Married Since: 2011

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We are goofy, affectionate, and deeply committed partners. There’s not a day that goes by where you won’t find us laughing or snuggling. To us, the small moments matter the most in life. The love of family, whether chosen or biologically related, is one of our strongest shared values and what makes life meaningful to us.

Frank and Jaya

from California

Frank

Ancestry: French Canadian, English

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Data Scientist

Education: PhD

Hobbies: Running, Cycling, Weightlifting, Gardening, Cooking

Jaya

Ancestry: Indian

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Psychotherapist

Education: MA, MSW, LCSW

Hobbies: Art, Reading, Cooking

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: African American, African American / Asian, African American / Caucasian, African American / Hispanic, Asian, Caucasian / Asian, Asian / Hispanic, Biracial (African American + any other), Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Middle Eastern, Caucasian / Native American, Caucasian / Pacific Islander, Hispanic, Hispanic / Middle Eastern, Hispanic / Native American, Hispanic / Pacific Islander, Indian, Middle Eastern, Pacific Islander, Native American Indian, Other

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Nonpracticing

Favorites

Frank

Animal
Birds
Color
Green
Food
Burritos
Hobby
Biking, running, hiking, and brewing beer
Holiday
Diwali and Christmas
Leisure Activity
Sewing
Subject in School
Physics and Math
Music
Punk Rock, Jazz, Hip Hop, Ska
Vacation Spot
New York and High Sierra mountains
Quote
"Make today's solid ground out of yesterday's quicksand." - Mos Def

Jaya

Animal
Birds
Color
Blue
Food
Anything my mom makes
Hobby
Yoga, dance, hiking, and drawing
Holiday
Diwali and Christmas
Leisure Activity
Reading
Subject in School
Anything Science or Social Studies
Music
Soul, Jazz, Funk, R&B
Vacation Spot
Hawaii
Quote
"To love is to recognize; to be loved is to be recognized by the other" - Thich Nhat Hanh
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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

At this point, you may have read over dozens of profiles, or maybe we are your first. Where you are in this process, the decision you are making, and all the factors you are weighing must feel incredibly heavy. We want you to know we are here for you, not just now in this moment of decision making, but throughout and beyond the adoption process. Your story and your journey are still being written. This decision you are making and the fact that you’re even considering adoption is a reflection of your selfless love for your child. That’s nothing short of inspiring. We promise to honor this love and care you have for your child as a way to continue your legacy.

To us, the small moments matter the most in life. The big moments can be grand and extraordinary, such as going on a trip or achieving a milestone. But when we think back on our fondest memories it’s sometimes simple experiences such as the way our moms held us, how Frank hugs Jaya and tells her “I got you” when she’s overwhelmed, or the way Jaya looks at Frank sincerely in the eyes when she says “You are the most important thing.” We hope to share all of this and more with your child. We are not just promising to be there cheering on the big milestones and taking family vacations – we are also promising to be there for the everyday moments in life, whether they are joyful or hard. We think about the times when your child will face something challenging and heartbreaking in life. We will show up with kindness, compassion, and non-judgment by offering our wisdom, life experience, and listening deeply to what our child has to say. We will share our passion for nature, animals, growing our own food, cooking, music, and art with your child to inspire them to find the magic in life that brings them passion and joy as well. We will also bring stability and steadfastness to provide your child with a solid foundation for them to flourish.

What we love about our adoption journey so far is that this process has made us think so deeply about why we want to be parents and how we will approach this relationship. We started by asking whether we wanted to be parents in the first place, a privilege that is not always extended in all situations.  We realize that having a child is a way to grow our love, our family, and provide us with purpose in life. We both feel strongly that having a child who is biologically ours is not a prerequisite to having a deep, supportive love, as we both believe in chosen families and caring for our larger communities. But we want you to know we are also thinking about what our relationship with you will be. We think of you as part of our extended family. What that relationship might look like depends upon your needs and we are fully aware that these needs may change over time. What might be unique is that adoption is our first choice. Because this is our first choice, we have given this a lot of thought and consideration and we’re whole-heartedly excited.

To us, love is of primary importance for a deep and supportive relationship. What we can tell you, should you decide to honor us as parents of your child, is that we will love your child fiercely, unconditionally, and always.

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Why We are Choosing to Adopt

We have been married for over a decade and have felt our love grow immensely over this time. We both have a desire to share our love by expanding our family and know that we will love any child that joins our family. What might be unique to our story is that we have never tried to have a child on our own because we feel adoption is a good fit with our values of compassion and supporting our community. To create something so beautiful as chosen family, from such a challenging and difficult situation, is not easy and we have admiration and gratitude for the selflessness of all birth parents.

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About Jaya, From Frank

Jaya is the most compassionate and empathetic person I have ever met. Between friends, family, and people she works with, she has a huge heart and really deeply feels what other people feel. This quality makes her both very good at her job as a psychotherapist, but also the glue of our family. She’s always thinking three steps ahead to make sure everybody’s needs are getting met. What initially attracted me to Jaya, though, is her fascination with the world. We were in college at the time and she was super excited about studying topics that I barely knew were things that could be studied. She has always been passionate about understanding the human experience through many views, from philosophy and psychology to art history and listening to a wide variety of music. This passion for life will make her a wonderful parent, and I can’t wait to see her share it with our child.

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About Frank, From Jaya

You will never meet another person like Frank. He is one of the most intelligent people I know. Anything he sets out to do, he does it and does it well. Frank has earned two undergraduate degrees, a master’s degree, and a Ph.D. But what truly sets him apart is that he’s one of the kindest people I have ever met. He intentionally chooses to use his education and skill towards a career to help make the world a better place. He uses data science to address social inequities, the climate crisis, and allocation of resources. He is also incredibly compassionate, gentle, and patient. Every morning I wake up I am greeted with a kiss from Frank and a hot cup of tea because he knows how much I struggle to get going in the morning. If he sees me having a hard day, he will lovingly hold my hand sit me down, and tell me “I got you.” Every evening we get into bed and I snuggle up next to him while he reads to me, despite the fact he often over-heats with me being next to him. I can’t wait for him to share his big heart with a child.

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Lifestyle

We are goofy, affectionate, and deeply committed partners. There’s not a day that goes by where you won’t find us laughing or snuggling. We are both fortunate enough to have jobs in which we can work from home. Frank is the early riser and usually starts his day with a cup of coffee before getting on his computer for work. Jaya wakes up a little later and is greeted with a hot cup of tea. Jaya spends her morning doing yoga and hanging out with our bird, a green cheek conure named Rocco, before starting work as a psychotherapist. We both enjoy eating our lunch together in the backyard where we are able to soak up the sun and do some gardening. Frank usually takes an afternoon break to go out for a run or a bike ride. Rocco’s favorite time is the evenings when we slow down, eat dinner, and all three of us snuggle on the couch.

Every weekend, we enjoy going on an outdoor adventure or a long walk on the beach.   One of our favorite outdoor adventures is a hike that climbs up a hill and through coastal shrubs and Torrey pine trees. We have a special spot on top of the hill where we sit and eat a snack while overlooking the ocean. We also spend every Sunday with Jaya’s parents helping them around the house and sharing a meal together. We always say our secret to happiness is that we just need each other and the most common and everyday thing can feel like the most exciting adventure. We can’t wait to share our excitement for the magic of life with the child that joins our family.

We are fortunate enough to both have flexible and remote work that will allow us to spend every day with your child. It is important for us to spend as much time as we can with your child to help them develop a deep, loving, and supportive relationship with both parents. We want your child to know they are the most important and cherished part of our lives and that we are committed to providing them with a loving and enriching environment possible. Jaya plans to work part-time from home, and Frank will alter his schedule to accommodate the needs of your child. We are also very lucky to have Jaya’s mom and older sister only a few minutes away who will help with caregiving.

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Our Dreams of Becoming Parents

The love of family, whether chosen, biologically related, or animal companions, is one of our strongest shared values and what makes life meaningful to us. Without a child, our family feels incomplete. Even though Frank was only able to share the first ten years with his mom before she passed, he distinctly remembers the tender love she had for him and the excitement to share her passion for music, reading, nature, and women’s rights. The experiences he had with his mom continue to inspire him and he will share his tender love and his passion for music, nature, cooking, gardening, and social justice with your child.

Jaya’s relationship with her parents continues to evolve and deepen over time. They have shown her unconditional love and support even when they may not fully understand her. For example, when we shared that we are choosing adoption as a way to grow our family, Jaya’s parents had trouble understanding their reasoning, but they continued to engage in discussion, ask questions and read about adoption. Now, they are the most excited about our journey and can’t stop talking about when they will become grandparents. Jaya will develop a deep, loving, and unconditional bond with her child as she has with her parents. She will also share her life experiences, values, and joy of cooking, art, nature, and social justice with your child.

We can just imagine the Saturday mornings we will have with your child, making a mess in the kitchen while flipping pancakes, or the many hikes we’ll go on sharing our reverence and amazement of the natural world. We even envision the hard conversations we’ll have about life with your child where we will share our wisdom and support but most of all let them know they are never alone.

The ways in which having a child will enrich our lives are immeasurable and almost indescribable. What we do know is that having a child is a gift that will provide us meaning, purpose, and a type of love that is unmatched.

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Home & Neighborhood

If you were to take a walk in our neighborhood, you would see a green, grassy park stretching for miles long, sprinkled with tennis courts, swimming pools, and play structures, all nestled in between rows of houses. We often see families playing soccer on the grass, couples walking their dogs, and folks picnicking. Our cozy three-bedroom, two-bath house sits on top of a gentle hill that overlooks an unobstructed view of the mountains. The best part of the house is that we often get welcomed visitors in our yard. In the wintertime, we usually see two owls sitting in the trees hooting at us, while the summer brings a weekly visitor of an egret who we endearingly named Edgar. We also see plenty of birds, bunnies, and squirrels daily.

We enjoy the ease of living and working in a single-story house. Frank’s office is adjacent to the living room which allows him to be in the company of our companion bird, Rocco, during the day. Jaya’s office is in one of the bedrooms which allows her the privacy to work with psychotherapy clients. In between Jaya’s office and the main bedroom is the baby room. Currently, the baby room has a dresser we picked out for our future child and a guest bed which will soon be replaced with a crib. The whole back of the house has a view of our garden and the mountains which allows the house to be filled with sunlight.

Racial & Cultural Diversity

The 1967 Loving versus Virginia case made it possible for interracial marriages and cross-racial adoption. As an interracial couple ourselves, we understand the heaviness of the legacy we carry as navigating a multiracial, multicultural family. We are both active in our communities in addressing racism. Part of Jaya’s specialty as a psychotherapist is supporting clients from multicultural and racial backgrounds. Because of all of this, we don’t take transracial adoption lightly. We know you are entrusting us with supporting your child for all that they are, which includes their race, history, lineage, and culture. We vow to uphold your child’s own racial and cultural background and to make real efforts to connect them to people and communities of similar backgrounds. It’s important for your child to be able to see themselves in other people and to be uplifted by their own racial and cultural communities.

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Our Families & Friends

One of the reasons why we chose to settle down in Southern California is to be in the proximity of some of our closest family and friends. We are lucky to have people in our life that have supported us through all the ups and downs. Some of our friendships have lasted from childhood and now feel close like family. We even have a close friend who’s considering moving to be closer to us to provide support and to be in your child’s life.

We live a few miles from Jaya’s parents, grandfather, and older sister. We are especially close to Jaya’s parents and often choose to spend time together getting dinner, walking on the beach, and more. Most importantly when we need comfort, advice, or wisdom Jaya’s parents are the first people we think about reaching out to. Jaya’s mom is preparing for the arrival of our new family member by helping redesign the baby room and brainstorming plans for caregiving. Jaya’s dad is sharing his stories, wisdom, and advice on being a parent and helping us make hard decisions through this process. On Frank’s side of the family, we are closest to Frank’s maternal aunt. She resides in Florida, but we have regular video and phone chats with her. Frank’s aunt has been a support for us through the ups and downs. She is always cheering us on and encouraging us to move forward to reach our dreams.

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Our Relationship with You

We know the complexity of considering adoption is immense, and this is a journey that we may not fully understand. But we promise to provide you support, non-judgment, and compassion as you navigate this. We are open to the range of possibilities for the types of relationship with you.  We know that each birth parent’s wants, desires, and situation is different and therefore the relationship possibilities are variable. We are also open to a relationship changing and evolving over time because it might be hard for you to predict how you will feel and what you will want in the future. We will always be a phone call away to talk through how we can navigate changes. Whether you want little contact such as a text or email with only highlights or you wish to be more involved and have video chats and visits, we will be there to support you because to us you are a part of our growing family.

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Family Traditions

Our many traditions allow us to savor the big and small magical moments which are precious to us. We also experience a great sense of belonging because many of these traditions are unique to our family. For example, on a foggy Sunday morning, you will find us cozy in our pajamas, sitting in the living room with a hot cup of tea or coffee, playing our favorite Norah Jones album on Frank’s beloved record player. There’s something special about the small little scratches on the album that remind us of all the times we have listened to it before. A recent tradition we have started is baking scones during stormy nights. Where we live, storms are so infrequent it becomes an exciting event for us. Since the back of the house is all windows, we get an upfront view of the storm rolling in as we stay cozy by the oven.

On top of the many smaller traditions we have, November and December entail two big celebrations: Diwali, also known as the Festival of Lights, and Christmas. Diwali night is spent with family where we sit around the dining table dressed up in traditional Indian clothes and before we dig into the food we spent all day preparing, we reflect on our personal achievements because Diwali symbolizes the triumph of good over evil. Christmas is a month-long extravaganza that culminates in Christmas Eve’s family game night, which usually involves an epic game of scrabble where Frank and Jaya’s mom duke it out for the title of scrabble champion. On Christmas Day, Frank makes his famous frittata and cinnamon buns (Jaya waits for this all year) as a way to honor the memory of his late mom and as a gift to Jaya’s dad who loves brunch.

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Our Promise to You

Without you, none of this would be possible. We would not be able to grow our family in this way or have someone to share our passion, wisdom, love, and life lessons with. Regardless of the reasons that led you to adoption, you have made this choice because you are loving your child in a way that is selfless and immeasurable. We will carry that love within us, not in a way that replaces you, but in a way that continues to honor your legacy.

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!