Q: 1. Describe your childhood:
A: Adoptive Dad: For the first 12 years of my life we were pretty poor. My dad took whatever work he could get (welding, driving a tractor-trailer, etc.), even if it was out of state (thankfully that only happened once and it was for a very short time). My mom would work part time jobs (food service, secretarial, etc.) here and there. I remember times when my parents would tell my brother and I to put more clothes on so that we didn’t have to turn the heat on as much. There were other times when I would notice that they would eat a little less so that my brother and I would be sure to have enough. As crazy as it might sound, I am very thankful for growing up poor. It taught me a lot about being thankful for what I have and being wise with the resources I have.
Our home life was pretty good and my parents were very clear about what they expected of me and my brother. They were good parents who were very fair with my brother and I and never once physically or mentally abused us. My mom was openly affectionate with us, while my dad was much more reserved. Even though my relationship with my folks went through the typical rough phases (like adolescence), they always did their best to help me grow through the struggles and push me towards being a mature, responsible individual.
We were a pretty typical family when it came to activities at home. Celebrations like Christmas, Easter, and birthdays were a fun time, even when we didn’t have much money. My friends were always welcome and for most of my childhood my friends and I spent a pretty equal amount of time at each other’s houses. After I got my license I spent most of my time with my friends at my best friend’s house. This was not because I was ashamed of my home or anything like that, my best friend’s house just had more room for us to be teenage boys.
Adoptive Mom: We were an active family that enjoyed camping, hiking, and spending time with family and friends. I loved my growing up years and have many fond memories of those years. My parents wanted what was best for my brother and I. They encouraged both of us to do our best in school and get involved in different activities. We did both have our individual chores and were expected to follow instructions. We knew what was expected because we were told, and if needed shown how to do something (such as putting away clean dishes, cleaning bathroom etc.). Sure, I didn’t always like doing what I was told to do, but I had and have a good relationship with my family, they sometimes get on my nerves, but at the end of the day I love them and they are some of my best friends. Looking back on my growing up years, I think my parents set a great example of how to be a fair and loving parent. I loved and looked forward to spending time with both sets of my grandparents. I was close to both of my grandmothers. My brother and I would spend a week with each during most of the summers, this was mostly a week of playing games, going to museums, parks, and just getting spoiled.
Q: What faith will you raise your child?
Q: Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.
A: We are both part of the youth staff where Jason leads Middle School youth group and Heather helps in a variety of ways. Jason sings and plays clarinet for the music teams and is on the apologetics ministry’s leadership team. Heather also helps with women’s events and activities.
Q: What do you hope to teach your child/children?
A: We want to help our child develop good communication skills, how to make good decisions, how to understand that choices have consequences, to solve problems effectively, and to express their emotions and beliefs in respectful ways.
Q: Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.
A: We enjoyed a relaxing week in San Francisco. We had fun going to a baseball game, exploring Golden Gate Park, visited The Presidio and Ghirardelli Square. We also enjoyed going to afternoon tea and other local restaurants.
Q: Share some of your family traditions
A: We like to go on a vacation each summer and enjoy a week at a resort a few hours from where we live with Heather’s side of the family. We enjoy Holidays and special events by sharing a meal and games with family/ friends.
Q: What attracted you to each other?
A: Adoptive Dad: Heather and I met in college when her brother and I were housemates. I was first attracted to not only her beauty, but also her energy level, confidence, and the fact that she speaks her mind.
Adoptive Mom: Jason and I met in college when he and my brother were housemates. The first thing that stood out to me about Jason was how easy it was to get to know him and how much fun he was to be around.
Q: What is your favorite food?
A: Adoptive Dad: Chicken & Dumplings. Adoptive Mom: Enchilada Verde and fresh fruit.
Q: What made you chose your profession?
A: Adoptive Dad: I like working with youth and am passionate about History and Economics. Adoptive Mom: I chose nursing because I love helping others. I specifically chose Neonatal Intensive Care because I am passionate about helping all newborns thrive, including those born extremely premature, ill, or drug addicted.
Q: What kind of a relationship do you hope to have with your child’s birthparent(s)?
A: We hope to have a relationship that is open so that the birthparent(s) are comfortable with their level of contact.
Q: What will you tell your child about his or her birthmother?
A: We have no intention to hide from them that they are adopted, and we’ll share with them as much about their birthmother as she’d like us to. We will never talk about her in a disrespectful way. We will tell them their birthmother showed compassionate and love by making the sacrifice of trusting their child’s well-being to someone else.
Q: When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birthmother?
A: Gratitude for trusting us with their child and allowing us to love and raise this precious life.