- Unplanned Pregnancy
- Pregnancy & Adoption Planning Guide
- Why Choose Adoption
For Expectant Parents considering adoption, an adoption professional is the place
to start. Some of these are local, while others work with families throughout the
USA and beyond. An adoption professional will work closely and sympathetically with
expectant parents to ensure they feel safe and happy with their adoption plan.
Their role is to advise and support Expectant Parents through the process of
pregnancy, birth, placement, and beyond.
Most of us feel better knowing what to expect. Here’s a general idea of what
happens when you sign up with an adoption professional:
Once you have selected an adoption professional, you will be asked to complete
some paperwork. This usually includes personal and health history, proof of
pregnancy, and family selection criteria. This helps them get to know you so
they can help you find the right Adoptive Family. It also allows the child to
have the information later on.
Your adoption professional should help you apply for any public assistance or
insurance benefits to which you are entitled during your pregnancy. Depending on
your state, reasonable living expenses may be permitted as part of an adoption
plan. Additionally, many adoption professionals provide safe housing assistance,
should you need it, as allowed by state law. Expenses are paid directly to the
provider, like a landlord or utility company. The adoption Judge will review
expenses paid to you before the adoption is finalized so careful records are kept.
Your adoption professional will help you calculate expenses and comply with
will connect you with an Adoption Advisor. An Adoption
Advisor is there to help you through the adoption process and offer emotional
support. They are generally available by phone, text or email. Your Adoption
Advisor will help you with everything from doctors appointments and finding
support in your area, to coordinating living expenses and communicating with the
Adoptive Family. Adoption Advisors generally contact you once a week, but are
available as often or as little as you like.
Depending on your adoption professional, they may be able to put you in contact
with a Birth Mother who is years beyond placement. She is there to talk to you
and listen. She can help you understand what feelings to expect during your
pregnancy and after your baby is placed in their new adoptive home. It helps to
talk to someone who knows exactly what it feels like to place a child for adoption.
Many mentors and mentees develop lasting friendships.
You get to choose an Adoptive Family. First you will discuss the kind of family
you hope will adopt your baby; then you’ll be shown suitable profiles. Adoptive
Families have to undergo rigorous screening processes so you can feel comfortable
knowing that each profile is a loving adoptive family, who is emotionally and
financially able to give your child a great life. You can speak with them and
sometimes even meet in person before coming to a decision. Your adoption professional
will help you with these conversations. It is important that everyone is entirely
happy with the choice.
The degree of "openness" in the
will be based on your comfort level, and
that of the Adoptive Parents. This may include the sending of photos and letters,
or meetings with your child. Maintaining contact allows you to know how your child
is doing and reassures you that you made the right choice. Consider what seems right
for you at this time and be prepared to adjust your level of contact over the years,
as your and your child’s lives evolve.
A birth plan is a formula for what you want your hospital experience to look like.
There are additional factors to consider when your birth plan includes adoption.
Do you want Adoptive Parents in the labor room? Who do you want to take care of
the baby during your hospital stay? Who will be your support during recover and
relinquishment? Creating a plan that considers these issues helps everyone know
what to expect.
Making an adoption plan, and the many decisions that go along with it, is not
always easy. Your adoption professional can help guide you, but will not make
decisions for you. No one, including any professional or family member, should
pressure you into making a decision. They can, however, help you sort through
your feelings and help you get answers.
An adoption professional can help you sort through your feelings and help you get answers.