Nickname: Joe and Patricia

Married Since: 2013

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We will make sure that your child is raised in a loving, stable, caring environment, given every opportunity to succeed, and encouraged to pursue those opportunities to the best of their ability.

Joseph and Patricia

from Connecticut

Joseph

Ancestry: Italian

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Attorney

Education: Ph.D., J.D.

Hobbies: Scuba diving, Cooking, Photography, Our dog

Patricia

Ancestry: Italian, Polish

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Associate Professor

Education: Ph.D., M.S.

Hobbies: CrossFit, Music, Electronics, Our dog

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

Favorites

Joseph

Animal
Fantasy: dragon, Wild: eagle, Pets: dogs and cats
Childhood Memory
Driving places with my mom and long nights at summer camp
Color
Green
Family Activity
Bonfires, smoking brisket, going to the beach
Hobby
Photography, diving
Holiday
Christmas and Halloween
Leisure Activity
Reading in a hammock
Movie
Star Trek and Star Wars
Personal Hero
The folks who quietly just get things done without a great deal of fuss.
Sport
Scuba diving
Subject in School
Biology and Theater
Thing to Cook
Popovers, bread, brisket and ribs
Music
Radio Garden makes my life awesome. Pick a spot anywhere on the planet and listen in!
Vacation Spot
Anywhere with nature, preferably warm water too

Patricia

Animal
Dog
Childhood Memory
Waking my brother up on Christmas morning, playing Capture the Flag at the neighborhood summer camp
Color
Teal
Family Activity
Bonfires, dog walks out on the trails or beach
Hobby
Weightlifting and playing guitar
Holiday
Christmas
Leisure Activity
Walking the dog
Movie
Legally Blonde
Personal Hero
Neil Peart, drummer for Rush
Sport
Track and field
Subject in School
Math and music
Thing to Cook
Aebleskivers
Music
Rush is the greatest band ever!
Vacation Spot
Any good mountain with slopeside accommodations for skiing
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From Us to You

We are Joe and Patricia. We were married on June 20, 2013 (or maybe it was June 21 or 22 or 23, neither one of us can ever remember the exact date…). We live in Connecticut with our dog, Soffio and cat, Pigpen. Joe is an intellectual property attorney and Patricia is a university professor in electrical engineering.

Okay, now that those formalities are out of the way, how should we proceed? This is a new experience for us. Neither one of us has had direct experience with the adoption process before now. Sure, we know people who adopted or were adopted, some close friends and extended family members, but we cannot claim to truly understand the feelings of anyone in the “adoption triangle” – the adopted child, the birth parents, and the adoptive parents. We do, however, understand that this decision-making process is intense for everyone involved. Please know that we are open to working through those complicated feelings with care, compassion, and tolerance.

While we cannot fathom what you must be going through right now in deciding the future for your child, we want you to know that if you do select us, we will make sure that he or she is raised in a stable, caring environment, given every opportunity to succeed, and encouraged to pursue those opportunities to the best of his or her ability. We cannot provide too many specifics, because those specifics will depend on the circumstances and desires and needs of your child. But we can be specific about some things:

  • We will raise your child in an environment that values education, both formal (in school) and informal (through travel, community engagement, etc.).
  • We will encourage your child to develop a respectful and caring attitude toward all things by living in a home that values people, animals, self-sufficiency, do-it-yourself skills, and having the right possessions.
  • We will insist that your child become a positive member of the community. While we don’t know what form this will take (will he or she join Scouts, or play a musical instrument or…?), we will do everything we can to help your child take advantage of their natural abilities and inclinations to find his or her calling.

We live in peace with ourselves and our community. We attend church regularly and are active members of our parish. Our friends are from all creeds and walks of life. We act our faith by volunteering our time and resources as needed to serve our community. We believe these are values and actions worth teaching and passing along. We excel in our careers, but we are married to each other, not our jobs.

As hard as we work, we play hard too. We love music, with Patricia accomplished at playing guitar. Joe is an avid amateur photographer with work in the National Geographic stock archives along with several books and magazines. Between us, we’ve traveled to or lived in all seven continents. We find joy on the road and in learning new cultures and peoples. We collect cookbooks and recipes and are not afraid to push our skills. We make our own pasta, grind our own flour, ferment our yogurt, and bake our own bread. We go to the beach. We read by candlelight and play games when the power goes out. We take the dog hiking in the snow and dance in a summer shower. We grow basil and geraniums in the windows of our house. Our cat cuddles up and purrs on cold nights. We use prisms to cast rainbows across the room. And when things get hard, we come together, knuckle down and work together to face the hard things.

Thank you for reading our letter and we hope to meet you. We welcome the opportunity to provide a loving home for your child.

Sincerely,
Patricia and Joe

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

Adoption was a choice we made before we were married, not a second choice or an alternative to infertility. We made the conscious decision to welcome our own biological children and adopted children into our family. As it turns out, we have not yet had our own biological children and up until recently, our life was not quite ready for bringing a child into it. We are now at a stable point in terms of careers, income, and home, and are ready to adopt. We strongly believe that we can and should provide a stable, loving, and enriching home for a child who may not be in such a position with his or her biological family. At our core we are educators, Patricia by chosen profession and Joe through his prior work and training, and we hope to share that value with our children. We don’t view adoption as an act of charity or from a superior position to an inferior person. We also don’t view family as a purely biological system for passing along genes, but rather as a functional system to optimize for the social good.

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About Joe

If I had to describe Joe in just two words, those words would be: interesting and jolly. Interesting because his life experiences are quite unique and, well, interesting. He was raised as an only child by a single mom who regularly took him out of school for months at a time traveling to Europe for their travel agency business. As a result, he is very comfortable being “on the go.” In college, he took a little while to explore and finally settle on the right major for him – actually two majors, biology and theatre, which allowed him to develop both his scientific and humanities perspectives. After getting a Ph.D. in plant physiology, he spent two winters at the South Pole operating their greenhouse. Yes, he grew fresh fruits and vegetables at the South Pole. Then he decided to pursue another lifelong interest (arguing with people) by attending law school and becoming an intellectual property attorney. It’s quite a winding road of life experiences which makes him great to talk to at parties. On top of all this interesting life experience, or perhaps because of it, he has a very jolly attitude. He is always pleasant and upbeat and sees the good side of things. I know he’ll make a great father who has a lot to share with his children and would have the unique ability to shake things up (in a good way) and provide stability at the same time.

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About Patricia

Patricia is my person. She’s the one I look forward to talking to when I learn something new. She’s the one I think of when I find something funny to share. When she smiles she brings a genuine warmth. She’s focused and can be very intense when chasing down a research problem or working on a project. She may be a bit socially awkward from time to time, but once you’ve won her friendship you have a true, if a bit shy, friend. She is the favorite person for PigPen (our cat) to snuggle up with at night and Soffio, our dog, promptly comes for cuddles whenever she sits down on the couch. She makes sure we go to church and that we do stay involved with volunteer opportunities. Practical and level-headed, she excels at turning mountains to molehills and finding creative solutions to problems we encounter. She maintains her fitness routines from her days as student athlete and pound-for-pound she’s probably got more raw strength than I do. Some things I just don’t get, she gets them. She is kind, caring, and compassionate, but that is blended with a hearty practicality that also won’t let you just be a lump of nothing. She helps you to be better than what you are, and what’s more, she makes you want to do it. I can’t think of anyone else I’d rather have a child with or who would have more to offer a child from themselves.

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How We Met

We met on eHarmony. At the time Joe was at Amundsen-Scott Station at the South Pole in Antarctica while Patricia was in Connecticut. After the match was made, there followed a period of writing e-mails and “getting to know each other” via virtual means while Joe was working his way back to the U.S. via Australia and Palau. We finally met in person at a little Italian restaurant not far from where we currently live. What was supposed to be a simple and quick date for dinner-and-bowling was rendered hilarious when the bowling alley roof collapsed due to snow and an attempt to get ice cream was foiled by a bad restaurant location in Google Maps. We ended up sharing brownie and ice cream sundaes and closing a restaurant out at 2 A.M. Although it seems weird, the oddness and challenges posed during such a date showed that we were flexible when things got strange, capable of overcoming strange obstacles, and had the patience with each other when the first option didn’t work out to find another way to still have fun. The rest, as they say, is history.

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Our Sweet Pets

Pets are a large part of our lives. Right now we have 1.75 cats, PigPen and Jiji, and one dog, Soffio. We may have more or less, but we’ll always have at least one. PigPen is a black and white goofball who announces his entry into the room and enjoys cuddling with his people. Jiji is all black with big green eyes. He’s only “three quarters ours” as he’s a stray cat who is frequently on our property. We look out for and keep an eye on him and have to trap to take to the vet. He sings to us from the bottom of the stairs and is quite comical if he ever encounters us in the hallway between the stairs and the kitchen. Soffio is a Lagotto Romagnolo who lives up to every little bit of his breed. He’s fabulously loyal and affectionate, loves swimming and chasing his ball, and definitely struts his stuff when he’s out on the town or at Meet the Breed events.

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Our Home

We live in a modest home on roughly one acre of land in a suburb in Connecticut. Our back yard is, by far, our favorite feature of our house. We border on a small river and woods. Our street is a dead-end and traffic is minimal. Thus, we can feel like we are out in the country even though we are close to the city. We have bonfires in the spring, summer and fall. Our dog loves to chase his ball in the yard and our cat prowls like he’s lord of the jungle. We’ve been remodeling the house over the years we’ve owned it. So far we’ve, put on a new roof, new siding and insulation, new windows, changed from oil to gas, refinished the basement, rebuilt a laundry room, and rehabbed the electrical systems. Thus, although our home was built in 1957, it is updated, modern, free of hazardous materials, and will continue to be kept in good order. Our neighborhood is close-knit. We are friendly with nearly all our neighbors and good friends with several. There are many children who play with each other and, with our neighbor across the street, we’ve hosted several neighborhood gatherings. Our neighborhood routinely gets loads of visitors for Halloween and the trick-or-treaters definitely get full-sized candy bars from our house.

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Our Families

Patricia is the youngest in her family with an older brother and sister (both engineers). Courtesy of Patricia’s sister, we have two nieces, both of whom we do our best to spoil. Patricia’s parents are retired and enjoy polka dancing. Joe grew up as an only child with a single mom. He’s one of 11 total grandkids on his mom’s side, so, he grew up with his cousins and his aunts and uncles. We see each other for holidays and family gatherings, and try to stay in touch as much as possible. We both enjoy friendships going back over 20 years. In some instances all the way back to kindergarten! Indeed, we both believe “friends are the family you choose” and we wouldn’t have it any other way.

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Our Lifestyle

Our lifestyle is active yet laid back. Patricia is a college professor who is able to walk to work and Joe is an attorney who works from home. We place value on simplicity, economy, and efficiency. We treasure our time together cooking meals, playing with the pets, and working on the house and yard. We enjoy traveling together and visiting our friends and family. We work hard to maintain a work-life balance that ensures we work to live, not live to work. We enjoy studying new challenges and learning more about the world around us. We work out, hang out in a hammock, cook over coals, read stories, and put our feet up and enjoy what is available to us. We enjoy a kitty getting a belly rub and our dog getting a scratch behind the ears. We swim in lakes and oceans, watch eclipses and meteor showers, and teach others the skills we know.

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Our Relationship with You

Putting the needs of your child first and foremost, we are open to building many different types of relationship with you. In the age of social media, it is very easy to stay in touch. We believe in communication and that, through communication, we can arrive at arrangements that suit us all. We recognize you may wish to have very little contact with us and simply wish to move on with your life. Or, in the opposite, you may wish to know a great deal more. In the absence of data we can only speculate what course and nature our relationship may take over time. Perhaps it will be close and then far, or far and then close? Or not at all? We don’t know. But we are open to trying to accommodate the type of relationship you wish to have the best that we can.

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What We will tell Your Child about You

We will answer the questions your child asks with honesty and at a level they can understand at the time they ask. We want your child to know that they came to us by an act of love. We believe in honesty, but that honesty comes with a context and a way to discern how the circumstances of their adoption fit into their life pattern. We also want you, as the birth mother, to know that we will share with your child how much we respect you and the choice you made.

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On a Typical 3-Day Weekend

We spend a typical 3-Day weekend together. Whether it’s home or on the road, we usually try to use that extra time to do/go/be somewhere/thing that we wouldn’t ordinarily have the time for. Sometimes it’s out to the beach, sometimes it’s just staying in and binge-watching a series or movies. Sometimes it’s making a long and complicated dish, others it’s just a couple of sandwiches as we burn the miles behind us. What we like most is to just chill out and enjoy what’s going on. Sometimes it’s even just taking a bit of extra time to clean up and get ready of the next adventure. Sometimes it’s just lazing on the hammock and reading while playing ball with the dog. Whatever the season, whatever the weather, the idea is that there’s always something to do, some way to do nothing, some way to just relax and chill.

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Family Traditions

We suppose our traditions are much like everyone else with Italian and Polish backgrounds. We’re Catholics by upbringing and practice, we celebrate Christmas and Easter, Saint’s Days and Name Days. We gather with family for Thanksgiving and New Year’s. We enjoy fireworks on the 4th of July (even the dog), and we go to Passover seder with our friends. We go to the weddings of anyone who invites us and celebrate lives coming together. We mourn those we’ve lost. We bake cakes for birthdays and take the day off work/school. We love Halloween and make sure we are fully loaded up with candy to hand out. We frequently cook for the holidays. We like to make cookies for Christmas and Thanksgiving. Easter has seen purple mashed sweet potatoes with marshmallow tops. We fly kites when we go to the beach. We bake and break bread together as much as possible.

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Our Careers

We both have strong careers, and career goals, yet we work to make sure that our work-life balance is in favor of our family and home life. Yes, there are times when work demands, but we make sure to balance that out with time at home and to make sure to take the time for the important things. Patricia is a college professor who deeply enjoys teaching her students and collaborating with her colleagues. Joe works as an intellectual property attorney helping to develop and protect the ideas of tomorrow. We’ve both judged science fairs at local schools and served as judges at the Connecticut Invention Convention.

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Diversity in our Lives

We believe it is important to teach our children to learn how to recognize, value, and respect not only their own heritage, but those with whom they’ll share this planet. There is a beauty in blending and bringing together different cultural practices and traditions. We also believe in universal bonds between all humans; after all, everybody poops, right? Our view of cultural diversity transcends superficial characteristics such as skin color or vocal accent and recognizes that genuinely different points of view exist that lead to different ways of experiencing and contributing to this crazy thing we call life. As world travelers who have touched all seven continents, we’ve encountered peoples, places, and cultures vastly different from what we grew up with and hope that our children have similar experiences. We seek to build bridges of communication between different points of view, to learn and share with each other and to gain strength and wisdom from the sharing. We both live these values concretely in our everyday lives. Joe has traveled extensively and experienced cultures in Australia, France, India, Italy, Morocco, New Zealand, Poland, Portugal, and others. During Patricia’s time studying and working in universities, she has worked closely with colleagues and students from Afghanistan, Bangladesh, Egypt, El Salvador, Kashmir, Kuwait, China, India, Iran, Italy, Japan, Jordan, Romania, South Korea, Saudi Arabia, Syria, and others. We have also experienced the cultural diversity that exists within the US, having lived in various regions including California, Connecticut, Massachusetts, New Mexico, Rhode Island, Utah, and Virginia.

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Education

We believe in Education and that everyone should have a chance to learn as much as their interest and abilities will take them. We believe that “Education” is both formal and informal; it’s not just what you know, but what empowers you to do more of what you love. We both hold terminal degrees: Patricia, a Ph.D. in Electrical Engineering; Joe, a Ph.D. in Plant Science and a J.D.. Informally, through our hobbies, we cook, dive, take photos, build LED cubes, garden, play music, read, play board and video games, ferment yogurt, bake bread, make cottage cheese, and build mad little projects. We believe that curiosity is what drives one to want to learn and know more and the more we know, the more we do. We will help your child develop a love of learning that lasts a lifetime, to explore their curiosities and push themselves as far as their skills and abilities will take them.

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What Kind of Parents We will Be

We know we won’t ever be “perfect,” but we do hope that we will be “good.” We will be parents who are patient. We will be parents your child can trust and look to. When your child looks to us they will know they are home and loved. We will teach your child to grow strong and able to care for themselves and others. We will be the type of parents who forgive the mistakes as they grow.

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Our Promise to You

We cannot promise perfection. We can promise we will do our best to raise your child in a supportive environment that allows him or her to mature into a well-adjusted adult who contributes positively to society (in whatever form that may be). We promise to treat your child with love, honor, and dignity. We promise to have an open adoption so that you and your child may have a mutually beneficial relationship.

Message Joseph and Patricia

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

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  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!