Dear Brave one,
When a mother makes the decision to allow someone else to
raise her child for whatever reason, she is doing something which takes a lot
of courage, strength and love. The thought process involved, the anxiety, the
fear and at last the hope for a good future for your child is already a journey
in itself. So for you we already have tremendous respect and admiration.
We’re also embarking on a journey ourselves, filled with
almost the same kind of emotions. However, we pray and have the belief that
everything is going to be alright. For you, for us and, most importantly, for
the child/children you currently carry. We’ve slowly accepted the realization
that, although we may not be able to have children biologically, this option is
also a God acceptable one, because He, our Heavenly Father has adopted us and
He wants us to be committed to raising children in an environment that is safe,
filled with love and God honoring. This is a loving demonstration of so much
love. We will be doing our best to fulfill these goals for your child in the
best way, and with God’s help and guidance.
We’ve worked with young people all our lives as Youth
Leaders, and our family itself is large and we do a lot of fun-filled family
activities, outings within and outside of the United States, as well as get-togethers
for special occasions and holidays, all the time. Your child will have no want for
fun, love, acceptance and warmth.
We, as well as our families, are largely Christians and are
very involved in church-related activities, especially on the music side, as we
have musical gifts which we use to honor the Lord. We see church as a strong
part of a great, supportive community that will be an influential role in the
raising of our child or children to become socially aware and kind.
Children need love, care, compassion and a safe place to
grow and develop to the best of their potential. Children also need guidance,
and we believe that good parenting is about tough love to establish boundaries.
So, we plan to be compassionate but firm, loving while setting boundaries. When
these are established, then going into teen years, it’s much easier to gain
their respect and trust. We will reinforce, as best as possible, the overall
truth that we love them and that love involves discipline. In the teen years,
when they may become a little more of themselves and are discovering who they
are, it is more about loving them, and adjusting the methods of discipline,
while never removing the barriers, but giving them a little more space to grow
and make decisions. There’s no rule book on parenting and each child is unique,
but we will definitely do our best, along with God’s help, to raise your child to
fear the Lord, respect authority, and become a distinguished and outstanding person,
among the best in this world.
So let’s journey together; we will be praying for you along
this pathway as we seek God’s blessings, favor and kindness. We won’t for one
moment hesitate to tell your child about their brave and courageous birth mom.
Cheryl and Gerard