Waiting to Adopt: What Not to Neglect

The paperwork is mostly complete. You’ve been interviewed, background checked, and fingerprinted. Your home has been inspected. And now there’s nothing left to do but wait.Waiting for your match or referral can be in incredibly trying time. Waiting to adopt can become an all-consuming obsession (all the ups and downs and unknowns). During this season, many waiting adoptive parents begin to neglect that which matters most to them, oftentimes unknowingly.The problem with letting these priorities s...

Adoption Pictures Show Birth Mother Pain

I came across some heart-wrenching adoption pictures of our son’s birth mother.While looking through old pictures to attach to recent blogs, I came across some heart wrenching adoption pictures of our son’s birth mother. It was a picture taken at a hotel when our son was just a mere 3 days old. This was the day when my son’s two older brothers got to meet him for the first time. The picture that brought tears to my eyes was one of my son’s birth mom feeding him a bottle. The love and sadness in...

A Birth Mom She Can Be Proud Of

I am a birth mom.Some things about my identity are obvious and unremarkable. I am a female, a daughter, a friend, an employee, and I am Caucasian. If one were to scratch the surface, one would learn that I am also an only child, an only grandchild on my mother’s side, and also that I am a mother. You may be asking why you’d have to dig a little deeper to discover that I am a mother—isn’t that something a woman would primarily identify herself as? My claim to motherhood differs from the typical d...

Unable to Get Pregnant: Heartbreaking Reality for Many

Being unable to get pregnant can be a heartbreaking reality for many women. An adoptive parent explains how she manages the disappointment and pain of infertility.I’ve never been pregnant. Those are words that I never dreamed I would ever say. Those are words I say now even though I have two awesome kids. Those 4 words devastated me for years. And I think those words will always leave a little scar on my heart.I was 24 when we were given a 0% chance of conceiving. Hearing I was unable to ge...

Open Adoption Visits when Children are Reluctant

Looking for positive open adoption stories? Do you have an adopted child with biological siblings? What are your adoptive parent responsibilities when it comes to open adoption visitation? Birth mother Susie Book shares her open adoption experiences and says it means a lot when her son’s adoptive family make open adoption visits a priority, even when children are reluctant.The morning of our last Skype date, I was explaining to Kit that we were going to talk to his brother Cricket on the co...