Do I Get To Meet The Adoptive Parents?

In most domestic adoption situations, if you want, you can choose the adoptive parent(s). This may be done through reviewing adoptive parent(s) profiles at an adoption agency or with an attorney (where allowed), looking for an adoptive family on the Internet or by asking everyone you know (“word of mouth”) if they know anyone who wants to adopt. Through any of these means, you can connect with a prospective adoptive parent.Part of your process of making an adoption decis...

Adoption Name Change: Factors to Consider

A common question among prospective adoptive parents revolves around a name change. Should the adopted child’s name be changed? Modified? Or should it remain the same with the exception of the last name? Factors to consider when making a name change in adoption: 1. Safety There are many factors to consider when making a naming decision. One important condition includes safety. Is a name change a matter of protecting the child and the family’s privacy? This factor most ofte...

Does placing my baby for adoption make me a bad person?

When I was making the decision whether or not to place my baby for adoption, I struggled with this same question. Unfortunately, there is a lot of shame placed on women experiencing an unplanned pregnancy. We are oftentimes thought of as irresponsible and careless. On top of that shame placed on us, there is still ignorance about adoption that creates an additional stigma. Society tells us that women who place their babies are taking the easy way out, or are running away from their respons...

Adoption in one word

Adoption is often times a beautifully complex journey for both adopting parents and the birth parents. It can be a time filled with joy, love, and hope but also a time of uncertainty, lack of control, and anxiety. Everyone’s adoption journey is so different and unique. When I think of adoption, the word that comes to my mind is family. I have had such a positive experience and my adoption feels like family. I asked birth mothers to think of one word that came to their mind when they though...

9 Things We Want Adoptive Parents To Know About Us

The relationship between adoptive parents and birth parents can sometimes be very difficult to navigate. Although we are going through this journey together, it can sometimes feel like we are in two completely different worlds. Understanding one another can help to break down the barriers that can come up throughout the process. I asked birthmothers in our Healing Hearts group what they wished adoptive parents knew about birth parents and here are some of the things they said. WE ARE EX...