Married Since: 2013

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: Yes

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We want to ensure that our children have no regrets growing up; that they can experience and accomplish anything they want in life.

John and April

from Illinois

John

Ancestry: Irish, German, Welsh

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Cyber Specialist

Education: B.A.

Hobbies: Cooking, Golf, Travel, Music, Outdoors

April

Ancestry: German

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Sr. Business Development Manager

Education: B.A.

Hobbies: Reading, Travel, Golf, Music

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

Favorites

John

Animaall
Shark
Book
Anything from Clive Cussler
Color
Blue
Family Activity
Making Sunday morning breakfast and watching football
Food
As a foodie and a home chef, I enjoy all food. My favorite changes as often as my shirt.
Holiday
Christmas
Music
Classic Rock
Thing to Cook
Homemade pastrami
Vacation Spot
Ireland/Scotland

April

Animal
Tiger
Book
Anything from JK Rowling
Color
Purple
Family Activity
Bike rides
Food
Pasta and chocolate
Holiday
Christmas
Music
80's Hair Metal
Thing to Cook
Mac 'n cheese
Vacation Spot
Bora Bora
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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

We want to take a moment to write you personally in hopes that this letter provides you with some comfort and ease. We understand and can appreciate many of the emotions that you have been experiencing since you were informed of your pregnancy, and the magnitude of your decision to choose adoption.

John: Having been adopted at birth myself, I have been told the story many times of how I came to be through the adoption process and how I was connected with my forever parents. To say it was a difficult process would be an understatement, but the story does get better. If my birth mother decided not to choose adoption for me, I would not be who I am today. I would not have been able to see the world, share memorable experiences with others, witness life-changing events, or even meet some of the unique people I have over the years. If I wasn’t adopted, I would not have had the chance to marry the love of my life, and I would not have been able to adopt our daughter, Virginia. I am who I am and I am able to write this letter to you today because my birth mother chose adoption.

Our daughter, Virginia, too has been blessed through the wonders of adoption. Over the past three and a half years, she has already traveled to many states within the US, experienced wonderful cuisine, and visited zoos, libraries, and museums to take in as much as possible at a young age. We are constantly looking for new and exciting things to show her to challenge her both physically and mentally. This is the same that we would do for the next child we bring into our family. We want to ensure that our children have no regrets growing up; that they can experience and accomplish anything they want in life.

The same goes for you as a birth mother. Although this may be one of the hardest decisions you will ever make in life; we want you to know that your child can always be a part of your life. For us, it is all about open communication, and we are committed to providing as much information as you wish while you continue to pursue your goals in life. We currently have both email and Snapfish accounts for Virginia so her birthparents can receive regular updates on her progress in life. We want to provide as much comfort and reassurance as possible and our door is always open.

We believe that there is a reason for everything in this world. The child that enters our lives is a gift from God, and there is a reason why that particular child has been brought into our lives for us to raise. Our gift is to ensure that your child always knows where he or she came from, how truly special they are, and that they can do anything they want in this world. Our gift is also to ensure that we provide as many opportunities for success in your child’s life as possible.

Ultimately, we wish that every child on earth grows up happy and healthy. Our hope is that when they are older, they can look back on their life with as little regret as possible. To that end, that is exactly our gift to our children.

As you continue to contemplate your options, please know that you are not alone and we are here to help in any way we can.

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How We Met

We met while attending college; however, it would be fifteen years later that we would wed. April had seen John on campus for a couple of years but had never had the pleasure of making his acquaintance. Since only knowing that he was a part of a social club called the Avalanche, she and her friends nicknamed John “Avalanche”. Whenever seeing John on campus, we would claim we had an “Avalanche Sighting.” It wasn’t until attending a winter party while on crutches that April was approached by John, who then proceeded to assist her home in the snow to ensure she was safe.

We dated for two and a half years but unfortunately, it was not meant to be at that time. Fate had something else in store for the two of us. Fate decided that both of us would go our separate ways, thus realizing the hard way that the two of us were truly meant for each other.

Fifteen years later, we were able to reunite and start the life we always intended. We spent the first four years of marriage enjoying our time together while preparing our house for children. The most recent years have been dedicated to the love, growth and development of our daughter, Virginia. We now are excited to turn the page to the next chapter in life and add another child to our family, and a sibling for Virginia.

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About April, by John

Always the consummate optimist, April continues to see the best in people and the silver lining in life. It is hard not to have your cheeks hurt after meeting April, as you are constantly smiling from the time you meet her to the time you part ways. Watching April interact with our daughter, Virginia, as well as her many cousins, nieces, and nephews, it is apparent what a wonderful mother and parental figure she is.

I have known April for more than fifteen years and am always happy and relaxed when she is around. When times are stressful, April is calm and collected. It is fun to watch her get excited, especially at the small things in life, like when her favorite song comes on the radio; she jumps up and down and claps her hands and a big smile comes over her face. April may have to dress up for work, but as soon as work is done, April loves getting comfy in a nice sweatshirt and jammy pants.

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About John, by April

I have known John for a long time and I have come to know that he wants to live life to the fullest, and his mom would tell you he always does. John is the type that is willing to try something once before he decides if he likes it or not. He is never afraid and jumps headfirst into everything. But no matter what he always has a smile on his face, one that makes you smile right along with him. John can be a kid at heart and he makes everyone around him feel important and welcomed. He is a great father as he is kind and loving, patient and understanding, and most of all, passionate. It is seeing all these traits in him every day that instills the love I have for him.

Being adopted himself, he has a deep understanding of the wonderful gift that a birth mother gives her child and the family. And it is this understanding that makes him such a great father to our daughter, Virginia. He has so much love to spread, advice to give, experience to share, fun to be had, and guidance to give to a child that enters our home.

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Our Hobbies

We have many hobbies that we enjoy together. We love sports (watching and playing them) as well as camping and doing things outdoors. We are big foodies and enjoy trying new recipes and restaurants. Most of all, we just love hanging out together as a family. We both volunteer when we can to help raise money for all the non-profits that are in our community. John’s personal hobbies also include music appreciation, auto enthusiasm, model building, reading, and most importantly, COOKING! April, on the other hand, loves to read, decorate the house for all seasons, watching movies and shop. It seems the thing we most love doing together is traveling. While we have seen some really great places in this world over the years; we want to ensure that our kids are able to experience the world just like we have.

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Our Families

John’s Family
It is time to introduce you to the people who formed me into the man I am today. As previously mentioned, I was also adopted myself. My parents, Phil and Kathie, met fifty years ago while living and working in the Midwest. Mom is a speech therapist and watercolor painter/teacher, while Dad is enjoying retirement from the business world, focusing his time on singing in the choir, Spanish lessons, and learning about wine. I have one sister, Megan, who is two years older than I, and adopted at birth as well. The two of us had tons of fun growing up as siblings; from making forts in the backyard, to singing to music in the basement, to going camping every summer with our parents. We are still close to this day as we currently live a couple of hours apart. My sister and her husband have two kids. Their son is finishing high school this year and intends to go to college to study Engineering, while their daughter has a couple of years left in high school but is looking at going to college for nursing or medicine. I am the godfather to both and have enjoyed every minute of watching them grow up. We tend to get together 6-10 times a year, between holidays, family trips, summertime, and just random visits.

April’s Family
My immediate family may be small but my extended family is large. I grew up on a farm that has been in my mom’s family for 100 years. When I was growing up my dad worked in a factory and my mom stayed home to raise my brother and me. She always encouraged us to get involved in any activities in school and work hard to keep our grades up. My parents were at every event to cheer us on. When I went off to college my mom also decided to get her college degree. We always loved to call each other and compare notes. My family does many things together: we had a boat and learned to tube and ski, we did long road trips to cool locations, we rode horses, joined many clubs and played sports. Currently, my mom and dad are only 3 hours from us, and we visit each other all the time. My brother lives next door to my parents and has a young child. My extended family is large; my dad was the oldest of seven kids so I have twelve aunts and uncles, around fifty cousins and more second cousins than I can even count. We all get together for different events throughout the year and it is always craziness but full of fun. My mother’s side is small, she is the youngest of three. I have 4 aunts and uncles and eighteen cousins. When we all get together is it big meals, great conversation and some fun game playing. Even though we all do not live close we try to keep in touch as often as we can.

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Why We are Choosing to Adopt

When we found out that we would not be able to bear children of our own, we knew that there was a reason for this hurdle. Since we always wanted a family of our own and knowing that John was adopted himself; we had an extremely positive history of the adoption process based on his experience. Both of us have been provided with many rare opportunities in life through our parents and families, and we always wanted to provide our children with the same or similar unique life experiences. We have said from the beginning that our birth mothers will never have to worry about their babies, as every minute of every day would be devoted to giving them the best life possible and teaching them the value of respect and love for all living beings in the world. At age 3, Virginia has already been able to travel a fair amount of the US with us and has been able to partake in many activities most toddlers her age have yet to experience.

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My Family, by Virginia

Mom and Dad picked me up the day after I was born. I was just a little nugget, only weighing 5 ½ lbs; but that’s because my birth mother was petite too. As soon as they cradled me in their arms, I knew I was loved. It has been a whirlwind of fun since I was born over three and a half years ago. Traveling was a big part of Mom and Dad’s life before I came along, so I have traveled a ton with them, racking up more frequent flyer miles than some businessmen. So far, I have visited Illinois, Texas, Florida, Alabama, Arizona, Colorado, Iowa, and Wisconsin. Since Mom and Dad are big foodies too, I get fed really well and we go to a lot of really cool restaurants. Dad is the “chef” in the house and he makes cooking look so much fun that I want to help him every chance I get. They even bought me a stool that gets me up nice and high and in the action at the countertop. Mom and Dad brought Zoe into my life when I was about a year and a half. They call her a nanny, but I am not sure what that means. I do know that Zoe and I play every day and have tons of fun. She takes me to the parks, to the kid’s museum, and to the library, amongst other places. Zoe is able to hang out with me when Mom and Dad are working during the week. I have been going to swimming, gymnastics, and soccer practice each week and I think I am getting the hang of ‘em. While it has been great getting to know my parents and my world, Mom and Dad say that I may get a little brother or sister, and I am extremely excited. I have had so much fun in my room, that I told Mom and Dad to give it to my baby brother or sister when they arrive and I am going to take the big girl room. Dad says he is going to build me a fort in my room when I make the move, so that is exciting too. I am proud to say that I finally get to start school and am looking forward to making even more friends in addition to the ones I have in my neighborhood.

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A Day in My Life, by Mouse the St. Bernard

It is usually about 7 AM when I decide to get up for the day. Since my parents and human sister are still asleep, getting up for me usually entails standing in front of my father’s side of the bed, breathing heavily, and knocking everything off his bedside table with my tail. If this doesn’t get his attention, sometimes I have to whine a little. As expected, he eventually gets up, along with my human sister, Virginia. Unfortunately, I then have to wait and watch patiently on the kitchen floor while Dad makes coffee, wipes crusties out of his eyes, and watches cartoons and plays with Virginia until Zoe the Nanny arrives. The fun begins when Dad can take me for my morning walk to smell the air and enjoy the outdoors for a bit.

My name is Mouse and I am a 3.5yr old St Bernard. April and John are my mom and dad. They still do not know how I got my name since they adopted me during the pandemic from a bad situation. Most of my day consists of following my dad around the house. Since I never know where he is going or when he’ll be back, I may as well keep tabs on him as much as possible. Whenever he is working, it gives me a chance to nap in the bathroom and SNORE! I like to snore. Even though I get plenty of walks and outdoor playtime when Virginia is home, my ultimate treat is when they take me to the dog park. I may not be the fastest horse in the stable, but I try to hold my own with the other dogs. It is great having a human sister like Virginia around the house as she is very gentle with me. A lot of times, the two of us will just lie together and keep each other warm while we watch cartoons. I can’t wait for Mom and Dad to get another human baby so Virginia and I can help teach them the ropes of the house.

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Lifestyle

We have been living our married lives together with one main motto; “If it’s meant to be, it’s meant to be.” This phrase has been an active part of our lifestyle throughout, from when we first started dating, all the way to when we adopted our daughter, Virginia. We have a very active faith and believe that there is a reason for everything. We are a very active family of four (us, our 3.5yr old daughter, Virginia, and a 3.5yr old St Bernard named Mouse). We work from home on the weekdays, which gives us the flexibility for ample family time with Virginia. Our weekends are always spent outdoors in some capacity. From concerts and festivals to golf, playground parks, and the pool; we are always finding new and fun ways to entertain our family. Even while we work, our nanny always has Virginia out and about, exploring new things and constantly learning.

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Our Faith

We both grew up in Roman Catholic upbringings. I (John) recall as a child being read the Children’s Bible by my parents for bed time stories. Both of us have 16 years of a Catholic education, having gone to a Catholic elementary school, high school, and a Jesuit University. We both continue to practice our faith on an ongoing basis as we attend mass every Sunday at our Parish, and John is also an active member of the Knights of Columbus. God plays so much of a part in both our lives on a daily basis and could be one of the reasons why we both are as grounded as we can be. Both of us believe that we must treat all people as equals in life and treat everyone with the respect that they deserve. While we may not agree with certain decisions people make in life, it is our job in life to make the most of each day with what God has given us. Our children will have plenty of opportunities to grow and learn about God and following His ways as they will attend Catholic School as well.

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The Homestead

We moved into our neighborhood after many weeks of house hunting. We knew we wanted to be in an area that touted the best school districts, the best neighborhoods, and the best play areas for children. Our neighborhood is one of the older ones in our city, which means it has character. The streets are lined with mature trees and the houses are well kept. Over the past eight years, 17 new families have moved into our neighborhood, all with children between the ages of 2 and 14, which is great as it gives Virginia many kids to play with. We also moved into a house on a cul-de-sac which means there is no traffic and all the kids typically play out in front every day. Since bringing Virginia home, we have done everything possible to make the house “kid safe” while still being fun. We converted one of the bedrooms into a playroom dedicated to fun and have even redesigned the basement for kid play during the cold winter months. John built a 6x12ft custom sandbox in the back yard, and in 2022, we plan to build a treehouse and hobbit house in the backyard to complement the Rainbow Play System we built in 2020 during COVID. We encourage outdoor play as much as possible.

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Family Traditions

While a majority of our traditions are passed down from traditions we experienced as children ourselves, we too have a couple of traditions we have started of our own. One of the biggest traditions that still plays a major role in our family is Christmas. It starts with the weekend after Thanksgiving as we transform our house, both inside and out, into a winter wonderland. April had a tradition growing up of making or acquiring a new Christmas ornament every year which would pertain to a significant event that happened that year. When April turned 30, her mother wrapped up every ornament she collected during those years and passed them onto April to put on her own tree. Each year, we decorate our house with various Christmas trees, villages, lights, decorations, and ornaments. We have over 40 of these special ornaments, (as well as three new ones for Virginia) and we hang them prominently on the front of our Christmas tree for all to see. Now that Virginia is getting a little older, she always wants to help Daddy cook. To get ready for Christmas Day, Virginia helps Daddy bake cookies for Santa, which creates a nice warm aroma throughout the house, just in time for bed. Once Virginia is asleep, we incorporate one of John’s family traditions. John’s parents would wrap most gifts and put them under the tree, save for a few of the larger presents. Those would be fully assembled and placed in front or around the tree as if Santa brought them from the North Pole. In 2019, one of Virginia’s featured presents was a kitchen set. We had a blast assembling this while sitting on the family room floor in front of the fire. We cannot explain the excitement and wonder on Virginia’s face as she entered the family room Christmas morning to see all the new toys and games. Luckily, we captured it on video.

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Travel & Leisure

Since both our careers have us on the road quite a bit, we try to vacation in places that we would not normally be able to. We were fortunate enough to have crossed a couple of places off our bucket lists over the past eight years, but are holding out on a couple more places for when our children are older. When John was a child, his father’s career was such that he was able to take John and his family to far off destinations such as Japan, China, Australia, and parts of Europe. Ever since John had the privilege of such travel, he vowed to himself that he would do whatever it took to provide his children the same opportunities. We believe that every child should have the privilege of education through travel. While it is one thing to read about history in books, it is something entirely different to witness historical significance firsthand. Already in her first three years of life, Virginia has been able to experience Disney, the beach, the ocean, the mountains of Colorado, and the Arizona desert. We both have been to almost all 50 US states and numerous countries during our lives and want to ensure our children can travel as much, if not more.

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Our Friends

Friends play a large role in our daily lives. Many of the friendships we have fostered over the years have come from work, our neighborhood, church, and working alongside volunteers of a non-profit organization we belonged to for eight years. A majority of our friends also have kids of varying ages, which continues to help us with our parenting skills and provide Virginia with kids to play with. It is nice to have a set of friends who have also adopted their children. Our friends Tony and Stephanie adopted their sons a few years ago and it has been fun to see them grow. Anytime we have parties or get-togethers, it is a blast to see all the children running around the front and back yards, as well as the playrooms and the basement. Usually takes a day to clean up after any get together as we are finding toys all over the place. So much fun though. In recent years, John has been honored to be named Godfather to two different newborns; his niece Jade, as well as his best friend’s daughter, Phoebe. April has also been honored to be named Godmother for Jade.

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Racial & Cultural Diversity

While John comes from a background of German, Irish, and Polish descent (not to mention Danish and Welsh from his birth mother); and April comes from German heritage; Virginia takes it one step further having been born of Latino and African American birth parents.  Although this may make us a “melting pot” of a family; we both were raised in a devout Catholic household, a religion we continue to actively practice with our daughter. Because of this upbringing, both of us were taught to love and respect all people of all races, sexes, and cultures. Racial and cultural diversity has never been an issue in our lives as we have always believed in the statement that “All Men & Women are created equal in God’s image” This is an important and fundamental lesson that we intend to instill in our children and we believe is the cornerstone to a moral and loving upbringing.

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Our Relationship with Virginia's Birth Parents

Both of us have agreed from the beginning of this journey that we would be 100% open and engaging with the birth parents of our children. That being said, when Virginia was born, we discussed this with her birth parents, and told them to always let us know how engaged they wanted to be with us so we could accommodate their wishes. We set up an email account in Virginia’s name so that we can always collaborate and share stories, and we opened a Snapfish account so that we can always share pictures; something that we continue to update regularly throughout the year.

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Our Promise to You

Every time we hold our daughter, we remind ourselves how lucky we are that her birthmother chose us to parent this wonderful child. We will be just as grateful to you for your beautiful baby. We promise to provide the best life possible for your baby to re-enforce and honor your decision to allow us to adopt them. This decision will forever be one of the toughest choices you will have to face in your life and if we can provide the comfort of knowing your child will always be well taken care of; then we have done our part.

Message John and April

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact John and April

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!