Adoption is a rich and unique lifestyle for many people. In fact, there is a large, diverse adoption community that is plugged into all the wonderful, messy, and interesting aspects of adoption. What many people don’t know is that there is more to adoption than receiving legal guardianship of a child that is not biologically yours.
Adoption contains a number of interesting facts and figures that make it something both complex and breathtaking. Overall, there is a lot that the vast majority does not know about adoption. This guide will focus on the top 8 adoption facts you should know.
8 Adoption Facts
1. Adoptive Parents Are Usually In Their 30s to Mid 40s:
On average, Adoptive Parents are usually couples in their 30s to mid 40s, and single Adoptive Parents are often women in their 40s. In these cases, adoptions take place after a couple learns of their infertility. This devastating and heartbreaking situation can cause a lot of pain and hurt, but many couples soon turn to adoption, as it is an excellent option for starting a family. Additionally, a growing number of samesex couples are now choosing adoption due to recent legal developments regarding equal marriage rights and state adoption recognition laws. People in their 30s and 40s are usually excellent candidates for prospective Adoptive Parents because they are financially stable and can provide all the love, support, and resources a child deserves and needs.
2. Adults Can Be Adopted Too:
Children are not the only people who can be adopted. In fact, in most states, adults (persons who are 18 years or older) may also be legally adopted. In some states, the minimum adoption requirement is that the Adoptive Parent be at least 10 years older than the adoptee, and married (in some states). With this in mind, any adults who have aged out of the foster care system, grown up moving from home to home, or who have simply never known a stable parent are able to be adopted into a loving, caring family that can provide them the love and support they need.
3. Adoption Laws Vary By State:
Though there are some basic adoption rules and requirements that are the same everywhere, many adoption laws actually vary by state. Some adoption entities are fully licensed in more than one state, while others are only licensed in their home state.
4. Birth Parents Have the Most Control Over an Adoption:
In most adoptions, Birth Parents have the most control over the adoption. The Birth Parents can choose the Adoptive Family, gain the most support, decide how the hospital stay will go, and may decide whether the adoption will be open or close in most situations.
5. Adoptions Can Fall Through:
Though it is usually devastating for everyone involved, some adoptions can fall through. This is known as adoption disruption. Usually, there is a short window period after the child is born or the adoption papers are signed in which the Birth Parent can change their mind and ask for the child back. If this happens, the Adoptive Family must comply. Usually, agencies screen Birth Mothers to gauge the likelihood of this happening, but not all adoptions are conducted through agencies.
6. Adoption Wait Times Can Vary:
Though most adoption wait times are long, the actual wait times can vary depending upon a number of factors. Your adoption plan, where you adopt from, and if you use an agency, facilitator, or other means to adopt can all have an influence on how long you have to wait to be selected for your child. On average, wait times can last anywhere from a few months to a couple of years. International adoptions usually take the longest.
7. Families With Biological Children Often Adopt:
Some families wish to adopt even if they already have children of their own. There are many reasons why families want to adopt and as long as they are safe, financially stable, and able to parent the child successfully, they will be able to do so. In these cases, however, parents must explain to their biological children about adoption and work to create bonds and connections between their biological and adoptive children.
8. Adopted Children Are Your Children:
Some parents may worry that an adoptive child will not feel like their own Though this is a valid fear, many parents find that they will bond with love and adore their adoptive child as much as they would their own child. Raising and caring for a child makes them your own, making how you got the child irrelevant. Adoptive Parents have a special kind of love to offer their adoptive child, because that child is a miracle that never seemed possible until adoption.
Now that you know a little bit more about adoption, you may be considering adoption for yourself, or are able to accept an adoption close to you. Adoption is great for kids and parents, and learning more about this will help educate the public further.