Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

My wish is to raise a child to be kind and hard-working, and watch with pride as he or she grows into a loving, capable adult.

Carmel

from California

Carmel

Ancestry: Italian, Puerto Rican, Western European

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Sales / Design Consultation

Education: B.S.

Hobbies: Nature, Hiking, Yoga, Cooking, Photography, Art

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Native American, Hispanic

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Photos

Dear Expectant Mother,

Although I don’t know you yet, I imagine you are a very special person. You must undoubtedly feel so much love for the little gift growing inside of you. And yet, you consider adoption. This shows you are truly selfless and so courageous. I wish you strength and comfort during this difficult time.

I am a happy, single woman living in California, who has been focused on career and experiencing life before starting a family. I always wanted to be a mother, but I wanted to be well prepared. I have worked in various areas of Marketing and especially like working with eco-friendly home furnishings. I currently work in eCommerce, and have a solid foundation that will provide security and stability for me and your child. Additionally, I am surrounded by dear friends and family who are giving me great emotional support on this journey.

Recently, I fostered a sweet, precious, 4-year-old girl, and we bonded deeply, very quickly. When her maternal family saw how well she was doing, they wanted me to adopt her outright. But a paternal cousin wanted to raise her. Fostering taught me that I can love a child, who isn’t my biological child, without reservation. So now I’m turning to adoption to build my family.

I live in an upscale area with a friendly, small-town vibe. My beautiful apartment complex has all the amenities, and an interactive community. Plus there is abundant nature, with walking trails, just a short stroll away. I look forward to taking your little one to the park and playground across the street. Then when he or she is older, we will enjoy the wider, cosmopolitan area for things like theater, art, children’s museum, outdoor summer concerts, etc. I am focused on health and wellness, and blessed to be strong and healthy. I exercise regularly, either yoga or on the hiking trails near my apartment. I shop at farmers’ markets in season, and cook (mostly) healthy meals….I love making brownies or apple/berry crisps.

My house will provide a fun, fulfilling place to grow up, as I am very playful, and would create joyful experiences within a structured environment. Together we would do arts and crafts, thinking games, sports or dance, play dates, and responsible screen time. For relaxing times, we would read, play music, or enjoy movie night snuggled on the couch. I love photography and trying to capture the essence of a person or a special moment in time. So you could expect many photos of your child through the years!

Education is very important to me. I’m always continuing my own learning, and even took a class on Child Development recently. So I try to encourage children’s curiosity, and lead them towards discovery and learning experiences. Children have an innate desire to learn, and I try to encourage a love of learning, whether for academics or a hobby. I would also search out the best schools. The goal would be to see your child reach their full, natural potential with excitement and pride.

Your child would be raised with lots of positive attention, and loving support and encouragement. I would raise him/her to be kind, confident and to always try their best. I would teach your child right from wrong, and would model good behavior myself. I would teach good decision-making so that the child can navigate life’s more difficult situations as he/she grows up. And I would provide guidance even in adulthood, while allowing him/her to grow into the person they are meant to be.

I was raised by a single mother, and we were extremely close. I cared for her as she slowed down, and was by her side until the end. She loved me unconditionally, while still guiding me towards growth and achievement. So I can promise you that I would love your child unconditionally also, for the rest of my life, while always helping with development. I look forward to playing pretend with funny voices, helping with homework, talking about our day over dinner, helping set-up a college dorm room… and beyond.

My father and sister, Candice, anxiously await for your baby to arrive so they can shower him or her with love. My sister, who would be my backup, is an ICU nurse. She and her lovely husband are also trying to start a family. My closest friend Monica, and her sister and mother, are like a second family to me. Monica and her husband are both teachers, and they have 3 great children. I have a strong extended network of friends, and we support each other in many ways. If I ever need help, advice, or a heart-to-heart conversation it’s never far away. Many of my friends work in business, technology and creative fields. In fact, a photographer friend was delighted to be a part of my adoption by shooting photographs for my profile.

Thank you for taking the time to read my letter. I’m so excited about the prospect of having a little one that I can cherish and love. And I am so thankful that you are thinking of giving the gift of adoption.

Carmel

Q&A

Tell us about your home and neighborhood.

I chose the town where I live because it’s rated as a great place to raise a family, being very safe, and having excellent schools and many amenities. Right across the street I have a park, playground, hiking/biking trails, and a creek. I live in a luxury apartment complex, with lots of families and working professionals, where people stop and talk to one another and neighbors help each other. I feel very comfortable here, as the town is safe, management is friendly and helpful, and there is security patrol and 24-hour maintenance.

When you have a 3-day weekend, what do you like to do?

In the past, I would take advantage of a 3-day weekend by tackling a house project. I own a condominium, and have recently renovated it to be a rental property. Now I look forward to having a child that I can share adventures with, and 3 days would allow us to explore farther than normal. In California we have so much nature to enjoy. We would explore the beach and tide pools, play in the forest and see Giant Sequoias, swim in rivers, climb on rocks, and enjoy mountain and snow activities. There are also old Western towns to explore, possibly with gold mining history or train rides. And of course, I love amusement parks. I have family near Disneyland and they would love to host us and join us in the park.

What do you hope to teach your child?

I hope to teach respect, gratitude and resilience, as I think these are among the most important things we can teach children. If kids have respect for themselves and for other people, they will make friends easily, learn from others, and grow up to become good citizens. I would practice gratitude with the child on a regular basis, so it becomes an ingrained skill to see the positive things in life. And to strengthen resilience, I would teach him/her how to problem-solve, how to calculate and manage risk, and how to make smart decisions. Skills like these will help during challenging times while growing up, and throughout adult life, and ultimately should lead to a more happy and fulfilling life.

What will you tell your child about his or her birthmom?

I would tell my child that his/her birth mom is an extra special person, someone who gave the greatest gift of all, and who made us into a family. I will explain that she had so very much love, and wanted to give him/her the best future, even if she couldn’t provide it herself. And when the child is old enough, I’ll explain the sacrifice that she made - that she loved and wanted the child for herself, but that her life circumstances made it impossible at that time. But what a motherly thing to do.

Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities.

My family has always been involved with the church. When I was a teen, I helped teach Sunday school to the very little toddlers. Then I was a camp counselor for many summers at a church-run camp, a truly beautiful place with lovely people. The friends I worked with at camp are like family to me, and I’m still in touch with them today. I recently got to attend a long weekend at camp as an adult, and enjoyed helping children make wooden robots. I would definitely have my child attend summer camp there, as it was a wonderful experience for all who did. Currently, I attend church and have a few lady friends at the church who act as mentors to me. One of them adopted her son, so they couldn’t be more excited for me.

How will a child enrich your life?

I was blessed with a foster daughter for awhile, so I know first hand how having a child will enrich my life. She gave my life more meaning, and gave me more purpose, as I was living everyday with her best interest in mind. I empathized as she was met with struggles, and I shared her joy when she had accomplishments, and I rocked her to sleep in my arms. All of this created a bond that is stronger than the miles that are now between us. Our social worker once said, “I’ve never seen a foster child run into the arms of a foster parent the way she runs to Carmel.” Of course I miss her, but I am comforted by the knowledge that I was there for her when she needed me in her life. And knowing that there is a part of me inside of this amazing little being, as she grows and develops, gives me a sense of pride. Having felt how she enriched my life makes me long for a little one of my own now.

Describe your last vacation and/or daytrip.

I recently visited a couple of dear lady friends and their families in Austin. They each are happily married to great husbands. One has two girls and the other has two boys, and they live so close together that they co-parent. I caught up with the ladies, and we cooked and ate good food. But I especially enjoyed playing with the four kids. I played Legos and dolls, and hide-and-go seek. I went on the trampoline, did gymnastics on the grass, and attended a Martial Arts class. My dear friend Natasha wanted to tell you this about my stay: Carmel has such a natural way with children, unafraid to truly BE with them. They feel her honesty, and caring and playful connection. She’s a giver at heart and shares her love freely. Any child that is fortunate to cross her path will feel this. My girls love her wholeheartedly and miss her daily asking when she’ll be back. And our girls look forward to embracing a ‘cousin’ as much as I look forward to being an ‘auntie’ to Carmel’s future child. – Natasha

Will you be returning to work? If so, describe your day-care plans.

I will stay home with the new baby as long as I can on maternity leave, or possibly even between jobs. I know this time is very important in making a deep loving bond. But eventually, when we both are ready, I’ll go back to work. I’ll probably get someone to sit with the baby in the house initially, and help out with household duties, so we can enjoy more quality time together. Then when the baby is older, he/she can transition to daycare, and then finally preschool. Any caregivers and preschools will be very carefully screened. My studies taught me that a parent does not need to spend every minute of the day with the baby/child to make them feel secure and loved, but more importantly, that they are fully present and giving them loving undivided attention when they are together. Plus, I want my child to learn good social skills from an early age.

When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth mother?

I will be eternally grateful to this very special person, knowing that having a baby would not have been possible without her strength and courage. And I’ll want to show that gratitude often by letting her know how we are doing, and sharing with her the milestones and special moments. I’ll be wishing that she stays in her child’s life, so that she can share in the love, and with time know that she has made the right decisions.

Message Carmel

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!