Does placing my baby for adoption make me a bad person?

When I was making the decision whether or not to place my baby for adoption, I struggled with this same question. Unfortunately, there is a lot of shame placed on women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. We are oftentimes thought of as irresponsible and careless. On top of that shame placed on us, there is still ignorance about adoption that creates an additional stigma. Society tells us that women who place their babies are taking the easy way out, or are running away from their respons...

Adoption in one word

Adoption is often times a beautifully complex journey for both adopting parents and the birth parents. It can be a time filled with joy, love, and hope but also a time of uncertainty, lack of control, and anxiety. Everyone’s adoption journey is so different and unique. When I think of adoption, the word that comes to my mind is family. I have had such a positive experience and my adoption feels like family. I asked birth mothers to think of one word that came to their mind when they though...

9 Things We Want Adoptive Parents To Know About Us

The relationship between adoptive parents and birth parents can sometimes be very difficult to navigate. Although we are going through this journey together, it can sometimes feel like we are in two completely different worlds. Understanding one another can help to break down the barriers that can come up throughout the process. I asked birthmothers in our Healing Hearts group what they wished adoptive parents knew about birth parents and here are some of the things they said. WE ARE EX...

Oh The Places You'll Go - What We Have Accomplished Since Placing

“There is nothing more powerful or radical or stunningly beautiful than a woman who chooses to rebuild her life day after day. No matter how many pieces there are to pick up or how many mistakes she must spin into gold.” – Carol Alwill Leyba Placing a child is life changing in a number of ways. It can put your past, present, and future into a whole new perspective. After placing, I remember sitting down with my counselor and talking with her about the things I wanted to do with my li...

What It Feels Like Not Receiving Updates/Pictures of Our Child - The Birthmother Experience

We held up our end of the deal, but you aren’t holding up yours. Maybe you are busy, maybe you forgot about us, or maybe it isn’t a priority. But we haven’t forgotten. We don’t want to bother you so we don’t ask. Or we have asked so many times without getting anything that we have just given up. We feel like a means to an end. A vessel so you could get what you always wanted. Makes us second guess if we made the right decision. If we picked the right family. We are for...