Married Since: 2013

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: Yes

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We want to ensure that our children have no regrets growing up; that they can experience and accomplish anything they want in life.

John and April

from Illinois

 

John

Ancestry: Irish, German, Welsh

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Cyber Specialist

Education: B.A.

Hobbies: Cooking, Golf, Travel, Music, Outdoors

April

Ancestry: German

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Sr. Business Development Manager

Education: B.A.

Hobbies: Reading, Travel, Golf, Music

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

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Dear Expectant Mother,

We want to take a moment to write you personally in hopes that this letter provides you with some comfort and ease. We understand and can appreciate many of the emotions that you have been experiencing since you were informed of your pregnancy, and the magnitude of your decision to choose adoption. Having been adopted at birth myself, I have been told the story many times of how I came to be through the adoption process and how I was connected with my forever parents. To say it was a difficult process would be an understatement, but the story does get better. If my birth mother decided not to choose adoption for me, I would not be who I am today. I would not have been able to see the world, share memorable experiences with others, witness life-changing events, or even meet some of the unique people I have over the years. If I wasn’t adopted, I would not have had the chance to marry the love of my life, and I would not have been able to adopt our daughter, Virginia. I am who I am and I am able to write this letter to you today because my birth mother chose adoption.

Our daughter, Virginia, too has been blessed through the wonders of adoption. Over the past two years, she has already traveled to many states within the US, experienced wonderful cuisine, and visited zoos, libraries, and museums to take in as much as possible at a young age. We are constantly looking for new and exciting things to show her to challenge her both physically and mentally. This is the same that we would do for the next child we bring into our family. We want to ensure that our children have no regrets growing up; that they can experience and accomplish anything they want in life.

The same goes for you as a birth mother. Although this may be one of the hardest decisions you will ever make in life; we want you to know that your child can always be a part of your life. For us, it is all about open communication, and we are committed to providing as much or as little information as you wish while you continue to pursue your goals in life. We currently have both email and Snapfish accounts for Virginia so her birth parents can receive regular updates on her progress in life. We want to provide as much comfort and reassurance as possible and our door is always open.

We believe that there is a reason for everything in this world. The child that enters our lives is a gift from God, and there is a reason why that particular child has been brought into our lives to raise. Our gift is to ensure that your child always knows where he or she came from, how truly special they are, and that they can do anything they want in this world. Our gift is also to ensure that we provide as many opportunities for success in your child’s life as possible.

Ultimately, we wish that every child on earth grows up happy and healthy. Our hope is that when they are older, they can look back on their life with as little regret as possible. To that end, that is exactly our gift to our children.

As you continue to contemplate your options, please know that you are not alone and we are here to help in any way we can.

John & April

Q&A

Describe your Childhood

Adoptive Dad: Having been adopted at birth myself, my parents told me my adoptive story as early as I can remember. We were a very active family, going camping, hiking, horseback riding, and taking family trips as soon as my sister and I were old enough. My sister and I attended Catholic Schools from 1st grade through college and my parents, while they never spoiled us, made sure that we had every opportunity available to us to enjoy life. We also grew up understanding the value of hard work, ethics, and good morals; all values I hope to instill in my children as they grow up. Adoptive Mom: a. I grew up in a small town in Iowa. I had one brother who is 5 years younger than me. My parents were big on getting us involved in all activities so that we could decide what we wanted to do moving forward. Life was always fun and happy. I have a large extended family and we all grew up together and learned how important family is. Family is always first.

Are you active in your church? Tell us about your activities

We go to church on a regular basis and plan on sending our kids to the school and be involved with the school once our kids start.

What will you teach your children?

We want our kids to know that they can do or be anything they want. We want them to try everything they want so they can find out what they are interested in and enjoy. I want to teach them the values of hard work, strong ethics and morality, the benefits of God in their lives, as well as the importance of being a good brother, sister, and friend. We want them to understand everything they can see and experience in the world. We also want them to not be afraid of the world and travel as much as they can.

What are some of your favorite traditions?

Adopting Dad: Growing up for me, we had a couple traditions that I look to incorporate. My mother wasn’t the greatest cook in the world, but she did have a couple meals that were awesome. We would do Pizza Friday, where we would get all the ingredients and make the pizzas together at home. At Christmas, Mom & Dad would wrap most presents, but would take two or three of the big ones out of their boxes and put them together in front of the tree for us to see when we woke up Christmas morning. It was their way of saying “Santa brought them.” Adopting Mom: Growing up, every year we got to pick our own Christmas ornaments. It always pertained to somewhere we traveled to that year or something new we did (like piano lessons). When I hit 30, my mom wrapped up all my ornaments and gave them to me to hang on my family tree. My husband and I decorate for all holidays; so for Easter we do an Easter egg hunt, Halloween we decorate the outside of the house and the whole family dresses up, and for Christmas we have over 14 Christmas trees in the house, little villages, and we have Santa visit.

Why did you choose your profession?

Adoptive Dad: I kind of fell into sales directly out of college, even though I graduated with a degree in Communications. Sales was exciting, being able to do something different each day. Being able to build and maintain relationships with people all over the country and world was also exciting. My job over the years has also provided me the privilege of travel, having been able to see many parts of the world most people would not be able to. Adoptive Mom: I chose sales because I like the interaction with many different people. I like that I can talk to people about the product I am selling and why they need to have it. I meet some of the most interesting people which makes me love my job.

What attracted you to each other?

Adoptive Dad: Aside from the obvious of physical attraction, April is extremely engaging, outgoing, smart, and funny. April has the ability to interact with anyone, anywhere, at any time and leave having made a friend. April is tenacious and goes after what she wants out of life, refusing to take no for an answer. April is my best friend and soul mate as together, we are truly a team. Adoptive Mom: My husband is very loving and supportive. He does everything he can to make people around him happy. He is my best friend and supports our daughter and I in everything we do. He works hard to make sure that we can live a great life and experience anything we want to.

Describe your home and neighborhood.

We moved into our neighborhood after many weeks of house hunting. We knew we wanted to be in an area that touted the best school districts, the best neighborhoods, and the best play areas for children. Our neighborhood is one of the older ones in our city, which means it has character. The streets are lined with mature trees and the houses are well kept. Over the past four years, 17 new families have moved into our neighborhood, all with children between the ages of 2 and 6, which is great as it gives Virginia many kids to play with. We also moved into a house on a cul-de-sac which means there is no traffic and kids play out in front all the time. Ever since bringing Virginia home, April and I have done whatever we could to make the house kid safe as well as fun. We have converted one of the bedrooms into a playroom dedicated to fun. We have built a homemade sandbox in the back yard, and next year, we plan to build a tree house and hobbit house in the backyard. We encourage outdoor play as much as possible.

What will you tell your child about his/her birth mother?

Realistically, this all depends on what we know about the birth mother and the situation that led up to the adoption of the child. At the end of the day, though, our children will always know that it was because the birth mother had so much love for the child and wanted the child to have the best life experience possible that she chose us to be the child’s parents.

When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms what are your thoughts regarding the birth mother?

Every time I hold my daughter, and I am sure every time I hold our new baby, I continually remind myself at how lucky I am that the birth mother chose us to parent these wonderful children. I also remind myself that it is my job to provide the best life possible for these children to reinforce the birth mother’s decision to allow us to adopt these children. This decision will forever be one of the toughest choices she will have to face in her life and if we can provide at least a tiny bit of comfort to her knowing that these children will always be well taken care of; then we have done our part.

Message John and April

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact John and April

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!