Dear Expectant Mother,
We are Felicia and Chuck and our fur babies are Toby (a
senior pug-a-poo) and Walter (a boxer puppy). As happy as we all are together,
we know in our hearts that our family is not yet complete. We write this letter
in hope that it touches your heart and you will be the person who fits in one
of the last puzzle pieces for us.
We wish we could tell you that we completely understand
everything you are going through right now, the emotions you are feeling or
frankly even maybe the emotions you are not feeling but people expect you to be
feeling. We can only tell you that we empathize and there will never be
judgement from us.
We don’t know your story, but because you are reading this
letter, we know that you are considering adoption for your unborn child. That
tells us that you are brave and self-less and we can’t wait to learn more about
who you are, but we know that first you need to learn about us.
We are Canadian; so, we pronounce “out” like “oot” and we
sometimes end our sentences with “Eh.” We love sports; basketball (Yay Toronto
Raptors for winning it all in 2019!), hockey (Calgary Flames); baseball
(Toronto Blue Jays) and football (College – Florida Gators; NFL – Tampa Bay
We first met online 10 years ago when we were both finishing
school in Toronto, Ontario, Canada.
I was first attracted to Chuck’s profile because his profile
picture was of him and his mom. Only a confident, family man would introduce
himself as a “mama’s boy.” I was right. Chuck has a tough exterior, tall and
muscular and built like a bouncer, but his insides would melt any girl’s heart.
He is soft like a teddy bear, with a heart of gold and a soul so pure. Family
means everything to him. He is protective by nature and his intentions are
honest. He does things for the joy of doing them because he loves to see those
closest to him safe and happy.
I was first attracted to Felicia because of her charming
smile, and bubbly and goofy personality. She is intelligent, enjoys spending
time with friends and family and loves to laugh. It cracks me up when she
bursts into laughter and can’t stop. It gets to the point where her laugh
becomes infectious and everyone around her is laughing too. I love her ambition
and how hard she works, but she is also able to balance work with family well.
She is a fierce animal lover, so nobody can come between her and our fur
We have been married for almost 7 years now and we are
childless. We have always pictured ourselves as parents of multiple children,
but that hasn’t been our story up to now. We have discussed infertility
treatment at length and have even done all of the testing, but something has
held us back from going through with it. Infertility treatment may still be a part
of our future, but we know today that we want to grow our family through
adoption. We have so much love to give and a beautiful extended family mixed
with biological and adopted children. Your child will be the first and perhaps
the only grandchild(ren) of both of our parents; so they will be loved beyond
belief and a little spoiled, but not too spoiled.
We will visit New Brunswick, Canada in the summer so your
child will grow up knowing their cousins, aunts and uncles. We will go to the
family cottage, enjoy days outside fishing and hunting and nights playing board
or card games or putting puzzles together. Our hope is that they will speak both
English and French since part of our extended family is fully francophone. We
will alternate our Christmases between Canada and Florida, because there is
nothing like a Canadian Christmas with snow on the ground, but home is the
Sunshine State and we want to create new traditions of our own.
When we are home in Florida, Chuck will be a stay at home
dad and Felicia will balance her work with family time.
We will teach your child to share their feelings, tell the truth,
be patient with themselves and others, be forgiving, be kind, be passionate
about their interests and to just love a lot.
We promise you that we will be present as parents. We will
actively listen before offering advice, model forgiveness and healthy behavior,
surround them with healthy, adult role models, but most important we will love
unconditionally. We are not perfect, and we will make mistakes along the way
and there will be some sad times, but we will learn from every experience.
Someone once said: “…without rain nothing grows. Learn to embrace the storms of
your life. Dance in the rain!” We live our life with no regrets, and we will
teach your child(ren) to do the same.
You will be taking a leap of faith in believing that we are
who we say we are and that we will do what we say we will do, but if you take
this next step with us, we can take this leap of faith together.
Our hope is that as we embark on this journey together, we
build a relationship and friendship centered around trust, mutual
understanding, unwavering support and unconditional love. You will be forever
in our hearts because you will be giving our family a blessing and a priceless
gift that we will always be grateful for. You will be realizing our dream and
giving us a miracle.
Chuck and Felicia