Bruce

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

I will raise your child in a home full of love, provide them with support, and give them every opportunity to become the amazing person you dream them to be. I promise that you will be honored, cherished, and celebrated each day of your child’s life.

Bruce

from North Carolina

Bruce

Ancestry: Scottish, English

Religion: Christian

Occupation: College Professor

Education: PhD, MSc

Hobbies: Hiking, Sailing, Reading, Writing

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

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Dear Friend:

As parents, all we really want is to do the best we can for our children. I do not know what has brought you here today and I can only imagine how difficult this decision will be for you to make. What I can do is to promise you, that I will raise your child in a home full of love, provide them with support, and give them every opportunity to become the amazing person you dream them to be. I promise that you will be honored, cherished, and celebrated each day of your child’s life.

I haven’t just always wanted kids, I have always wanted to adopt. My career and the financial stability that it provides will allow me to provide and encourage your child in whatever their interests may become. My sister was adopted when she was a baby and we have always celebrated that special day when she became a part of our family. It’s a family holiday that we call “Happy Day,” and even though it’s been quite a few years since she joined our family we still have “Happy Day” celebrations. My sister is so excited to have someone who will have a “Happy Day” celebration and she can relate with them about being adopted. I can’t wait to carry on this family tradition and my parents are so excited to welcome your child into our family that they are already buying presents. They even have a swing set in the backyard just waiting for the day your child is big enough to play on it.

My family and friends are truly a blessing. When I told my parents about my plans to adopt, my mom literally screamed with glee and began planning for the baby’s arrival. She has even started to cross stitch a Christmas stocking to go along with the rest of the family. My dad is eagerly waiting, and calling me daily for updates. My sister Amanda and her husband Jeff are the aunt and uncle you wanted as a kid. They are loving and fun and their positive energy pulls everyone in. Their two daughters, my nieces, exemplify sweetness. The oldest is only three, but she Facetimes me at least once a week for a “Baby Shark” or “Frozen” dance party.

From growing up as a missionary kid overseas and my travels, I have developed a large group of friends who I hesitate to call friends because they are more like a family. Your child is going to experience so much love and so many new cultures thanks to Aunt Michele and Uncle Ronnie in the Netherlands, Aunt Priscilla and Uncle Preben in Norway, Aunt Lacy in Australia, Uncle Carlos in Spain, Aunt Amanda and Uncle Sadra in Ireland, or Uncle Sabo in Niger. There will be no shortage of people to love on your baby. The community where I live and my network of friends is very diverse and will provide your child with many opportunities to see other children and families that look like them. I will include aspects of your child’s culture into our household so that they know who they are and where they come from. While I do not know what culture this will be yet, I am excited about learning about your culture alongside your child and exploring our community with them.

I babysat my three-year-old niece for two and a half weeks this past winter. In the afternoons she would want to have a dance party (I was told that I’m Anna because she has to be Elsa) and we would bust out our best moves for as long as she wanted to go. In the evening she would grab a book and bring it to me to read, but she always wanted me to tell her stories that involved her as a princess with a pet unicorn. When she went home I sat in my living room, experiencing the sound of silence for the first time in weeks and all I could think of is that I wanted a child of my own.

There will be no shortage of books being read to your child, and I can’t wait until they are old enough to have them read along. I will encourage them to pursue their passions and interests. If they want to play soccer, then I will happily drive them to each practice and I will stand on the sideline cheering loudly at every game. If they want to take dance lessons, art classes, or music classes, I will be there to support them through all of it, even if that means I have to listen to weeks of “Row, Row, Row Your Boat” being played on an out of tune clarinet.

Currently, I am a tenured professor at a university. A career as a professor allows me to engage my hobbies of reading and writing daily. I always explain my choice of careers as I took my hobbies and zest for life and found the one thing that lets me do all of it. I love what I do and the students I have trained have gone on to make big, positive impacts on their communities. I am lucky enough to have a career and an employer that allows me a great deal of flexibility that will allow me to schedule my life around my child’s. During the summer, the freedom of three months paid vacation allows me and my children to spend time with their cousins, aunt and uncle, and grandparents. An added bonus is that I teach in a university where children are celebrated. It is not unusual to see children of faculty members running down the hall, ducking into everyone’s offices to say hello and search out who has the best candy and toys.

I really love my life and can’t wait to be a father to your child, to love and care for them and provide them with a wonderful childhood as my parents did for me, and yes, to spoil a little as was well.

Thank you,
Bruce

Q&A

Tell us about your home and neighborhood.

My neighborhood is an oasis in a big city. It’s the kind of place where kids still play in the street and the neighborhood has a block party for every major holiday. It is quiet and safe, with access to the park and its playgrounds only a few feet away. It has three bedrooms with plenty of room to play. What helps to make the house a home is the third bedroom that opens to the backyard and it will make a great playroom. Between lots of children that live nearby, a park right behind our house, and an amazing school district, this is a wonderful place for a child to live and make lots of happy childhood memories.

Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.

I have a boxer named Sawyer who is one of the sweetest dogs you will ever meet. When I was looking for a dog, I wanted to make sure that I found one that was great with kids and the animal shelter had posted a picture of Sawyer playing unicorn dress up with the foster family’s young daughter and I knew he was the one for me. Over Christmas, my whole family spent a week together and Sawyer followed my two nieces around the entire time. He has a bed next to mine, but most nights he does his best to sneak into my bed without me noticing and I never have the heart to kick him off.

What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?

I want to teach my child that there is love in the world and that we have gifts of compassion and support so we help try to make the world a better place. They will know that no matter what, they have a home to come back to where they are loved and appreciated. I think in the world today, that is something that we could all use more of. I also want to teach my child to have a zest for life and encourage and foster their creative and independent sides. There are so many awesome things in the world to see, I want to make sure that they are ready to find them and appreciate them.

What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?

My sister was adopted as a baby. Although we never knew who her birth mother was, each year we had a “Happy Day” where we celebrated the adoption. One thing that was always said was that my sister’s birth mother was a brave, strong, and kind woman who did what she thought was best for my sister and allowed her to come live with us. In talking with my sister now, she says that the discussion of her birth mother in that was always comforting to her. I will raise your child to know you and how much you love them.

Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.

My parents were missionaries when I was growing up, so the church has always been an active part of my life. When I moved to my city, I started attending a nearby church that had been a supporter of my parents since I was a kid. This has been great as it immediately gave me a family and set of friends nearby. I spend some of my free time each month volunteering with my church, helping to manage its finances, and working to raise money for community projects in Africa that my parents are involved with. Most recently, this included a medical ministry in the Sahara where doctors treated people in the day and my father ministered at night.

What are your Hobbies?

My parents always encouraged my inquisitive side, just as I plan to do for your baby. As a kid, I would read books and become fascinated by the worlds they would create. I will read almost anything, from Nancy Drew to Game of Thorns and back again, but my favorite has always been the Chronicles of Narnia series. As an adult, my constant reading has given me an interest in the writing process. I always have a pen and a piece of paper in my pocket for whatever I am working on at the moment. I also enjoy hiking and try to go on a hike at least once a week. I’ve even hiked the 500 miles of the Camino de Santiago across Spain three times. More recently I have started to learn to sail. I’m hoping to get a sailboat that will allow for some family weekends to be spent on the water, exploring the nearby coastal areas and their communities. One of the things that I really enjoy but am pretty bad at is drawing and painting. I took a couple of art classes in college and never could develop much of a technique, but it is still really fun to try. I am a little better at photography and my walls are covered with photos I have taken over the years, either of far off countries or my two nieces and four godchildren.

Describe your last vacation and/or day trip.

Last summer I took a big vacation to the Netherlands and Norway. One of my closest childhood friends lives in the Netherlands with their spouse and three kids. When the first was born I was asked to be the godfather and each year since I have taken a week to go visit them and ensure that I have a strong relationship with all three. It was a week of playing on the swings, going to the beach, reading books to them, and learning about ladybugs, but it was such a fun trip and experience.

Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?

My job as a professor gives me more flexibility than most people will ever have in their jobs. I teach 9 months out of the year, which gives me summers completely free to spend with your child. During the 9 months, the time I am required to spend on campus is fairly limited and can be done in a day, two at the most. This will allow me to spend most of my time at home with him or her.

Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.

On the days that I do work on campus, I have some amazing day-care options. The university provides a day-care benefit. There are two day-cares that I have looked at that I really like. One is conducted entirely in a foreign language (either Spanish, Chinese, or French). I grew up speaking Spanish and Russian, so I like that my child will grow up bilingual and with an appreciation for all communities. The other is very arts and learning-focused where all of the workers are certified teachers.

When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?

My thoughts to you are, thank you for allowing me to love and raise your child as my own. I promise that I will do absolutely everything I can for your child to be sure they are loved and cared for. Each time I hold your child in my arms, I will think of you and how blessed I am and thankful to you for choosing me.

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