Brian and Charmian

Married Since: 2011

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: Yes

Other Biological Children at Home: No

You must be facing such a difficult decision and you are so strong. We cannot imagine what this must feel like for you, but we want you to know how much we appreciate your consideration. We promise to love and support your child with everything we have…

Brian and Charmian

from Maine

Brian

Ancestry: Irish, Italian

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Group Vice President

Education: BA

Hobbies: Golfing, Sports, Traveling

Charmian

Ancestry: English, German

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Stay-at-home Mom

Education: JD

Hobbies: Reading, Traveling, Gardening

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: Caucasian

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

Favorites

Brian

Childhood Memory
Playing ball on the street with friends
Early Bird or Night Owl?
Early Bird
Family Activity
Beach day
Holiday
Christmas
Movie
Star Wars
Music
60's and Classic Rock
Sport
Hockey
Thing to Cook
Chicken cutlets with rice
TV Show
Friends
Vacation Spot
Disney World

Charmian

Childhood Memory
Family summer vacations
Early Bird or Night Owl?
Night Owl
Family Activity
Swimming in the backyard
Holiday
Christmas
Movie
Pride and Prejudice
Music
Pop and 90's rock
Sport
Hockey
Thing to Cook
Tuna noodle casserole
TV Show
Friends
Vacation Spot
Disney World

Q&A

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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

You must be facing such a difficult decision and you are so strong. We cannot imagine what this must feel like for you, but we want you to know how much we appreciate your consideration. We promise to love and support your child with everything we have – should you choose us – and honor your wishes in an adoption plan.

We have both always dreamed of becoming parents and having a family, but it was a dream we never knew would be possible. Charmie was born with a series of birth defects that aren’t noticeable today and don’t impact her life very much except for the fact that she cannot biologically have children. We decided early on in our relationship that we both wanted children, and that adoption seemed like it would be the right choice for us.

We want you to know that should you choose us, your baby would be joining a very close, loving family – one with a caring, compassionate mother who adores being a stay-at-home mom; an amazingly supportive father who provides humor and unmatched love; the best dog in the world who will provide all the kisses and a watchful eye; a welcoming neighborhood and community of friends who make up the village of support we can call on at any time; and a big extended family who will love your baby more than we can say.

Our parents and families have been so incredibly supportive and have loved our daughter, Paige, unconditionally from the minute she was born and placed into our arms by her Birth Mother. Charmie’s father and aunt are both adopted as well, which makes that connection even more meaningful.

Speaking of Paige, she’s our greatest joy in the world; we adopted Paige in Ohio and she’s now 5 years old. She brings such light into our lives and we love seeing her grow and experience the world. We love sharing updates with Paige’s Birth Mother – we were able to spend time with her before the adoption was finalized and it was such a blessing to meet her – and continue to show how much of a gift Paige is in our lives through photos and updates.

It is our greatest desire to add one more family member to our lives. We have more love to give, and Paige talks about being a big sister daily. It would be so special for her to be part of this process with us and become a family of four. We would love to share family traditions, holidays, vacations, and a lifetime of memories.

Every year for Thanksgiving we celebrate with family and Brian cooks a turkey and carves it, cousins get to play together, and we watch the parade! Every Halloween we meet up with friends and the kids have dinner together, play games, and have a giant dance party, and then we all go trick or treating together! It’s such a blast! We love building memories as a family spending time at the beach in the summer, seeing family for holidays, swimming in lakes around Maine, going to Disney and visiting cities like New York or Boston, getting ice cream from the local ice cream shop, playing ball in the yard with our dog and just having fun being together enjoying the outside!

We hope to get to know you in this journey and want to support you in this process. Thank you again for reading this, and for considering us!

Respectfully,
Charmie & Brian

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Our Lifestyle

We live a family-focused lifestyle. Spending time together and developing relationships and memories with our family and friends take precedence. Quality time with each other and our daughter is our greatest joy. Family time playing board games, swimming in our backyard pool, and taking family walks on the beach a mile away is what brings us together. We prioritize family get-togethers with extended family and often have family and friends visiting, especially in the summers (pre-pandemic anyway!).

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About Brian

I immediately knew when I met Brian that there was something special about him. I could be completely myself with him in a way I’d never experienced before. It’s hard to describe, but one of the reasons I fell in love with him is that he’s everyone’s best friend (so much so that he’s acted as Best Man seven times)! Brian makes me laugh every day and is so amazing in the way that he treats me – I have a law degree, an MBA, and have always been very independent, but he does little things for me and our daughter every day and makes sure we could want for nothing. Brian has never had an issue with my medical issues (stemming from some birth defects which, though all corrected now, have left me infertile) and has always embraced the desire to adopt children with me. Brian is the most amazing father. I have fallen more in love with him every day watching him as a father. He loves his Saturday mornings with our daughter and takes her out for breakfast or to the farmer’s market so that I can get a chance to sleep in. She giggles and loves to run for a kiss the minute he gets home from work every weeknight. He makes sure to help as much as he can around the house, so we are a team on housework and we can focus on Paige. Every night we love sharing our bedtime routine and kiss Paige goodnight together. Family is the most important thing to him in the world and I’m so lucky to be his wife. I can’t wait to grow our family with him.

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About Charmie

The first time I met Charmie, I was taken aback. I thought she was beautiful, smart, and wickedly funny. I still think that today – except those feelings are all stronger. Charmie makes me laugh. She’s helped me learn to cry more – even with cheesy movies I never thought I’d watch! Seriously, some of these movies are just terrible! She makes me strive to be a better person every day I’m with her. She’s fearless, she can take on any challenge, and she’s quite simply one of the warmest and genuinely loving people I’ve ever met. Charmie is also a selfless, devoted mother to our daughter Paige. Charmie was born with a series of health issues (some of which have resulted in her inability to bear children) and spent endless hours in a hospital growing up. She never let that time define her, it’s just a part of her journey. It made her stronger; it taught her to appreciate the small things in life and taught her that there’s no challenge in this world you can’t overcome with the love and support of your family. I can’t wait to share this next journey with her.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

Charmie was born with a series of birth defects that do not impact her day-to-day life much; except for the fact that she is unable to carry children. She grew up knowing adoption would be the way she would one day grow her family and she had wonderful role models in the joy of adoption through her father and aunt who were adopted by her grandparents. When we met, our mutual desire to adopt one day is something that brought us together. We cannot imagine our life without our daughter, Paige, whom we adopted five years ago, and cannot wait to add a sibling to our family.

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Our Home and Neighborhood

We live in an area with a great school system, nearby access to multiple beaches, and a great neighborhood filled with families in southern Maine! Our home is a single-family home with a finished basement, four bedrooms, and 3.5 bathrooms in a suburban development a mile from a beautiful, fun beach in southern Maine. We also have a nice fenced-in backyard with a back deck off our kitchen, a patio, and a large play set our daughter, Paige, can’t get enough of! We recently built a pool in our backyard and love that we can jump in for a swim whenever the mood strikes. Our finished basement is a children’s paradise right now and it is usually covered with Legos, My Little Ponies, or Paw Patrol pups. We’ve developed a great group of friends in the area who we love to spend time with on the weekends. We also have found 3-4 great babysitters who allow for date nights. There is a children’s park and a baseball field within walking distance and nearby access to a 65-mile biking/hiking trail close to the house. We can also walk to an amazing ice cream shop open in the summers. We love to go for family walks or bike rides over the marsh or along the seven-mile sandy beach that is nearest the house. About two miles away is a touristy area with a lot to do in the summer including an amusement park, a water park, a pier, and summer attractions.

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Our Families

We’ve been blessed to have a great relationship with our families. Our daughter, Paige, is the first grandchild for Charmie’s parents and they enjoy experiencing life as grandparents. They are very excited that we are expanding our family. Charmie’s father was adopted himself, along with Charmie’s aunt so they are both extremely supportive about our adoption process. Charmie’s parents are now retired and live in Florida, about an hour from Disney World. We love to visit the area – especially during winter in Maine! Charmie’s brother is a reservist in the Navy and a pilot for Delta. Because of Delta perks, he and his wife, as well as Charmie’s parents, can all fly standby for free so they love to visit us often. Brian’s parents and brother’s family all live in Pennsylvania. We are extremely close with them. Brian’s parents are retired and love to visit us in Maine. Brian’s brother is a major league baseball scout who travels frequently while our sister-in-law holds down the fort. They have two sons who love being big cousins to Paige. Our family cannot be more excited to welcome a new grandchild to our growing family!

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Our Dog Maggie

Our seven-year-old yellow lab, Maggie, is the friendliest dog in the world. She loves to chase tennis balls, frisbees, and run around with our daughter, Paige. Maggie’s favorite day of the week was always “Dog Friday” at Brian’s office where she would join him for the day and get to visit with all his co-workers and their dogs. She has loved that Brian has been working from home each day during the pandemic and she is always curled up under his desk! She has always been the most patient dog with our daughter – we have pictures of her laying just off the baby blanket but keeping an eye on Paige, and even videos of her doing “zoomies” in the mornings from excitement when Paige would wake up in her crib! Maggie is well trained so knows to go to her bed when we say “Place” and knows not to touch toys that aren’t hers – we had more trouble keeping dog toys away from the baby than the dog away from the baby toys!

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Our Relationship with Our Child's Birth Mom

Our five-year-old daughter, Paige, was adopted by us at birth. We cannot express enough of our love and admiration for her Birth Mother choosing us to raise our incredible daughter. Paige’s Birth Mother initially wished for a completely closed adoption, but we ended up meeting for several hours and she decided to receive ongoing updates. We provide photo updates and a letter – initially every 3 months for the first year and now it is yearly around her birthday. We were and are open to more contact, but this is the relationship with which our daughter’s Birth Mother is most comfortable. We have already been sharing details with Paige as she ages and we use children’s books which feature adoption to make sure she is always aware of her story.

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Our Traditions

Our family traditions all revolve around spending time together. Weekly traditions include family board game night, family movie night, pancakes on a Saturday morning, and dance parties before bedtime. Before the pandemic, you would find us traveling to visit grandparents in Florida at least 3 times a year which were never complete without a stop at Disney World. Some of our holiday traditions we love are matching Christmas pajamas, gingerbread house decorating competitions, holiday cookie baking, pumpkin patch visits with cousins, and family Halloween costumes.

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Education

Brian has a Bachelor of Arts degree in Communication and Media Studies with a focus in Journalism. He grew up in New York attending a Catholic High School for boys and has some very close friendships to this day from his neighborhood and high school. The tight Jesuit community was a perfect place for Brian’s growth and he used school connections to make his way into his current career.

Charmie has a Bachelor of Science degree in Business Administration as well as a Master’s in Business Administration and a Juris Doctorate (law degree). Charmie attended a great liberal arts school where most people lived on campus. Smaller than Charmie’s high school, it provided a great atmosphere to learn and grow, a great study abroad program (Charmie lived in Denmark for a year), and many lifelong friends. Graduate school in New Jersey was a fun but challenging time. After graduation, Charmie used her MBA and law degree for several years in Texas, New York City, and Philadelphia.

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Hobbies

As a family, we love to swim and this summer we added a pool to our backyard. It has been amazing to have the freedom to swim each day whenever the mood strikes. We also enjoy family days at our local beaches. We live about a mile from a popular beach here in Maine and not far from a very child-friendly beach with a large sand bar during low tide. Our five-year-old daughter, Paige, loves nothing more than to build sandcastles, find hermit crabs, and dig for shells. Our dog, Maggie, has a blast chasing seagulls during the off season. Family walks with our dog by the water are the best! Brian grew up in New York and has a passion for sports. He loves the NY Rangers, NY Giants, and NY Yankees. He also enjoys gardening with Paige. Charmie enjoys riding her Peloton bike most mornings, novel reading, collecting Rae Dunn mugs, and volunteering on the board of directors for two non-profits that focus on children and health.

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What We Will Share with Our Children

We will teach our children how to be good people and how to be kind to others. We’d love to impart life skills and hope to provide a good formal education, but also want them to know they will always be loved and have a safe place with us. Our five-year-old daughter is adopted and we have already been sharing age-appropriate details with her as she grows. We read children’s books that describe adoption situations and make sure that being adopted is part of her story and something she has always known. We mention her Birth Mother with love and gratitude and talk to her about her Birth Mom. If you choose our family, we will share your child’s story with them and always speak lovingly about you. Paige is still too young to understand very much, but we will make sure she and any future sibling(s) know the love and appreciation we have for their Birth Mothers. Charmie’s dad and aunt are both adopted and Charmie has learned a lot about adoption and birth families from them as she grew up. We use their positive experiences as a model for our children’s adoptions. Both Charmie’s dad and aunt have met, and have relationships with, their birth families.

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Our Thoughts About Our Future Birth Mother

We love and admire our daughter’s Birth Mother more than words can say. Being chosen to receive the greatest gift in the world is a very powerful thing and our gratitude and love know no bounds. We can only imagine what the experience of being selected as adoptive parents a second time would be like. We would be so honored for someone to choose our family and would repay that trust with our love every day. We hope that you would know we would be grateful for a lifetime.

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How A Child Will Enrich Our Lives

We love our daughter Paige with all our hearts and adopting her in 2015 was the best thing to ever happen to us so far. We both grew up with another sibling and feel like a piece is missing from our family puzzle and would love to become a family of four. We are so family-focused that another child will expand our lives and complete our family. We know our daughter would make the best big sister and we can’t wait to experience more of what life has to offer as parents to two children.

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