Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: Our home is in the suburbs. We live near the woods yet we could walk to a McDonald's or Turkey Hill if we had to. We purchased our home about 4 years ago with everything we wanted in the hopes we would not have to move again. Air conditioning, a large kitchen, 2-car garage, large yard, 3 large bedrooms and an unfinished basement. Our neighborhood has many older couples in it, but more young children are starting to move in.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: It depends. Frequently we like to stay home and relax or work on projects around the house. Sometimes we take a day trip somewhere family oriented.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: Yes 2 male cats. They have very different personalities. Damon is black and white and keeps to himself. Kicker is more social and likes to sneak outside. Kicker is also a lap kitty and enjoys being petted. We make sure to teach our children to be gentle to the cats. Not to grab their fur or tails. For the most part the cats are very good with the kids. Our younger son enjoys helping to feed them.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: We are both music teachers and involved in music in our church, so music will be a large part of their life. We hope to teach them to be well rounded, kind, empathetic, hardworking young adults. Our kids are a little spoiled, however, I try to teach them not to take things for granted. They need to be grateful for what they have and to realize that not all children have what they have. Our boys do small chores around the house like help empty the dish washer, take out trash, put their laundry away, clean their rooms, and feeds the cats. It is nothing major considering they are young, but we think it's important
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: We would tell our child why her birth mom chose adoption and why she choose our family to take care of her. We would let her know her birth mom’s first name and what was her state of birth. If she happens to be of a different race or ethnic background we would explain that about her birth mother as well. We would like to ask the birth mom what she would want her daughter to know about her.
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: Yes. Actually Rachel grew up and is currently a member of the UCC church but Mike is Methodist. Because Mike is the paid choir director at his church, we attend his church more often than Rachel's. However, Rachel directs the bell choir at her church which is a volunteer position that she started several years ago. When the bell choir plays she typically takes the children with her since Mike still has to attend his church as the choir director. Rachel participates in the adult choir at both churches. Our children go to Sunday school and Bible school during the summer. Both of our extended families are very involved in the church in multiple ways.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: We love kids. We view them as a gift from God and we cherish them. Having 2 boys is wonderful, but we feel that adding a girl will fulfill the empty space in our hearts. The boys always ask if they are going to have a sister. I tell them it’s in God’s hands.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: Our last vacation was actually with my husband’s marching band to Disney World. We went on charter buses with the marching band who marched down Main Street in the Magic Kingdom. Our boys loved it. It was quite exhausting because Mike had to go off with the group while often times I would stay with the boys to go to the pool or let them stay sleeping. We visited Hollywood Studios where the boys were excited to do the Star Wars rides and meet Chewbacca, BB8 and Kilo Ren. In the Magic Kingdom Isaac was obsessed with Cinderella’s Castle so we got to meet Cinderella, Elena of Avalor, Rapunzel, and Tina. They enjoyed meeting the princesses that they see in the movies. It was fun but exhausting. We look forward to visiting again when we have a little girl to share it with.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: Depending on our financial situation Mike may become a stay-at-home dad. Rachel will use her 12 weeks of leave as well as any sick days she has saved in order to stay home for as long as possible. We will work together to figure out the schedule with a baby and two older boys. We have learned that it is hard to plan ahead when dealing with a baby. You have to do what works for you and your family in your particular situation.
Q: Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.
A: Rachel's parents are the main care providers for our boys. They take them to playgrounds, educational activities, and play with them at our house. When the boys go to my parents' home they have a pond, in-ground swimming pool, stream and 7 acres of woods. They keep them very busy with outside activities. Mike's parents watch our younger son one Friday a month. They live and hour away, so it’s is not as convenient for them to help out. We also have a family friend who cares for our younger son 1 day a week. She takes him to story hour at the local library and does other stuff with him. Our goal is to keep all of our children with family and friends.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: We feel so blessed and thankful for the birth mom choosing our family. We see a beautiful woman who has created a beautiful baby girl and I am grateful that our little family will have the opportunity to raise, love and cherish her. We respect her for having the courage to place her child with another family. I want the birth mother to rest well knowing she choose our family to care for her precious baby.