Q: Tell us about your home and neighborhood.
A: We live in a residential cul-de-sac at the end of a small street. It is a very family-oriented community with neighbors out and about doing their daily chores. We see kids playing touch football, biking, playing tag and basketball in the court. In the summer we get together for games and cook outs. Our neighborhood offers community playgrounds, walking trails, a few ponds, a community pool, and sports courts. We are five minutes from great schools, local shops and restaurants while still being in a quiet community. Many neighbors have told us about the extremely positive experiences they have had raising their children in this neighborhood and we look forward to the opportunity to do the same.
Q: When you have a three-day weekend, what do you like to do?
A: We love to cook. For us a great three-day weekend begins with a trip to the grocery store. We can stock up on ingredients for a special meal and plenty of cocoa powder for a chocolatey dessert. Typically, we will go out to a movie or a museum or other social activity on Saturday followed up with dinner at a nice restaurant. Sunday we will spend a quiet and relaxing family day in where we cook, watch shows, play games and relax while in each other’s company. We can’t wait to add a third cook in the kitchen, gamer in the living room, or critic on the couch (and possibly in the kitchen- since the nieces already let us know when our desserts do not have enough sprinkles).
Q: Do you have pets?
A: We have a forty-pound, brown terrier mix named Marshall. He is extremely sweet and social. He is our ambassador to the neighborhood. Though not everyone may know us, it doesn’t take the kids very long to get to know Marshall, the adults too. He loves attention and to nuzzle and lick fingers. He has been a source of fun and amusement for all the kids in our lives.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?
A: Children have their own innate interests and abilities and we hope to foster that sense of curiosity and wonder and teach as they desire to learn. For our part we love books, stories and games. We would like to impart good story-telling, the complexity of human lives and the complexity of every individuals narrative, plots, twists, excitement and adventure. We would love to teach some lessons on gameplay that transfer to the real world. While having fun we can learn about sportsmanship, morality, strategy, decision making and competition. Mostly, we want to create a supportive environment that nurtures those innate interests, teaches morality, independence and a journey to self-awareness and adulthood. If they learn to love pets, cooking, nature, and science along the way then we consider that a bonus!
Q: What will you tell your child about their birth mom?
A: We will let our child know what a difficult and courageous decision it was for their birthmom to place them in our care. That she loved them so much that she wanted to ensure they were well provided for in a nurturing home. That we always wanted a child and could not have one of our own and through her sacrifice we were able to achieve this dream and have this wonder and joy in our lives. That they are special because they have three people who love them very much.
Q: Describe your last trip:
A: Our last vacation was a two-week trip to Italy with Jeff’s extended family. A first for both of us, we were able to experience ancient Western History, see once-in-a-lifetime sights, eat great food, and enjoy the love and company of family. Having a child means sharing these experiences as if for the first time. It means a new point of view and renewed sense of magic. It means a new person with which to share great food, great company and love.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?
A: Thank You, thank you, thank you. Thank you for bringing this joy into our lives. Thank you for having the courage to see this through. Thank you for being as special as you are so that we have a child as special as they are.
Q: What recreational activities do you participate in?
A: I (Jeff) grew up playing soccer and love to coach the little kids youth league. It is so much fun to see their skills develop and their personalities manifest on the field. I would love to share this experience with your child. We love to participate in youth mentoring opportunities including tutoring and recreational activities like hiking, scouting for food, basketball, and swimming. Swimming is also near and dear to me as I have very fond memories spending summers at the family lake house.
Q: Describe a favorite tradition:
A: We are very fortunate to live close to both of our families. Jeff’s family is about 30 minutes away and Will’s family is about 90 minutes away. We are very close with both families and get together as often as we can for food, fun, and adventure. One of my favorite traditions is gathering at my family’s house every Thursday for Family Dinner. This is something we have done for about 20 years. My (Will) mom or dad prepare an entrée for the extended family, neighbors, and family friends. Those whose schedules permit get together and enjoy great food, great memories and great company. Many people bring sides, appetizers, desserts, or beverages and we get to catch up and stay involved in each other’s lives. Usually there are about 25 attendees, we can certainly feed an army. It’s great to be able to share news, burdens, and joy with our cherished loved ones.