For Expectant Parents considering adoption, an adoption professional is the place to start. Some of these are local, while others like Adoption Network work with families throughout the U.S. Adoption Network will work closely and sympathetically with expectant parents to ensure they feel safe and happy with their adoption plan. Our role is to advise and support Expectant Parents through the process of pregnancy, birth, placement, and beyond. Most of us feel better knowing what to expect. Here’s a general idea of what happens when you sign up with Adoption Network:
PAPERWORKWhen you select Adoption Network as your adoption professional, you and one of our adoption advisors will complete some paperwork together. This usually includes personal information, health history, proof of pregnancy, and family selection criteria. This paperwork provides us with information to get to know you and help you ﬁnd the right Adoptive Family for your baby. It also allows the child to have the information later on.
ADOPTION ADVISOROur Adoption Advisor is there to help you through the adoption process and oﬀer emotional support. They are generally available by phone, text or email. Your Adoption Advisor will help you with everything from doctor appointments and ﬁnding support in your area, to coordinating living expenses and communicating with the Adoptive Family. Adoption Advisors are available as often or as little as you like.
MENTORINGAdoption Network can connect you with a Birth Mother who is years beyond placement. She is there to talk to you and listen. She can help you understand what feelings to expect during your pregnancy and after your baby is placed in their new adoptive home. It helps to talk to someone who knows exactly what it feels like to place a child for adoption. Many mentors and mentees develop lasting friendships.
SELECT AN ADOPTIVE FAMILYYou get to choose an Adoptive Family. First you will discuss the kind of family you hope will adopt your baby; then you’ll be shown suitable profiles. Adoptive Families have to undergo rigorous screening processes so you can feel comfortable knowing that each profile is a loving adoptive family, who is emotionally and financially able to give your child a great life. You can speak with them and sometimes even meet in person before coming to a decision. Your adoption professional will help you with these conversations. It is important that everyone is entirely happy with the choice.
DETERMINE LEVEL OF CONTACTThere are many adoption choices you will be asked to make during your pregnancy. Once you start your adoption plan, you will need to choose an Adoptive Family, and decide how much contact you want with them during your pregnancy and if you want to maintain contact after you place your child into his/her new home. Some adoptions are open, some are closed, and some are somewhere in between. The degree of “openness” in the adoption will be based on your comfort level, and that of the Adoptive Parents. Some Birth Parents ﬁnd peace of mind knowing that they can visit, talk to, or see photos of the child they placed with the Adoptive Family. Others ﬁnd it easier to move forward with their lives by abstaining from contact with the child or the Adoptive Parents. You should discuss your options with your adoption advisor and ﬁgure out which adoption arrangement would work best for you. Consider what seems right for you at this time and be prepared to adjust your level of contact over the years, as you and your child’s lives evolve.
MAKE A BIRTH PLANMaking a birth plan, and the many decisions that go along with it, is not always easy. There are additional factors to consider when your birth plan includes adoption. Do you want Adoptive Parents in the labor room? Who do you want to take care of the baby during your hospital stay? Who will be your support during recovery and relinquishment? Creating a plan with your adoption advisor will help you and everyone to know what to expect. Our advisor can help guide you, but will not make decisions for you. No one, including any professional or family member, should pressure you into making a decision. They can, however, help you sort through your feelings and help you get answers.
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