Amber

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From Me to You

Thank you so much for taking the time to read my profile. I have no idea how you’re feeling, I can only imagine that this is very difficult for you but also so very brave of you to want the best life for your baby. I found out 6 years ago that I am unable to have children due to infertility. I’ve worked through that and truly feel that I can still be a great parent to a child or children. I haven’t married, but still know in my heart that I have the potential to be a great influence in a child’s life. And I’m still open to marriage if the right person comes along and is a positive addition to my life.

I want you to know that, if chosen to raise your child, I will make them my first priority each and every day. They will always feel loved, important, and understood. I will be their biggest advocate and protector and will encourage them to be who they want to be. I will teach them the importance of knowing who they are and where they come from.

I am open to whatever you are comfortable with in this adoption journey. I think it would be amazing if you want an open adoption and we can connect, and both be present in your child’s life. I am partially adopted, as you’ll read below, and know what it’s like from a child’s perspective to wonder where they came from. Thankfully, I’ve been blessed to have had a great life but understand the desire to want to know more about a birth parent. If you choose to do anything other than an open adoption, I want you to know that the door will always be open for you to be a part of your child’s life, in whatever way you are comfortable with.

I hope you’ll read more about who I am, and how I hope to be a great parent, below.

With love and respect,
Amber

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Why I'm Choosing to Adopt

I have always had the desire to be a parent. It’s a feeling that is just there within a person and recently I’ve realized that, even though I haven’t met someone to marry, that I can still be a positive influence in a child’s life. I have so much love to give and life experiences and knowledge to share. I truly believe that I will be a great parent and would love nothing more than the chance to enhance your child’s life through learning, loving and opportunity.

Adopting means that I will be able to experience parenthood while helping out a mother in need. I don’t feel that I have to have a child, but I do feel that I am meant to raise a child. It would mean the world to me to be able to enrich your child’s life by supporting them. I want to continue family traditions of holiday get togethers, camping, traveling and taking advantage of opportunities that become available to us. I want to help your child to have even more opportunities than I have had. I want to be that person that they turn to for support and care. And I really look forward to being there for them as they experience life—at school, in whatever activities they want to participate in, with family and friends, when they are sick, when they are excited and just day to day happenings.

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My Home

My home is in a small town in the Midwest. It’s truly a community where people care about and help each other. I live on a quiet cul-de-sac amongst families with children and pets. I’ve lived in bigger cities, but it’s also nice to live in a small, peaceful community that is safe but with quick access to larger cities to explore. My backyard is fenced-in and would be great for a child to play in. My dogs love to run around the yard and sunbathe on the back deck in the warmer months. I love to be outside doing home improvement projects and playing with my dogs. There is also a park with a story walk and bike trail access a block away from my house.

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My Sweet Pups

I have two dogs, Mac and Mila. Mac is a Corgi and I’ve had him since he was a puppy. He is stubborn and not a cuddler. He’s his own character and I love him dearly. He’s extremely loyal and loves belly rubs. His favorite snack is anything… except vegetables. Mila is a small-breed American Eskimo. I found her in a shelter when she was 7 years old. She had been released by a breeder and was very scared when she came to my home. I’ve worked with her over the past few years, and she now runs around the backyard with a big smile on her face. She’s very quiet and well-behaved. She loves cold weather, and her favorite snack is fresh snow. Every night before bed I tell them, “God Bless you, Momma loves you. Sweet dreams and sleep well.”

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About Me

I am, first and foremost, a kind person. I enjoy helping others (and pets) and being a part of something bigger than of myself. My story also involves being an adoptee.

Although I grew up with my birth mother, I was adopted by my adoptive father when I was 4-years-old. I haven’t seen my birth father since then but do still have memories of going to the movie, ET, with him and hanging out at his house. After he signed over his parental rights, my adoptive father stepped in and quickly showed me love and stability by being my coach, teaching me how to ride my bike, taking my brothers and me on family vacations and just being there for us on a day-to-day basis. He also included us in his extended families’ lives, and they have become a big part of who I am today. I never felt unwelcome or unloved around any of them and they have provided a lifetime of stability and comfort for me and my brothers.

I also have a stepfather who has been a huge part of my life and has helped me become the person I am. He is one of the most selfless people I know and has taught me a lot about work ethic, integrity, finances, treating other people with respect and the importance of family. He doesn’t have biological children of his own but considers us his own.

I have been blessed with three fathers and even though I haven’t seen my birth father since the age of 4, I still look at my life as positive and feel loved.

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My Family

My immediate family is smaller in size, but my extended family is pretty large. I do things with all sides of my family, including attending sporting events, family get-togethers, camping, kayaking, weddings, baby showers, birthdays, holidays and more. Whenever my extended families get together, there’s always a lot of laughing. We play cards, board games and catch up on each other’s lives. The last person to arrive always gets clapped for by everyone there.

I have several friends who live near me who also have young children. I’m often referred to as Aunt Ambs and love to play with my friends’ and relatives’ kids. I also have several friends that live in other states. My best friend and her family live in Arizona and I visit them every year and often go on family vacations with them. Their 2 kids call me Aunt Ambs, as well, and I’ve had so much fun watching them grow up and love being able to be a part of their lives. Their oldest, Addy, calls me often on FaceTime and we talk about her school, sports activities and dolls. They are very excited about the possibility of Aunt Ambs adopting a child. Addy says I will be a great mom!

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Family Traditions

We have so much fun throughout the year. Holidays are spent with both sides of my family. We go to church on Christmas Eve, after spending the afternoon together doing gift exchanges. In the summer we camp and invite friends and family out for food and games. For Halloween, we have our annual (and very competitive) pumpkin carving at my adopted dad’s house. We have our town celebration in the summer and participate in the parade and other activities. We also like to travel to new places when we can all join in. Last May, we went on a cruise in the French Riviera and got to spend time in Spain, France and Italy. We also do family dinner every Sunday at my mom and step father’s house.

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Vacations and Leisure Time

I have been blessed to have been able to travel and spend time on my hobbies. I love to travel and experience other cultures and people. I’ve been to Japan, Singapore, France, England, Ireland, Switzerland, Italy, Spain, Costa Rica and Mexico. I’ve also traveled to many states across the U.S. My favorite thing to do while traveling is to loosely plan each day and then see what else I encounter along the way. I love to experience new food and meet new people. I also love learning about the history of where I visit and the impact it’s had on the culture today.

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My Hobbies

I like to camp, kayak, fish, do crafts and art projects, ride my bicycle on the nearby bike trail, go to concerts, farmers markets, art festivals and try new restaurants. Some of my favorite memories as a child were camping with my parents and grandparents at campgrounds around the Midwest. My grandpa taught us how to fish and we cooked everything on the campfire.

I also read, love to try new recipes, do home projects and love to plant flowers in the spring. I’m currently trying to teach myself how to paint with watercolors.

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My Lifestyle

I like to be outside as much as possible during the warmer months of the year. In the summer, I go camping often with family and friends. We camp at a campground 15 minutes from home quite a bit and have become friends with other campers. While camping, we kayak either on the river or at a nearby lake, make too much food and play games. When not camping, I like to go the Farmer’s Market on Saturdays, go to brunch with friends, or visit family and friends. I’m also in the yard a lot in the summer, planting flowers or doing landscaping. In the colder months, I like to travel to see friends, go to concerts or off-broadway plays or attend different events indoors. I also cook a lot in the winter, trying new recipes and sharing with my family.

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My Personality

I am a mix of strong, funny, hardworking, kind, curious and inquisitive, among many other things. I love to try new things (travel, cooking, reading, meeting new people, hobbies) and I am also appreciative of everything that has happened to me and taught me in one way or another. I am a strong person in my family and try to help everyone when I am able. Family means everything to me, and I make my family a priority. I love to create family memories that we can laugh about years later. I am also the family photographer, always taking pictures of everyone, and sharing later. I started giving my family a yearbook of all our family memories last Christmas and plan to continue this new tradition. I am also the person that people seem to feel like they can reach out to for advice. I love helping others and believe in the power of connection and sharing our stories with each other. Life can be hard, but it’s much easier sometimes, at least to me, when you have others to share your ups and downs with.

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My Parents and Parenting

My parents consist of my mom and stepfather and my adoptive father and stepmother. We have all grown into a happy family that respects each other, but it did take time! Each couple is unique in their own ways, and I enjoy being able to do different things with each of them. We are a close family and get together often. I go to my mom and stepfather’s house every Sunday night for family dinner. We share how things are going, bring up any challenges we are facing and try new meals. We are light-hearted and like to tease each other. We play card games, board games and watch football together.

I will provide a stable foundation for your child to grow into a well-rounded, kind person. They will feel loved, understood and supported throughout their life. I will work to provide opportunities for them that help them learn about the world through school opportunities, summer camps, cultural programs and anything else I learn of that they may be interested in. I will be protective yet ensure that they feel safe. I will teach them all that I know and encourage them to learn what I cannot teach them. They will grow up around family pets, fun relatives and my friends’ children. They will know they can count on me, and I will always be there for them. We’ll explore, learn, grow, and make the most of every day. I am here to support them and encourage them. They will have rules and boundaries, but with kindness. I will always challenge them to be the best they can be, but not with pressure or disappointment if they make mistakes.

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Racial and Cultural Diversity

Racial and cultural diversity is an important subject to me. While I grew up without much racial or cultural diversity, I have always been interested in meeting people who have different backgrounds than my own. I love learning new things from others and sharing my own experiences, too. I have met and become friends with many people who are different from me, and I appreciate our differences. While you never truly understand what it’s like to be in someone else’s situation, I am always open to hearing about others’ experiences. My family is also racially diverse and has always loved each other just as they are. I will embrace and celebrate your child, no matter what, for who they are and want to be.

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What I will tell Your Child about You

I would love to tell your child all about you! Whatever you would like them to know. I think adoption can be beautiful and can enrich all involved. If you prefer a closed adoption, that is completely your choice. I will honor you and your wishes. No matter what, I can promise you that your child will know how completely brave, loving and strong you are for wanting the best life for them.

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My Promise to You

My promise to you is to love your child, unconditionally and with all that I have for the rest of my life. I will care for them, teach them and provide them with every opportunity that they want to take advantage of. I will do all that I can to make them feel loved, supported and understood. I will also be as open with you as you would like. We can get together and share our lives or I can keep you updated on all the highlights. I will always honor you and your choice to be in your child’s life, if you wish.