Ask the Adoption Coach: Explaining Adoption to a Developmentally Delayed Child

Reader: My husband and I adopted our 6 year old son from Ethiopia. He came home at 14 months. At age 3.5 he was diagnosed with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) and Sensory Processing Disorder (SPD). He is bright, but not yet at the point of understanding that all babies grow in tummies, let alone that some babies live with their birth mothers, others, including him, are adopted. Are there any resources for explaining adoption to kids with developmental delays, or should I just try to keep it simpl...

Ask The Adoption Coach: Adoption Books

Reader: I am looking for a good kids book to help my biological child age 9 understand the adoption of his younger sister. Any suggestions would be welcomed.Adoption Coach:Dear Reader:Congrats on adding to your family through adoption! You are wise to carefully consider your son’s feelings and adoption education.First, be prepared to acknowledge, validate, and discuss your son’s range of feelings regarding the addition of a sister. It’s important to establish an environment of openness in your h...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Struggling With Open Adoption

Reader: I have an issue I would like some advice if possible. We are foster parents and have been for almost 14 years.We adopted our daughter at age 7 she came to us at age 4. We were open to a semi-open adoption and were giving bio mom pictures and emails, but this woman kept wanting more (and yes, I do understand and empathize with her); however, our daughter has stabilized and continues to make strides with us. This woman has said nasty things about me on anti CAS sites and then expects more...

Ask The Adoption Coach: Adoption and Obituaries

Reader: I have a question that although unpleasant I would appreciate some input. As a mother in the process of an adoption, and as the wife of an adopted person, (who’s biological sister passed away recently) we have had to discuss this. Is it okay, or helpful, or just plain wrong to ever include info about the biological family in an adopted person’s obituary? I know some adoptions are open and some are closed, and I am thinking about adults who later meet their birth parents and somehow wanti...

Ask the Adoption Coach: Social Media is Complicating Our Open Adoption

I am looking for some advice/input from other adoptive parents and birth parents on an unusual situation I have found myself in. My daughter’s birth parents live in the same town that we do. She is seventeen months old, and was a month old when we adopted her through the local foster system. We have an open adoption, with regular emails back and forth, and we are very open to having visits in the future, but M and J are not comfortable with the idea yet as they kept the pregnancy a secret. Despi...