Blogs from Birth Mothers

I was 19 when I found out I was pregnant. I felt like my entire life was crashing down around me. I felt shame, anxiety, worry, and so many more emotions all at once. This was never a part of the plan. The birthfather was unsupportive and chose not to be a part of my pregnancy. My family was extremely disappointed in me…

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5 Simple Ways You Can Help Children in the Foster Care System

You may think that the only way to help children in the foster care system is to become a foster…

Should Birth Fathers Have a Say in Adoption?

I just read an article on The Salt Lake Tribune about Open Adoption and it was informative. For those of…

What Does Adoption Mean to a Birthmother?

Adoption means many things to many people, none more animated than those in the adoption triad. What does adoption mean…

When Your Daughter Wants to Meet Her Birth Mom

My 4 year old wants to meet her birth mom. It came. The question I thought I would have a…

Finding Balance in Open Adoption Relationships

When it comes to open adoption relationships, people are curious. Many have asked me, “What do you say to your…

Birth Mother Regrets: Learning to Let Go

They say the pain will go away. But this birth mother regrets her choice. “If they offered to give Cricket…

Gay or Straight, Adoptive Families Have Much in Common

Whether you’re gay or straight, or your child is adopted or biologically yours, there are things our families have in common.…

Placed for Adoption: Only Child Out of Seven

I was the only child out of seven placed for adoption by my birth mother. Labeled a ‘troubled woman’, my…

Learning to Be Happy For Others When You Are Unable to Conceive

It finally happened…someone told me they were pregnant and instead of jealousy, sadness and thoughts of why? I truly felt joy! I…

Biracial Adoption and Reluctant Family Members

You’ve been matched and are eager to share the happy news with your family! Prospective adoptive parents looking for support…

A Birth Mom She Can Be Proud Of

I am a birth mom. Some things about my identity are obvious and unremarkable. I am a female, a daughter,…

Adoption Pictures Show Birth Mother Pain

I came across some heart-wrenching adoption pictures of our son’s birth mother. While looking through old pictures to attach to…

Should You Hire an Adoption Consultant?

The world of adoption can be a confusing one for hopeful Adoptive Parents. Adoption is a legal process, but the…

My Daughter’s Birth Father

Birth mother, Haley Kirkpatrick, shares her experience with the birth father, who wanted no involvement with the pregnancy or birth of their child.…

Birth Father Involvement: One Birth Mother’s Struggle

A negative experience with the birth father isn’t uncommon. Like many other birth moms, I had a negative experience with…

Something To Consider When Talking About Adoption: An Adoptive Parent’s Perspective

Lost pregnancies, tracking cycles, scheduled sex, and injecting hormones strong enough to take down a race horse – it’s enough…

Ask the Adoption Coach: Approaching Your Child’s Birth Mother About Prenatal Exposure to Substances

Reader: My 9-yo child is having difficulties, ADD, anger issues. I’m all over it – seeing specialists, started therapy. I…

Ask the Adoption Coach: Open or Closed Adoption?

Reader: Open adoption or private adoption? New to this site with regard to my daughter who is only 15. She…

Ask the Adoption Coach: Introducing My Birth Son to My Children

Reader: Any advice on how to introduce my 27-year-old birth son to my 6 & 2-year-old that have never been…

Ask the Adoption Coach: Meeting My Birth Daughter

Reader: Next month I am going to be meeting with my daughter that I placed for adoption, almost 20 years…

Origin Stories and Adoption

At times, origin stories and adoption intertwine. My placed son, Cricket, has become very interested in origin stories. He shares…

What Happens After Adoption?

When deciding to place a child with an adoptive family, there may be a lot of unanswered questions about what…

How Soon After Birth do Adoptive Parents Take the Baby?

If you have made a private adoption plan prior to giving birth, the adoptive parents typically take the baby home directly from…

Recovery After Delivery

After your baby arrives your body changes as it returns to your pre-pregnancy state. The bigger the baby, the tougher…

Coping with Postpartum Depression

You’ve just had a baby. You were expecting to look and feel like the celebrity moms that grace the covers…

Post Adoption: Coping with Your Child’s Absence During the Holidays

What if every year, at every celebration, there was something missing? What if no one knew you felt that way?…

Will There be Counseling Available to Me After Adoption Placement?

This seemingly simple question can actually be very complicated. Is there counseling available? Sure. No problem. Will it automatically be…

The Birthmother Experience: What We Want Our Birth Child To Know About Us

When we are making the decision to place our child for adoption, and quite frankly for years after, we are…

The Birthmother Experience: What Does Healing Mean To Us

I was talking with someone about my adoption journey recently and I was stopped in my tracks by the question…

The Birthmother Experience: We Didn’t Give Up

I can’t tell you how many times someone has said to me “so you gave up your baby for adoption.”…

The Birthmother Experience: How Do Birth Mothers Feel Seeing Pictures and Receiving Updates of Their Child?

How Do Birth Mothers Feel Seeing Pictures and Receiving Updates of Their Child How Do Birth Mothers Feel NOT Seeing…

What It Feels Like Not Receiving Updates/Pictures of Our Child – The Birthmother Experience

We held up our end of the deal, but you aren’t holding up yours. Maybe you are busy, maybe you…

Oh The Places You’ll Go – What We Have Accomplished Since Placing

“There is nothing more powerful or radical or stunningly beautiful than a woman who chooses to rebuild her life day…

9 Things We Want Adoptive Parents To Know About Us

The relationship between adoptive parents and birth parents can sometimes be very difficult to navigate. Although we are going through…

Adoption in one word

Adoption is often times a beautifully complex journey for both adopting parents and the birth parents. It can be a…

Does placing my baby for adoption make me a bad person?

When I was making the decision whether or not to place my baby for adoption, I struggled with this same…

Do I Get To Meet The Adoptive Parents?

In most domestic adoption situations, if you want, you can choose the adoptive parent(s). This may be done through reviewing adoptive parent(s) profiles at…

Adoption Choices for Expectant Parents

There are many adoption choices you will be asked to make during your pregnancy. Once you start your adoption plan,…

Dealing with Unsupportive Parents and Family Members

On both ends of the adoption spectrum, you may deal with unsupportive family members and parents. Whether you’re an expectant…

Adoption Disruption: How to Financially Protect Yourself

During the adoption process, sometimes things don’t always go as planned. There are many factors involved, and sometimes the needs,…

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