Benjamin and Heather

Married Since: 2014

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Part-Time

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We want to be open, honest, listen to you and offer support where we can and hope you find peace with this difficult decision.

Benjamin and Heather

from Washington

Benjamin

Ancestry: English, Swedish

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Government Employee

Education: MS

Hobbies: Sports, Cooking, Hiking, Traveling

Heather

Ancestry: Chinese, Ukrainian, Irish, German

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Digital Marketing

Education: BA

Hobbies: Dancing, Hiking, Cooking, Yoga

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: African American / Caucasian, Asian, Caucasian / Asian, Asian / Hispanic, Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Middle Eastern, Caucasian / Native American, Caucasian / Pacific Islander, Hispanic, Hispanic / Middle Eastern, Hispanic / Native American, Hispanic / Pacific Islander, Pacific Islander, Native American Indian

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

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From Us to You

Dear Expecting Parent(s),

We’re very happy that you’re reading our letter and are beyond grateful for the opportunity to introduce ourselves to you. We want to be open, honest, listen to you and offer support where we can and hope you find peace with this difficult decision. We come from a loving, diverse, and supportive immediate and extended family and have chosen this path toward creating a family through your selfless, courageous, and loving act. We understand this journey may cause anxiety, fear, and has so many unknowns. We share some of these feelings too but know we are in this together.

We appreciate and feel blessed you have taken the time to review our profile and it is a pleasure to introduce ourselves. Our names are Heather and Ben and we live in Washington State. We have been together for eight years and married for six. We love the Pacific Northwest. We are surrounded by the support of our family and friends. Our parents, most of our siblings, nephews/nieces, also live nearby which leads to many birthdays, family traditions and home-cooked meals together, and holiday celebrations. We love spending time together sharing experiences and making each other laugh. We both love going to the local farmer’s market, spending time outdoors and taking advantage of the many parks, lakes, ocean and mountains surrounding our area or supporting our local sports teams. We love to vacation and experience new places through food and activities, even if it’s a weekend away to a local spot to get out of the city.

We have always known that we wanted to have a family, and we are now ready to begin building our family through adoption after suffering loss through miscarriage and other ways to have a child. While we have grieved not being able to have a biological child, we chose to pursue adoption to fulfill our dream of being loving parents.

If you choose us as parents, please know that your child will be unconditionally loved, supported, and cared for. We will raise your child in a home where caring and kindness are expressed, where exploration and curiosity are encouraged, and diversity is celebrated. We plan to teach your child the same values that we were raised with: he or she will always be encouraged to follow their heart, explore their talents and interests, be their authentic self, and are a unique and valuable person in this world.

We are both so excited to welcome a son or daughter into our home! We look forward to taking on the responsibility of caring 24/7 for a little one. We also hope to share family traditions like bedtime stories, playing with cousins, making each holiday and birthday special for him/her, and when they are older movie nights snuggling on the couch with homemade nachos (passed down from grandparents!). We look forward to introducing them to the beautiful area we live in with stroller walks (and later walking or bike riding) and water, forests, and mountains to explore. We also look forward to helping them pursue whatever interests they choose so they know the joy of exploring different hobbies and interests and providing an outlet for their natural talents and abilities. Our family is excited and supportive of our decision to welcome the newest member into the family story, which we hope you will be part of too. We want your child to know their adoption story through an open adoption in any way that you are comfortable. They will understand your sacrifice and gift was out of love.

Again, we want to express our gratitude and support to you through this journey as we navigate this together. While we don’t know each other yet, we are truly grateful for the courageous decision you are making and the blessing you are giving our lives.

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About Us

We were attracted to each other through our similar interests, making each other laugh, similar values, and goals that complement one another’s differences. Heather’s passion for life and optimism stood out. She is extremely intelligent, hardworking, kind, organized, loyal, reliable, and passionate about putting her best foot forward in life. She is also very creative and enjoys the arts. Ben is patient, kind, laid back, balanced, funny, and devoted to family and friends.

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Why We Are Choosing to Adopt

We never doubted we wanted to have children together. At the beginning of our relationship, we were focused on our dream jobs. We started trying to start a family later in life. We tried some fertility treatments but suffered miscarriage and it’s taken time for us to grieve and heal. COVID only reinforced how much we needed to shift our priorities to something we have always dreamed of: sharing our life with a child. We know a few colleagues who have had great experiences adopting. Our pastor was adopted as a child and grateful for his life and adoption story. We have always wanted to have children and both expressed to one another a desire to raise a child in a home full of love and support. We want them to discover who they are through creative outlets like the arts and sports, just like we were fortunate enough to experience growing up.

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Our Lifestyle

We love to explore new places, especially through food. We also love our local professional sports teams. We enjoy hobbies like dancing (modern dance, salsa, or ballet for Heather), art, exercising, food, golf, or travel. We are so blessed that laughter is a key ingredient and try not to take life so seriously. A healthy lifestyle is also important to us. We eat an omnivore diet and like to support local farms and buy organic, environmentally sustainable foods (which are easy to find throughout our area). We both grew up playing outdoors and did not have the number of long hours watching TV, playing video games, and screen time that technology offers today, so we will encourage play and activity in the fresh air.

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Home & Neighborhood

Our home is in a suburb in western Washington. We live near multiple parks, lakes, and a short drive to beaches, the ocean, and mountains. Our two-story home is a new construction with lots of space for a little one to have their own room, own bathroom, playroom, and a fenced backyard where we will have a playset. We are also within walking distance to a playground. We live on a quiet street with a cul-de-sac where our neighbor’s young kids often ride bikes, draw with chalk on the ground, and play games. The majority of our neighbors all have young children. Our community is safe, full of families, and has a highly rated school system. It is also a culturally diverse neighborhood with families often out walking with strollers, dogs, or going for a jog.

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Our Dogs, Ozzie & Bella

We have two English Staffordshire Bull Terriers, Ozzie and Bella. Ozzie enjoys lounging anywhere that is a comfortable spot like the couch, your lap, or a pile of blankets. Both dogs enjoy running in the backyard, playing with toys, and cuddling. Bella is full of energy and enjoys trying to get her big brother to chase her around the backyard. Our dogs love family members, even our rambunctious young nephews who drop legos and action figures on them!

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Our Faith

Both of us were raised as Christian. We attend a local church, though with COVID our attendance and interactions have all been online. Typically, we attend the Sunday service and greet friends that attend the same church to catch up on their week. We have participated in small community groups through the church in the past. There are groups that get together through a common interest like a sport or hiking club, or inter-generational to do a study together, or other couples similar in age to us that get together twice a month to share a meal. We hope to connect with the new parents/adoptive family group. There are many members of the church who have blended families, including adoption, or parent groups for support and shared resources.

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Our Relationship with Our Parents

Around the time of our marriage, Ben’s father was diagnosed with terminal cancer. He was a wonderful father, friend, and coach and we miss him. Ben grew up in a household strong with love, support, and laughter. His mom lives nearby and is supportive and excited for a new grandchild to spoil.

Heather’s parents have been divorced for many years. Her father resides locally and we visit him regularly. We live within minutes of her mother and stepfather and routinely meet up for meals or a visit. Our parents are close, loving, and supportive.

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Our Families & Friends

We have tremendous support from family, friends, and community in the area. Our parents live close to our home. Ben’s brothers and their wives, many nieces/nephews, and extended family all reside nearby. We enjoy gathering together for holidays, birthdays, or just a get-together. Our extended family that does not live in the area often visit in the summer or for the holidays. We enjoy meeting up with family and friends as often as possible. We are grateful to be able to welcome a baby into our lives, home, and family. Our church and faith community is nearby as well.

We have 8 young nieces/nephews. Both the men and women in our family are very open to sharing hand-me-downs, parenting advice, and openness to what they have learned being parents. Almost all of our friends are parents too.

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Cultural Diversity

Our family is a blend of Asian, Eastern European, and Scandinavian ethnicities with various religious beliefs and practices. We value diversity and want to teach inclusion to your child and ensure they have every resource they need to be treated equally, with respect, and ensure their overall well-being and safety. We celebrate cultural diversity in our own lives through our friends of different races and ethnicities and their family traditions. We also enjoy traveling and experiencing different locations and cultures firsthand. We hope to bring your child along with us so they are exposed to diversity and appreciate the beauty and uniqueness in the world as we do.

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Education & Our Careers

With our personalities, we are both natural learners and enjoy research and education. We are all about reading parenting books, listening to podcasts, reading blogs from respected ‘experts’ or other recommended sources in addition to what friends and family share.

We both come from families that value education and have family members that are teachers. Graduating college is the expectation in both our families. We both have college degrees and advanced training in our respective fields. Heather has built her career based on her passion for design and marketing. Ben followed his passion to serve the community.

COVID has largely changed our work schedules. We are both currently working from home. We both plan to take off work to dedicate to a newborn. Both of us have the benefit and option to stay with your child for the first year of their life. When we return to work, we have supportive family who can assist, or we will use a nearby daycare or nanny.

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Our Hobbies

We both enjoy the outdoors and taking advantage of the natural surrounding beauty of ocean, lakes, forests, and mountains. We enjoy hiking, taking walks, enjoying a good cup of coffee, or cooking a homemade meal together. We both support our local sports teams and love to watch sports with friends and family with a tail-gate meal in our home or at the stadiums. We enjoy trying new cuisine or cooking a new recipe. We also enjoy relaxing at home and having movie nights or meeting up nearby with family and friends.

Heather grew up with a passion for horses, sports, and dancing. She still enjoys ballet and other forms of dance. She is an avid reader, enjoys kickboxing, and yoga.

Ben grew up playing basketball, baseball, and soccer. More recently, he enjoys golf, hiking, and BBQ’ing/smoking meat to share with friends and family.

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Vacations and Leisure

Our weekends are typically filled with family events, supporting our local professional sports teams, exploring new restaurants, or visiting old favorites. In nice weather, we walk to the local farmer’s market to buy fresh vegetables, jams, or other staples. We also spend time with our dogs by taking walks around the neighborhood or local parks, exercising, cooking, and taking short getaways to Airbnbs or resorts in local towns or the mountains.

Our last vacation was taking a boat to a nearby island. We typically go to this location every year to have a relaxing getaway. We usually enjoy getting together with family and friends at some of our favorite spots for a relaxing getaway filled with food and a spa. Our favorite destinations include Hawaii, New Zealand, and Mexico.

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How A Child Will Enrich Our Lives

While we feel incredibly grateful and blessed for the life we have, there has been an emptiness without a child. We have so much love to give to a child and know we can provide a stable, supportive, home that will shape their life. We want to share and build a house full of love and laughter. Based on our childhoods, nothing has been more important to the foundation of who we are than the love and support of our parents. We understand raising a child can be difficult, but we also know it can be filled with joy. We cannot think of any more rewarding experience than to be trusted to ensure the health, safety, and development of a child. We look forward to meaningful moments and creating memories and experiences as a family.

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What We Will Teach

We plan to create a stable, loving, warm environment for your child to feel safe to learn and pursue their interests. We also hope to teach your child to be independent and creative while providing structure and responsibility. We plan to teach him or her respect, compassion, and will support their unique interests. To respect others as well as themselves and to find their passion, be ethical, and honest. We also will teach them about their unique culture, heritage, and story. We plan to instill the importance of education. It’s important for us to teach through our own behavior about respect, kindness, and ethics. We will set some limits on screen time and offer them a variety of interactive activities to explore like coloring/drawing, playing outside, learning a musical instrument, and more. Some of our fondest memories from our own childhood are snuggling as a family to watch a movie, camping, or cooking breakfast together on a Saturday morning. These are the types of memories we want your child to have—spending time together as a family enjoying special moments. We have discussed a philosophy and approach that balances letting a child know they are always loved, and our love will never change, but also instilling a sense of discipline and personal responsibility that we were both raised with.

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Our Relationship with You

We hope to maintain an open adoption to serve the bests interest of your child and create a relationship that you are comfortable with. We want you to know your child is being loved, provided for, and have a sense of peace that you made the right decision for your family. We will share as much as you are comfortable with us sharing. We want to be open with your child so they grow up knowing their adoption story and have a full sense of their identity.

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Our Thoughts When We Imagine Meeting Your Baby

Empathy and gratitude. We will think of the sacrifice you went through to make our parental dreams come true. We want you to know your child will always be loved, nurtured, and supported. We appreciate that you have trusted us to care, love, and support your child. While we cannot pretend to know the depth of the sacrifice you have made out of love for your child, we will forever be grateful. Your child will know they are loved by both their birth parents and adoptive parents.

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Our Promise to You

We promise that your child will know unconditional love. We promise your child will know our love for them and the love you have for them. We promise your child will be in a safe, supportive environment and will always be cared for and come first. We promise your child will receive an education and be supported in whatever hobby or passion that inspires or interests them. We promise they will be comforted when they are sad and cared for when they are ill. We promise we will never take your sacrifice for granted. We promise you will have a role in their lives to the extent you are comfortable with.

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