Dear Expectant Mother:
Thank you for taking a look at our profile and for considering us as a possible family. Just scrolling through these profiles must be a daunting task, and we can’t imagine how difficult all of this is for you.
We have no doubt that everyone you have spoken to during this process has an opinion on what you should do, and you may feel as though everyone has an opinion on who you are. To us you are a hero. You would be helping us to create the family we have wanted for so long. We have always known we wanted to be parents. It has been devastating to have that dream thwarted time after time. You will be the hero of our story. The hero that makes our dream come true and truly helps us create a “Happy Ever After.”
Our story started in 2001. Karen grew up in California. Rob grew up in New Mexico. In 2000 Rob moved to California and within a year met the woman he would spend his life with. We have been very close and one might say “connected at the hip” since we met. In 2006 we married. We began trying to have children of our own but it has not worked out. Perhaps it is just not part of our story. Our story will be one of adoption, and we love that idea.
We both grew up in close families with extended family (grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins) close by. Life for your child will be no different. Karen’s parents live near us, and Grandma (Karen’s mom) will be on hand to help out on a daily basis. Similarly, Rob’s mom lives in Southern California along with his sister and her family (2 young boys/future cousins). We live close by, in a culturally diverse neighborhood, where we watch children of all different ethnicities playing and growing together.
Life for your child in our house will be one of joy, love, and support. We both feel our job as parents will be to create a stable, supporting area for your child to experience life and know that he or she is loved. We see Saturday morning cartoons, after school homework, family camping trips, and a house full of laughter. We fondly look towards days filled with skateboarding, bike riding, playing in sprinklers, and listening for the ice cream truck. We whole-heartedly know that parenting will have its challenges, and we look forward to facing them head on and giving your child an environment that prepares him/her for life, and gives him/her a strong chance for success and happiness.
Maybe it’s a little corny to think of this life as a fairytale, or a superhero movie. However, in writing this letter, it was the only thing we could come up with that offered you the credit we felt you deserved. This whole process is one of magnitude far greater than us, and to think of you as anything short of the hero just wouldn’t give you the credit you deserve, at least not in our story.
Rob and Karen