Married Since: 2017

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We promise to raise your child to be loving, kind, and empathetic. We promise that any child we are blessed with will know how important and loved they are, how blessed we are to be their parents. We promise to surround them with every advantage we can offer but also teach them independence and resilience. We will always do our best to guide them in every way possible along life’s journey.  

Brian and Tonya

from California

Brian

Ancestry: Spanish

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Medical Records Clerk

Education: AS

Hobbies: Football, Playing guitar

Tonya

Ancestry: English, German

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Physician Assistant

Education: MSPAS

Hobbies: Reading, Painting, Drawing, Cooking

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: African American, African American / Caucasian, African American / Hispanic, Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Native American, Hispanic

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Favorites

Brian

Animal
Dogs are at the top of our list
Childhood Memory
Food - We can't wait to pass this tradition on and teach your child how to make Tonya's famous potato salad and desserts.
Leisure Activity
Football is a fun pastime for us. I love the Denver Broncos and Tonya has come to love them, too.
Hobby
I'm a musician and like to play the guitar. I also volunteer with our church worship band, even though it means getting up super early to do it!
Family Activity
Travel is important to us. We like to explore and see how other people live their lives.
Food
Tonya has been learning to cook a lower-carb diet to help with my diabetes and I love tasting her new recipes.
Music
I love music. I used to play the trumpet and now like to play the guitar and write my own music and lyrics.
Movies
"Princess Bride" is our favorite comfort movie to watch.
Early Bird or Night Owl
I'm definitely not a morning person and need at least 30 minutes to fully wake up!

Tonya

Animal
Our 4 dogs!
Childhood Memory
Holidays - My family had strong holiday traditions where everyone would bring a dish to share, gather around, and catch up over good food.
Leisure Activity
Visiting Disneyland to try the food, rides, and make memories is a favorite activity of ours.
Hobby
I love art!
Family Activity
We love exploring new sites and places, both in the US and internationally. It's important to learn about the special and unique things that different countries (including our own) have to offer.
Food
I love getting in the kitchen and trying to make recipes for comfort foods to help support Brian's low-carb diet.
Music
I like lots of different kinds of music, but Grunge/Alternative holds a special corner of my heart. Usually, I'm listening to Christan music and medicine talk radio.
Movie
My favorite movie is "Princess Bride." I first saw it in the 6th grade at a sleepover and still love the humor.
Early Bird or Night Owl
I used to be a night owl and remember staying up late with my grandparents to watch "Cheers" and "Seinfeld" but I'm now a semi-early bird.
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From Us to You

First and foremost, we want to say thank you.  The decisions you are making must be extremely difficult, even heartbreaking.  Your selflessness is giving us a gift.  One that we would never have without you. We appreciate all the blessings in our lives and know that without you, we wouldn’t get to experience being parents. That makes you a hero in our eyes.

We would be honored to have your child be with us in our home.  If you choose us, we will honor your choice to give this baby life by providing everything we can to keep them safe and loved.

Every day we pray for you, for this baby, and for the agency helping us.  We pray for comfort and peace.  We have faith and if we are chosen to take on this huge gift, we will make your sacrifice mean something.  We know what could make us the happiest might be the hardest choice you have ever made.  We will not take that lightly.  Thank you for putting this child first and we will always remember and cherish you for making this choice.

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

We took the first photo above on the day we officially made the decision to start our adoption journey. It was something we had been talking about for a very long time. We were having a beach day with our nieces and nephews, and seeing them so full of happiness, being curious, and playing in the water and sand made us realize that becoming parents was something we want to experience as soon as we are able to.

Together, we have a great life that includes a good support system, our families who we love, rewarding careers, and the ability to travel frequently.  The one thing that is missing is a child to share all this with.

Even as a child, Tonya thought about adoption as a way to have children. She thought about raising a little one and what that would mean for herself and a baby. The one person she never truly considered was the parent or parents giving this baby up.  As adults, birth mothers now play a huge part in who we think about in our adoption journey. We can’t imagine how difficult this must be for you.  The thoughts and emotions you must be having during the process and how scary this all must be.

We want you to know that your baby will be loved, cherished, and taken care of–we will give everything we have to offer. We won’t take this journey for granted and we will love your child with every ounce of ourselves. We want to adopt so we can offer your baby a safe home full of love, kindness, and support.

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About Tonya, by Brian

Dear Baby,
We cannot wait to meet you and be your parents. I want you to know you are prayed for, loved and we are excited to meet you.  I want you to know about your mom. She is excited for you and wants the best for you. She is a very independent woman, very strong-willed, and she has one of the biggest hearts of any person I know.

She is a thinker. She takes the time to look at a situation and see the pros and cons of it.  She is smart. Your mom has put a lot of time and money into her education. She works hard to better herself and be the best version of herself she can be.

She is a protector.  The momma bear will come out if you are in danger. She will stand up for you and protect you.

She will be there to comfort you and love you.

She has one of the best smiles and loves to laugh.  It is one of the many things I love about her.

She loves music.  Her favorite genre is 80’s music. She despises 70’s music and loves going to concerts. At church, worship music is her favorite part of the service.

She loves to travel.  One of the things she loves the most is visiting places around the world.  You will be exposed to a lot of places and she will be taking pictures of all the places you’ll go.

These are just a few of the many things about your mom. I cannot wait for you to meet this wonderful, caring, loving and beautiful woman.

Love,
Dad

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About Brian, by Tonya

Brian is my best friend.  He understands and knows me in ways that no one else does. We’ve known each other since college.  I was a silly college freshman and this guy not only cracked me up but also won my heart with his devotion to God.  He had no idea I had a crush on him!  He was truly oblivious.  We lost contact over the years but eventually reconnected about 10 years ago (thank you, Facebook).  Our first time hanging out, Brian and I sat at Starbucks for hours catching up.  We talked about everything…including my secret crush on him years ago.  That talk turned into a special friendship and six years later, he proposed to me at that same Starbucks.

Over the years we have gone through things that have brought us closer to each other and to God.  We faced several years of a long distance relationship.  This was definitely a test.  Brian lived in Colorado and I lived in California.  Somehow with lots of patience and willpower, we made it work.  Thank goodness for Southwest’s cheap flights!

Brian is the energy of our relationship.  He is a kid at heart and keeps me young.  He is constantly making me laugh and when I’m having a bad day he’s the one I turn to.  He has a huge heart.  When I’m sad he makes up silly songs to make me laugh.  At the beginning of our relationship, he even wrote a sweet song for my Grandma that passed.  That sealed the deal for me.  I knew he was the one I wanted to spend my life with.

He would give up everything for his family.  He has been a huge support system for his sister when she had cancer.  He helped raise her kids, along with his parents.  As adults, his niece and nephew are still very close to him.  He is the oldest sibling and he takes that very seriously.  We often talk about what we can do for our parents as they get older.  We would love to have the option for either of our parents to come to live with us if that is never needed. Having live in grandparents would be an amazing experience for your child.

Watching Brian with my sister’s kids is really what made me see him in a different light.  I could see what a great dad he would be.  He’s firm but fair.  So loving and caring.   He takes the time to listen to them and involve himself in their interests and playtime.  He’s the one who runs out to the play area to help them on the monkey bars and slides.  I know how safe he makes me feel, I can only imagine what he will have to offer your child.

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Our Lifestyle

We enjoy spending time with family and friends.  A majority of our family lives out of state but Tonya’s sister and her family live close so we see them often. Some of our closest friends live just several blocks away from us.  We often spend holidays and special occasions with them as a surrogate family since ours lives further away.  We are blessed to have a close relationship with our young nieces and nephews. We are involved in our church.  Brian volunteers for the worship team and Tonya have been a greeter in the past.

One thing about our lifestyle that we particularly love is that we have been blessed with the opportunity to travel.  As a child, Tonya moved a lot, almost yearly.  That was the extent of her travel.  Now we get to have intentional adventures.  One of our favorite places that we recently discovered is Sedona. We are so excited to plan a camping trip once your child is old enough to enjoy and appreciate the outdoors.  While we love the outdoors, we like to upgrade from staying in tents and like finding fun cabins and RVs to stay in. Taking these trips gives us the opportunity to see new things, cultures, and places.  This is something that is important to us that we want to share with your child. We want them to have the chance to learn and explore. We also want your child to know and understand their own culture and identity, especially if it is different from ours.

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Our Dogs

We have four(!) dogs, and they are the best.  They have unique personalities and a never ending supply of love and cuddles to share with their humans.  Kenzie (the small black and white dog with black eyes and ears) is our mama bear.  She takes care of all the other dogs and is the first to give kisses to everyone.  Willow is a Mastiff and is a giant teddy bear.  She is a 90lb dog who cuddles like she’s a lap dog.  Even though she’s the biggest of our dogs, she also has the best manners.  She will do anything for food or treats.  The best way to her heart is definitely through her tummy.  Gryffin is our golden retriever.  He adores attention.  He actually loves to give hugs and will whine until you pay attention to him.  Piper is our littlest pup.  She is a 10 lb Shih Tzu poodle mix and rules all the other dogs.  She will steal food from the other dogs (miraculously they all let her), get on all the outdoor furniture, and generally drive you crazy.  But when she settles down she is the sweetest cuddle bug.

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What We Will Teach

Kindness, empathy, openness, acceptance, forgiveness, and love.

Your child will be taught to not only stick up for themselves, but also for those who are being mistreated. They will also learn to forgive those that cause harm, but without compromising their own self-worth and values. Your child will be raised to be a thinker and an observer.  They will understand that actions have consequences but there will always be support and understanding from us as parents.  We will teach by example to leave the world a better place than when we entered it and to show kindness whenever possible.

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Home & Neighborhood

We live in a two-story home with a nice size backyard and a really quiet community.  We worked hard on our backyard and constructed a gazebo for outdoor play and relaxation. Next, we will work on adding a grassy area to play in. One of the reasons we wanted a gazebo is so that we can have a front row view of the beautiful sunsets we can see from our back yard. Just up the street is a cute community park.  The community where we live has voted to put in a tot lot for the little ones in the upcoming year.

Our house is a little different than most.  All the bedrooms and main living room are upstairs.  We have three bedrooms and are looking forward to turning one of them into your child’s nursery. As a child, Tonya always had to share her room, so we are so excited to know your child will have a room all to themselves to make their very own.

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Racial & Cultural Diversity

Brian is Hispanic and Tonya is Caucasian. We don’t know what ethnicity your child will be but if they have a different background than us, it will be especially important that we explore and integrate their background so both we and they can understand where they come from. Knowing traditions and customs from your past is special and important for understanding who you are and we want to make sure we help your child understand that.

Discrimination, cultural adversity, and racism are so much more visible than they’ve ever been. It has been eye-opening for our society and means that we are talking about it more and we can actually make progress on equality. Figuring out how to tell your child why they are seen differently by society is going to be hard. One thing we can promise you is that we won’t back down from tough conversations.  We will fight for your child to be treated equally and have every opportunity that they deserve. We will continue to educate ourselves on what is happening outside of our comfort zone and how to actively be anti-racist.

The issues involving diversity are something we feel is valuable to understand regardless of what race or ethnicity your child is.  It is important that our family are allies and advocates no matter what.

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Our Families & Friends

Tonya’s sister and her family live a short distance away from us.  We are so excited for your child to grow up so close to cousins and family. Even though Tonya’s mom and stepdad live out of state, her mom flies out 3-4 times a year to see the grandbabies. Your little one will be added to the list of reasons she has to consider moving to California to be closer to the rest of the family.

We visit Brian’s family every spring.  We get to see our other set of nephews and niece when we visit.  There are lots of Facetime calls in between our visits.

We have a lot of dear friends that also live out of state but luckily, some of our closest friends live just up the street. They have six kids who we absolutely adore. These friends have taken us under their wings, so to speak, and are so excited for us to have a little one.  We have been blessed that their kids have adopted us as surrogate Aunt and Uncle.  We have gone on family vacations together, spend holidays with each other and even have a camping trip planned for next summer.

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Family Traditions

One of the traditions we started doing as a couple since we first started dating is pick out a Christmas ornament for each other. Tonya’s great Aunt used to do this for the kids every year and we thought it would be fun to create this memory within our own family. Each year, we try to find something special and unique and can’t wait to pick out your baby’s first ornament. Our tree will never look ordinary or uniform because of the crazy variety we have collected over the years. Tonya’s favorite ornament is probably a Grinch that she gave Brian for our first Christmas together. He wasn’t really feeling the Christmas spirit yet so the Grinch was totally appropriate.

Our Christmas experience wasn’t really the same growing up.  Celebrating and especially decorating was not on the top of Brian’s “favorite” things to do.  Now, he gets into it as much as Tonya does.  For us, it’s less about gifts and more about enjoying the season and making memories.  We love to put up lights and put up decorations.  We are looking forward to keeping our ornament tradition alive and sharing the funny stories we have to go with each ornament with your child and maybe generations to come!

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Our Promise to You

When we talk about what we want for your child we pause to really think about what we will promise you, as their birth mother.

We promise to raise your child to be loving, kind, and empathetic. Giving of self, and being aware of others. Your act of unselfishness will always be the cornerstone of what we teach your child. So much of this comes from following in Christ’s footsteps. Caring for others is all of what He did when He was in this world. When we teach your child to “love others” it will mean teaching to love those that don’t look or act like us. When we teach empathy, it will be to show understanding and care for those we don’t necessarily agree with or understand. So often when we think of Christians we see judgment and condemnation. This will not be how we raise your child in faith. That is a very important distinction we want to share with your child.  We are loving and accepting and we will pass this on to your child.

If we have a little girl, we promise to teach her there are no gender limits.  She can be whatever she wants in this life. We will teach her to never feel less than because society says “she’s just a girl.” We will make sure she knows that she matters in this world.

If we are blessed with a little boy, we will ensure he knows how to treat people, especially women. We will help him be strong when he needs to but also be comfortable showing vulnerability and emotion when it is needed. We will also teach him he can do anything he sets his mind to.

We promise that any child we are blessed with will know how important and loved they are, how blessed we are to be their parents. We promise to surround them with every advantage we can offer but also teach them independence and resilience. We will teach them to question things and come to their own conclusions, not just depending on what they are told. We will expose them to cultures and experiences outside of our own to make sure they understand the importance of diversity. We will always do our best to guide them in every way possible along life’s journey.

Message Brian and Tonya

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!