Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in Southern California. We rent a 4-bedroom, 2-bath home on top of a hill overlooking a valley close to the beach. We have a master bedroom, two guest bedrooms and an office. We have a formal and informal living room as well a dining room and kitchen with a two-car garage. The neighborhood is quiet and family friendly. We have a large park within walking distance where children and families walk their dogs and play on the playground. We have a large, house-length balcony in the backyard with a hammock and rocking chair. We often sit on this balcony and watch the sun go down.
Q: When you have a 3-day weekend, what you like to do?
A: Our three-day weekends vary. We often like to work on house projects, go for a hike, cruise down to the beach, drive up to have dinner and play games with our family and friends, maybe go to Palm Springs to get away, or simply play with the dog.
Q: Do you have pets? If so, tell us about them.
A: Yes, we have a small, 20-pound dog. Brian and I both grew up with dogs and when we met, Brian still had two of his childhood dogs. We would often talk about getting a dog that we could both share. Charlie came into my classroom when I was teaching summer school. He was only 8 months old and was covered in fleas. My students wanted to find his owners, so we put up posters but it was to no avail. Brian and I adopted Charlie in 2011 and he is the greatest addition to our family so far. He is a staple in our family and always comes with us wherever we go. He was even the ring bearer in our wedding!
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: That the world is better because they are in it. We would instill that our character and actions are the most important. More than money and material possessions, how we treat others is what defines us. We would teach them they are responsible for their actions and that with a little grace and humor, life can be grand.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?
A: We would like to share with our child what their birthmother would like us to share. We hope to share their story, their family history, and how we became part of each other’s lives. What we tell the child will be in partnership with what the birthmother would want them to know.
Q: How will a child enrich your life?
A: With all the love we share in our household, we still feel we have so much more to give. We’ve both always wanted to be parents and pass on the lessons and love we received from our own parents, to make a child feel safe and supported and cared for. At the same time, it will be a joy to experience and discover the world through the child’s eyes, to watch them become their own person and teach us as we will teach them.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: In July, we traveled to Seattle to visit our friend and take in the sights. We were there for 4 days. We went to the museum of Pop Culture, went whale watching in the San Juan Islands, saw one of our favorite bands at an outdoor festival, went to the Pike Market, and stayed with a friend of ours who was in our wedding. We had a great time playing tourist and have plans to return soon.
Q: Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?
A: Our plan is to have Brian stay and work from home. He will be a marriage and family counselor with a home office.
Q: Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.
A: Nikki will be returning to work full time continuing in education administration. Brian, family and friends will be our day-care options.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: We are grateful that she was able to do such a courageous and selfless act.