Our use of the terms “putting up” or “giving up” does not reflect how we feel about adoptive placement. These terms remain the most widely used search terms for those who are considering adoption for their baby, and we wish to reach all who seek this important information.
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At some point during your adoption planning, you may wonder, ‘Can I change my mind?’ Here’s some information to help you know whether you’ve made the right choice about adoption.
Adoption is an important decision, and ultimately a mother’s choice. If at any point in the pregnancy you feel you should parent the child instead of the adoptive parents, yes, you have the right to change your mind. Also, if you feel unsure about the adoptive parent or parents, you may raise your concerns with your adoption professional, to decide whether or not this is the right home for your child.
If you need to talk to someone immediately about your options, let us help you get connected to an adoption professional.
After the baby is born, you have a determined amount of time to decide about the adoption, in accordance with your state laws. If you do change your mind, the case will be taken to court and a judge will decide who will be awarded parental custody of the child. The longer you wait to decide, the harder it may be to convince the court that you should have custody of the child. Once the court has awarded legal custody to the adoptive parents, you can no longer change your mind.
When a mother terminates an adoption after being matched with the adoptive parents, it is often referred to as a ‘disrupted adoption.’ Disrupted adoptions can be very painful for everyone involved. Adoptive parents and birth mothers place a great deal of trust in each other when deciding on adoption. Adoptive parents take big emotional and financial risks when adopting, so it is important to educate yourself now, to avoid a disrupted adoption at all costs.
How do you know if adoption is the right choice for you and your child? Here are some of the most common deciding factors:
During pregnancy, there are a range of emotions you may be dealing with, all of which make it difficult to make the right decision for you and your child. Becoming a parent, no matter how much you want to, may or may not be the right choice. The best thing to do is prepare yourself with as much information as possible, seek support for your decision, and understand that this is a tough decision to make. Even on the right path, there will be moments of doubt.
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