. While legal adoption paperwork is final, the type of contact you have with the family may evolve over time — as long as both sides agree.

Some birth mothers choose closed adoption now but reconnect later. Others start with frequent contact, then step back for personal reasons. Your needs are valid — and we’ll support you through every phase.

How Does Adoption Network Help?

At Adoption Network, we:

• Explain your options in a no-pressure, private way
• Match you with families who share your openness preferences
• Create a post-placement communication plan you’re comfortable with
• Make sure everything is documented clearly
• Respect your wishes — even if they change over time

You’ll never be forced into more or less contact than you want.

Key Adoption Agency Considerations

Whether you want to stay connected, keep things private, or find something in between — you’re in charge.

Choosing adoption doesn’t mean giving up control. In fact, it’s the opposite: you get to choose your plan, your family, and your level of contact — with support every step of the way.