Married Since: 2010

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

Throughout this journey, we are committed to honoring the choice you make, and would be forever grateful for your gift. In whatever choice you make, we wish you the peace of knowing it is the right one for you and your child.

John and Mary

from Rhode Island

John

Ancestry: German, Irish, French

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Principal Software Engineer

Education: M.S.

Hobbies: Mountaineering, Kayaking, Fishing, Golf

Mary

Ancestry: Irish

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Professor

Education: Ph.D.

Hobbies: Hiking, Kayaking, Reading, Gardening

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: Caucasian

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

Favorites

John

Animal
Dog
Food
Tacos
Thing to Cook
Tacos (all different kinds)
Movie
Raiders of the Lost Ark
Early Bird or Night Owl
Early Bird
Leisure Activity
Fishing
Color
Blue
Subject in School
Math and History
Vacation Spot
Block Island
Holiday
Memorial Day

Mary

Animal
Dog
Food
Pizza
Thing to Cook
Homemade soup and buttermilk biscuits
Movie
Sound of Music
Early Bird or Night Owl
Night Owl
Leisure Activity
Reading
Color
Green and orange
Subject in School
English and History
Vacation Spot
Block Island
Holiday
Christmas
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From Us to You

Thank you for taking the time to read about us as you work towards making your decision. We admire your courage and faith in seeking the best path for you and your child.

We are a loving couple who have been married for five years. We both come from big, close-knit families, and we value family life. You can be assured that we will always give your child unconditional love and support, and that your child’s happiness and well-being would be the most important priority in our lives. Your child will also be warmly embraced by our extended families, and you can take comfort in knowing that your child will have many loving aunts, uncles, cousins and grandparents.

Please also know that we have the stability and resources to provide your child with a safe home, excellent education, and many opportunities to thrive. Our home is in a family-friendly neighborhood, and our town has excellent schools. We live in an ideal location for all the activities that we love and would love to share with a child. With ocean, mountains, and city all nearby, we get to enjoy hiking, fishing, and kayaking just as much as theater, museums, and our favorite sports teams. Often on weekends or holidays, we like to go to our vacation home in the mountains. Sometimes we bring family and friends with us; other times, it’s just us, our dog Charlie, and our favorite books.

Books would be very much a part of your child’s life with us. We both love to read, and believe that it is an important part of growing, learning, and developing a healthy imagination. We would provide a home where your child can not only dream, but can also be confident and inspired in pursuing those dreams.

Throughout this journey, we are committed to honoring the choice you make, and would be forever grateful for your gift. In whatever choice you make, we wish you the peace of knowing it is the right one for you and your child.

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

For us, adoption is the path to our dream of family. We are both close to our families, and we cherish the idea of family closeness and traditions. We want to be able to offer that life to a child. We are so grateful to have each other: we keep each other laughing and growing, whether we’re hiking with our dog, making dinner and being silly singing and dancing in the kitchen, or high-fiving each other when we get simple chores done. We married a little later in life than a lot of people, and we have a lot of love to give, so adoption seems the most healthy and feasible way for us to have the family we dream of. We are very healthy, vital, and active, and have a lot of love, enthusiasm, and a perspective to share. Adoption would allow us to do that and to keep growing and experiencing the blessings of family. It would make our family complete.

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About John

The first time I met John, I was struck by how earnest he is. He is honest, direct, and always open. He’s open-minded and open-hearted. As he told me stories about his travels around the world, I was immediately attracted to the enthusiastic way he talks. His animated demeanor and genuine smile interested and captivated me as much as the adventures themselves did. He was just so sweet and cute! And he’s really funny. As we got to know each other more, I also saw how down-to-earth he is. He is so interested in the world around him, he works hard, and he is genuine. In our first summer together, we took two of my nieces fishing. I admired his cheerful and patient interaction with them, and I knew right then that he would be a great dad. He was having as much fun casting his own line as he was showing my nieces how to cast and watching them learn something new. I loved seeing all three of them connect and celebrate and ultimately laugh hysterically when my niece Hannah worked so hard to reel in what turned out to be a huge piece of seaweed! Those girls are in college now, and they still talk about what a fun day that was—and John wholeheartedly agrees. I loved how kind and open he was then, and I love the way he embraces and enjoys the big and small parts of everyday life. He is kind, caring, hard-working, enthusiastic, and supportive; I know that he will be as wonderful, caring, and loving to your child as he is with me and all our family.

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About Mary

I met and immediately became attracted to Mary while out with friends one night. We connected right away. I thought it was cute how she was both a little shy but also really easy to talk to. With her great sense of humor, exceptional kindness always showed towards others, and hardworking nature, it was easy for me to fall in love and want to be with her. She was so kind, more thoughtful and considerate than anyone I’d ever met. We dated for a couple years and then one day while at our favorite beach, I proposed. In addition to being my wife, Mary is also my best friend. Through all our years together, she is still just as considerate and thoughtful as when we first met, and I just love what a good person she is. As a college professor Mary has the summer months off, and during that time, I will often come home from work to find her tending to the garden or working in other ways to take care of our home, and it just makes me smile. Whenever we have family or friends over, she goes out of her way to make sure everyone is welcome and comfortable. She is always thinking of others. I love how she takes care of our dog Charlie, our home, and me, and I know her calm and caring nature will make her an excellent mother.

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Our Home

We recently moved back to the state we both grew up in and we’re so happy to be here! It’s great to be close to family and friends again, and our new home gives us room to do all the things we love, indoors and out. Our kitchen is bright and spacious, and lately we have been doing lots of baking. Like a lot of people, we’ve started making our own bread, and after watching “The Great British Baking Show,” we’ve been having fun (if not always success!) trying out new pastry recipes. John loves pancakes, and we can’t wait to share pancake Saturdays with your child and to teach them how to cook and bake. And we are so excited to hear them running all around the house—and the backyard! We look forward to putting a swing set back there (with a climbing wall so John can pass on his skills), and we can’t wait to run around back there with them, building snowmen, teaching them to help in the vegetable garden, swinging and reading in the hammock, or walking down the street to go fishing in the cove with them. Basically, we look forward to the day a child will help make our house a home!

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Our Families

We both come from big, close-knit families. They are somewhat spread out, but we get together often. With many (fifteen) nieces and nephews between us, there’s always a reason to get together and something to celebrate. John is the youngest of four kids. They all love outdoor sports like golf and sailing, and we often get together for beach trips with them. Mary has eight brothers and sisters in five different states. Holidays and other family get-togethers are huge, loud, and lots of fun. Mary’s mom loves to cook for a crowd, and is always happy to invite one more to the table.

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Our Lifestyle

We enjoy a pretty simple and happy lifestyle. We love to spend our time together getting outdoors as much as possible: hiking, kayaking, snowshoeing, or spending the day at the beach. We enjoy spending time with friends and family, having outdoor adventures anywhere from the mountains, to the beach, to our own backyard, and learning new things. We love our jobs and also work hard to have work-life balance. We support and balance each other, too. John often reminds us to plan for the rainy days, while Mary reminds us to make the most of the sunny ones. John is a fishing fanatic! Some of our happiest times are when John is fishing in the ocean or a river, and Mary is there reading on the sand or shore, cheering on when he catches a fish. We dream of the days when we will have a child there to teach fishing or read stories to, and to explore the natural world with. Your child will grow up spending lots of time outdoors—we can’t wait for them to feel ocean waves for the first time or reel in their first fish, and we’re excited to read bedtime stories together and see them discover the world of books as well as nature. We also like to cook and watch movies together. Tacos are John’s dinner specialty, but he’s also a bit of a grill master, and John says Mary’s stuffed peppers are the best thing she makes. When it comes to movies, we watch a lot of mysteries and action-adventure, but every once in a while, John agrees to a “chick-flick” and ends up laughing as much as Mary does, especially if the movie has Reese Witherspoon or Sandra Bullock. Sweet Home Alabama and The Proposal are big hits with us. And we love all the Star Wars movies. We can’t wait to mix up some snacks and share movie nights with your child after a day of outdoor fun!

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Family Traditions

We enjoy spending time with friends and family, having outdoor adventures anywhere from the mountains, to the beach, to our own backyard, and learning new things. We both love to garden and over the years we have become a source of fresh veggies for our friends and families. And our homemade pickles and zucchini bread are huge hits with both of our families! It’s tradition for us to bring them to family gatherings. When we host the cookouts, John is in charge of the grill, and makes the best blackened fish using the technique his brother Darryl taught him. Everyone loves Mary’s potato salad (citrus zest is the secret!) and she has taken over the making of her mom’s much-loved macaroni salad. We can’t wait to teach your child about gardening and to keep handing down family recipes and traditions.

We are huge New England Patriots fans and on game days we don’t want to miss a single snap, so we usually plan our viewing to the minute. We will start a batch of chili early on a Sunday morning (usually with our home-grown tomatoes and peppers!) and put on our team tee-shirts and hats, and even pull out our mascots: a big teddy bear that came with a Patriots jersey on, and a giant stuffed gorilla that John won at a work Christmas party and that we put a Patriots hat and flag on. We cheer and scream at the players and coaches, and sometimes yell at the refs. John always gets worked up and has to stand up to watch, and this sometimes makes our dog, Charlie, get a little worked up and start barking at us and the stuffed animals, but it’s all fun. We dream of sharing this fandom with your child and would put them in a Patriots onesie ASAP (and promise to tone down the volume for their sake:) ).

We like to travel as much as we can, even if just for weekends away, and we have established a family “rule” that each year we have to take at least one trip where we can swim and one trip where we can learn something new. One year, for example, we went to Florida and enjoyed the sunny beach for four glorious days, and later we went to Vermont and explored fly-fishing museums and historic homes. Your child will grow up seeing so many fun, beautiful and interesting places. And along the way we will share another of our travel traditions with them: reading out loud in the car. We both love to read, and when we do road trips, we like to have the passenger read aloud. It’s a little silly when we could easily listen to podcasts or something, but it’s just one of our things. Sharing a John Grisham or Lee Child book is part of the fun of our travel, and we can’t wait to share books and travel with your child. Mary already has a stack of books to share with them—The House at Pooh Corner, Charlotte’s Web, The Giving Tree—and we look forward to learning about the hobbies and places they might like to explore.

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Our Hobbies

Together, we love to hike, kayak, and snowshoe. We also love to pack a cooler and beach umbrella and spend the day at the beach. Individually, John takes our outdoor hobbies to the next level. He absolutely loves fishing, and often goes on day-long adventures where he hikes to a river with an inflatable kayak on his back and then spends hours fly-fishing with flies he has tied himself in his workshop at home. He’s very inventive and industrious and likes to build and design things; your child would always have someone eager to explore the outdoors with or take on new projects like science experiments and homemade Halloween costumes. In addition to the outdoor hobbies with John, Mary loves reading, writing (besides the writing she does for work, she is slowly but surely working on a novel) and getting involved in our community. She volunteers with Hospice and voter registration campaigns. She also loves doing DIY projects. Whenever we go to the beach, she collects beach stones and driftwood and has recently started making rock “art.” She also makes homemade soaps, lip balms, and cleaning products—and looks forward to making baby-safe soaps and lotions! We like to keep busy whatever the season and would introduce your child to a big range of hobbies and give them lots of opportunities to explore, create, and be active.

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Our Relationship with You

We would like to build a healthy and positive relationship with you. We would be full of gratitude and appreciation for you and want to make sure you knows this. Semi-open seems like a happy medium for us, and above all we would want to establish a mutually respectful relationship. We both come from families where all the kids look alike and can talk about who got what feature from which parent. John has his mother’s height and his father’s laid-back personality. Mary looks just like her dad. If you were comfortable with this, we would want your child to be able to make similar connections.

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Our Careers

For both of us, our career choices come out of our family backgrounds and childhood experiences. John’s dad, two brothers, and sister are all engineers and they had a big influence on him. As a kid, he loved tinkering with computers and other electronics, and his dad and older siblings supported his interests and taught him a lot. John went into a different branch of engineering than his dad, but he definitely got his inspiration from him. John’s mom always jokes that she is the only non-engineer in the bunch, but in her work as a nurse, she also inspired John with her interests in science and research. Mary’s family were not teachers like she is (her dad drove a forklift and her mom was a telephone operator), but they both loved to read and filled her childhood home with books. Everyone in the family read, but Mary really loved school and talking about books with her dad, who was also active in local politics and was always writing letters to the editor of the newspaper. As he got older, she would type and edit those letters for him. Becoming an English professor and getting to do work that focused on reading and writing was a natural choice for her. We both love our work, and we value and appreciate the way we came to it through our families’ examples and guidance. We believe that work is important, but ultimately family matters most. We would cherish the chance to share our passions with your child and to support them as they develop and explore their own passions.

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Our Promise to You

We promise to always love your child. Unconditionally. We will nurture and cherish them and do our absolute best to raise a child who is happy, loving, and kind. Your child would be the center of our universe. They will know they are loved and cherished, by you as much as by us, and they will know how grateful we are for them and for you. We would tell them all about you, share photos, updates, and communications from you if you choose that, and provide whatever resources they need to understand and appreciate the gift you will have given them and us. We would talk to them about adoption and their birth mom/family from an early age, so it is a safe, natural, and comfortable part of their identity. We will make sure they always see our respect and gratitude for you. We will give your child our time, attention, and acceptance. We will share with them our hobbies and passions and give them chance and space to find their own. Most of all, we promise to always give them our love and support. Unconditionally!

Message John and Mary

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact John and Mary

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!