Married Since: 2016

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

Even though we have never met, we want to thank you for even giving us your consideration. This will probably be the most difficult decision you make in your life, but just know that your decision will give us something that we never thought would be possible and, for that, we will be forever grateful. Your selflessness and generosity are two attributes that we will strive to instill in your child.

Stephen and Devin

from California

 

Stephen

Ancestry: Chinese

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Firefighter Paramedic

Education: BS, AS

Hobbies: Weightlifting, Running, Swimming

Devin

Ancestry: Unknown

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Engineer

Education: BS, MS

Hobbies: Tennis, Running

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: African American / Caucasian, Asian, Caucasian / Asian, Asian / Hispanic, Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Middle Eastern, Caucasian / Native American, Caucasian / Pacific Islander, Hispanic / Pacific Islander, Pacific Islander, Native American Indian

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Nonpracticing

Favorites

Stephen

Animal
Shark
Color
Blue
Food
Sushi
Holiday
Thanksgiving
Movie
The Emperor's Club
Personal Hero
Superman
Sport
Triathlon
Subject in School
Science - Biology
Early Bird or Night Owl
Early bird
TV Showt
The Golden Girls

Devin

Animal
Panda
Color
Orange
Food
Tacos
Holiday
Christmas
Movie
Star Wars
Personal Hero
Roger Federer
Sport
Tennis
Subject in School
Science - Physics
Early Bird or Night Owl
Early Bird
TV Show
Futurama
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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

What do you love about life? What do you hope your child will love about life?

For us, the answer is the simple, everyday experiences that ultimately lead to lifelong memories of happiness. These experiences don’t have to be elaborate or expensive; instead, they are just moments where all the senses and emotions of the scene are held in this precious instant of time. It is these scenes that we will carry with us throughout the remainder of our lives and will remind us of how great life is when times are tough. Finding out you have chosen us to share in the miracle of life with your baby will become one of these scenes ‘out of time’ in our lives, where we will remember the feeling of nervousness, but utter excitement that we will soon be fathers.  It will be a moment that we will forever cherish in addition to all the other moments we hope that we and your child will have together.

We promise you that we will love your child as much as humanly possible. When we talk about how we would raise a child, it is impossible to not think about all the experiences we had when we were young and how those memories continue to put a smile on our face when they pop up in our head from time to time. Those are the kind of moments that we can only hope to give a child. We imagine taking them to the park every day to play on the swings, late nights at Disneyland where they are in awe of how spectacular fireworks can be, walking with them to their first day of school and listening to them contently about how their day went when we go to pick them up and, of course, embarrassing them as we cheer as loudly as possible during their sports games. We live in Southern California where the sun shines brightly almost every day and provides us ample opportunities to teach a child something new, while building lasting memories.

Throughout our lives, we both have been met with trials and tribulation stemming from who we chose to love or what paths we decided to walk in life. We want you to know that your child will be raised in a home without fear of expressing themselves in their most authentic way. They will be given all of the emotional support and every tools imaginable to follow their heart’s desire and will receive all the support and strength to achieve their dreams along the way. We would raise your child in a home without the judgment and boundaries we witnessed, but at the same time, we would raise them to seek out and embrace challenges in life; to push the bar a little higher, to strive to make the world just a little bit better for those around them.  And in those instances where life seems to come crashing down, our hope is to have given your child so many fun and joyful experiences that it cushions the blow and reminds them that his or her parents love them so much and would do anything for them.

Even though we have never met, we want to thank you for even giving us your consideration. This will probably be the most difficult decision you make in your life, but just know that your decision will give us something that we never thought would be possible and, for that, we will be forever grateful. Your selflessness and generosity are two attributes that we will strive to instill in your child.

Thank you again and we wish you the best throughout your journey.

Stephen and Devin

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

This is a difficult question to answer in anything other than a long drawn-out story. The most obvious answer is that, well, a natural pregnancy isn’t exactly an option for us as a gay couple. Surrogacy presents an interesting option, but when it comes down to it, we both believe that adoption will not only satisfy our objective of becoming parents but could also give opportunities to a mother and child that they might not have had.  The underlying decision to have a child is best summarized as we are ready, and we are inspired. The biggest inspiration for us has been the birth of our niece in 2017. While we’re sure every parent is nervous about their first child, we have gained insight from her upbringing, seeing her parents’ struggles, moments of pride, and everything between, which has given us the confidence to say that we are ready. The greatest inspiration by far has been witnessing what a child can bring to a family. It is that bond and those feelings of happiness and love, that motivate us to want to start a family.

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About Stephen

Stephen is the one of most steadfast, trustworthy, and high-achieving individuals I have ever come across. He is unwavering in doing what is right in any situation, never buckling when a challenge arises, and raising the bar for everybody around him. Sometimes this might make him a bit stressed, which is understandable (being a superhero and all) and is where I come in (often with cake) to calm and question him. He was raised to never take efforts lightly, always putting 100% effort into whatever endeavor he focuses; this dedication led to amazing success in sports, schoolwork, and his career. Never ceasing to take challenges head-on, particularly when those involve character or integrity-building, is the biggest strength he brings to our relationship and into raising a child.

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About Devin

Devin was born in Idaho, and I consider myself the luckiest person in the world that he somehow found his way to California.  He is very intellectual and does a great job of fixing problems whenever they arise.  Devin has always been there for me, through my ups and downs, and I will always appreciate how generous and understanding he can be.  We have been married for 6 years now and been together a lot longer, and it always amazes me that he still laughs at my firefighting stories, even though it feels like I’m just repeating myself all the time.  He does a spectacular job of finding the balance between being an adult and letting his inner child come out.  Devin will be an amazing father because of how great he is around kids.  He doesn’t take himself too seriously and allows himself to just have fun around them.

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Home

We own a two-story home in Orange County, California. Our community is quiet and ‘off the beaten path,’ with large open spaces and many venues for sports and recreation nearby. Many of our neighbors have families of their own and have family get-togethers throughout the week. Our home offers a large lot with our own unique desert garden from which we draw inspiration. The home is also a unique custom design, with large windows over the beautiful landscape and neighborhood. We currently have a ‘spare’ bedroom and an unused bedroom which we anticipate turning into a nursery when the time arrives. We think this culminates in an exciting, safe, and inspirational home for raising a child.

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Our Sweet Pup

We have a 12-year-old Welsh Corgi named Toby who is still as spry as ever and whose sister was actually owned by Stephen’s brother. Toby was trained well as a puppy, and is still extremely intelligent and obedient even in his golden years. Corgis were bred as herding dogs, so sometimes he does think we are cattle needing herding, specifically toward treats or toys it seems… Toby has always been great around kids and never has any issues when the kids in the neighborhood run up to pet him.  When Toby passes away, we will likely get another small/medium dog, maybe even another Corgi, and train him/her just as well.

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Our Families

We both grew up with strong family connections and continue to maintain them. We are both fortunate to still have our parents as positive forces and mentorship in our lives, with Stephens’ parents residing in California and Devin’s parents splitting their time between California and Idaho. Stephen also has a twin brother and an older sister who has a very young daughter and another child on the way.  Stephen’s parents and siblings all live close by and we see them pretty often.  Stephen also has an extended family, which is his fellow firefighters.  Because he spends a good amount of time at the firehouse, his co-workers have become lifelong friends who are always willing to help out.

How We Met

We met, as more and more people do, online. After chatting and getting to know each other for some time, we decided to meet for the first time on a Friday evening. We agreed to meet at a Chipotle for dinner, but right before arriving, Stephen called to say that there was an IHOP next door that he would rather visit. He justified going there as ‘carb loading’ for a triathlon he had the next day.  We agreed, met up, and had our first date in the IHOP and I had never seen someone consume that many pancakes in one sitting.  Despite being horrified by the pancake intake (and uncertain about this upcoming ‘triathlon’), both of us decided to go on a second date, but this time to see a movie instead! The rest is, well, history.

About Us

Our identity as a couple is rooted in trust, respect, and love for one another. Our common values include always being critical thinkers, holding each other to the highest level of integrity and ethics, and remaining humble for the gifts we have been given. Stephen does most of the cooking and Devin does most of the handy work around the house.  We have a great sense of each other’s strengths and weaknesses, and we are always there to pick each other up when the other one needs it.  We try to keep life and ourselves lighthearted and joyous whenever possible. We love going to theme parks, building Legos, watching superhero movies, and basically anything that reminds us that we are all still young at heart.

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Our Lifestyle

Our lifestyle could best be described as… two old people trapped in two young people’s bodies.  Stephen works a schedule where he is on for 2 days and off for 4 days as a Firefighter Paramedic, and Devin works a normal nine-to-five job as a mechanical engineer for an automotive company.   The differing work schedule means that somebody is home almost all the time, but it can make it difficult to find time together, which is why we have learned to cherish it when we do get the chance.  We both have a shared passion for fitness, music, and of all things… cactus and succulents. When we are each alone on our respective days off, you’ll find us at the gym, in the garden, or rocking out on our piano. When we’re together, we love going to theme parks, building Lego sets, watching the latest super hero or Star Wars moves, or walking our dog, Toby.  We believe that family and friends are very important and we try to find as many activities to do with them as often as possible, even if it’s just dinner together.

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Family Traditions

While we are non-denominational, we still believe in the value of honoring both cultural and family traditions.  In both of our upbringings, holidays were celebrated as a family and continue still to this day.  We plan to always be around family for Christmas, Thanksgiving, Chinese New Year, and all of the other major holidays.  We both love adding decorations to our house for Halloween and Christmas, and when we have a child, we will be even more inclined to go all out with Christmas lights and Halloween costumes.

From a day-to-day perspective, one tradition that we’ve always believed in is eating dinner together.  Life can get very hectic, but dinner time has always been a time where everybody can unwind, talk about their day, and share a few laughs.  As we sit here and think about our traditions, we can’t help but think about what new traditions we want to start.  We love playing board games and would love to have a family board game night once a week.

Education

Stephen graduated from high school in California and Devin graduated in Idaho.  Both of us completed multiple AP courses in high school.  Stephen went on to get his B.S. in Accounting.  When he left the exciting and fast paced world of accounting to pursue a career as a firefighter, he later received an A.S. degree in Fire technology and completed paramedic school.  Devin went got his B.S. in Mechanical Engineering, and later completed an M.S. in Aerospace Engineering. We believe that education is important and can help to open doors. We will support your child in their educational endeavors.

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What We will Teach Your Child

We will teach your child all the keys to success that we received along the way. We strongly believe that success comes from dedication to physically, mentally, or socially engaging activities. We will give your child the opportunity to learn some type of musical instrument and encourage them to try many sports and then to focus and excel at the one or two activities that they love the best, and be a part of a broadening and humbling experience, such as scouting, volunteering, or school clubs. From a values perspective, we will strive to teach critical thinking, yet selfless, empathetic, and humbling outlooks on life; always being willing to put in the hard work, but never taking advantage of or forgetting where you have gotten, and the effort taken to get there. We also know that instilling a sense of curiosity, empathy, observation, and appreciation would be the key focuses for these younger years, branching further as your child matures.

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Our Relationship with Our Parents

We are both fortunate to still have our parents as major roles of mentorship and support in our lives. All our parents are retired now (meaning they are always looking for things to do!) and are always either a quick drive or a phone call away. Stephen’s parents still live in his hometown here in California, and Devin’s parents split their time between California and Idaho. They are all still healthy, involved, and selfless individuals, who will always go out of their way for their children. They have also shown great interest in being a continued part of our lives, including being grandparents to your child.

Our Hobbies

Our most frequent hobbies include anything fitness related; running, weightlifting, swimming, cycling, kayaking, and hiking to name a quick few. We like doing something active every day, whether going to the gym for a few hours, running several miles, or doing a long kayak or cycling session. Also outdoors, we love going to theme parks (rollercoasters are our favorite!), zoos, museums, and aquariums. We both have a particular addiction to collecting rare succulents and cacti.  It is not uncommon for us to spend an entire afternoon working on our backyard to make sure it looks immaculate. We both played musical instruments when we were younger, and we are rekindling our love of music by relearning the piano.  Whenever we get the chance or when we have family around, we love playing board games, video games, or cards, or just watching either a good scary movie or the latest Marvel or Star Wars movies.

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How a Child will Enrich our Lives

Having a child takes sacrifice. It is the ultimate realization that life isn’t just about the two of us anymore, but about doing everything we can and providing every opportunity possible for our child.  The way our parents have described it is that for all the stress a child causes, there is something about watching your child take their first step, complete their first day of school, learn to share, graduate high school, get their dream job, marry the love of their life, and all of the other major and minor successes of their life that bring you a sense of happiness and pride that nothing else in the world could ever bring.  We would love nothing more than to experience that happiness and pride.  We love our life right now, but we are both ready to fill our time with sports games, back to school nights, sleep overs, play dates at the park, and vacations to Disney World.

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Why We Chose our Career Paths

Having a child takes sacrifice. It is the ultimate realization that life isn’t just about the two of us anymore, but about doing everything we can and providing every opportunity possible for our child.  The way our parents have described it is that for all the stress a child causes, there is something about watching your child take their first step, complete their first day of school, learn to share, graduate high school, get their dream job, marry the love of their life, and all of the other major and minor successes of their life that bring you a sense of happiness and pride that nothing else in the world could ever bring.  We would love nothing more than to experience that happiness and pride.  We love our life right now, but we are both ready to fill our time with sports games, back to school nights, sleep overs, play dates at the park, and vacations to Disney World.

Message Stephen and Devin

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Stephen and Devin

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!