Our use of the terms “putting up” or “giving up” does not reflect how we feel about adoptive placement. These terms remain the most widely used search terms for those who are considering adoption for their baby, and we wish to reach all who seek this important information.
If you are a woman facing an unplanned pregnancy in Texas there are three options that you can pursue. The first option is to have the child and parent it yourself, the second option is to have an abortion, and the third is to give birth to the child and place the baby for adoption. It is entirely up to you to make this decision, and no one should make it for you. Deciding which course of action is best for you can be a difficult decision, but there are many resources available for pregnancy help that can provide you with both information and support as you figure out what course of action is right for you.
Choosing to Parent
The first thing that you need to decide for yourself is whether or not you are ready to be a parent.
Here are some questions to help you determine whether or not you are ready to be a parent to your child:
- Can I provide for my child financially? - Raising a child can be expensive (the cost of raising a child is about $250,000 on average) so it is worth considering whether or not you have the means to provide the kind of life that you want for your child.
- Can I give my child the time and attention that I would like? - Along with the financial aspect, raising a child also demands resources in the way of time and energy, so it is important to consider whether or not you are willing and able to devote the time and care that raising a child demands.
- Will the father be involved? - Some parents want their child to be raised in a two-parent household. If the father is out of the picture it can put added strain on you (financially, time wise, and energy wise) so if the father is out of the picture, it helps to take stock of your resources (what people in your life are available to help you out) and decide for yourself if you can go it alone or whether you have the support that you desire.
- Do I want to be a parent? - This is easily the most important question in regards to figuring out if becoming a parent is right for you. Parenting is not for everyone and whether it just is not the right time or whether you do not see yourself ever being a parent, that is a decision for you and you alone to make. But if you are ready to be a parent and this is the path you choose for you and your child then you are certainly not alone and it is very much attainable.
If you are satisfied that you have the resources and support, willingness and ability to parent and are confident in your decision to go forth with raising the child yourself, then congratulations are in order. Parenting is a lifelong commitment and it won’t always be without difficulty, but it can be the most rewarding decision of your life. If you need any additional help or want to take stock of extra resources available to you then you should take a look at the Texas Department of State Health Services website. The website is full of information and programs that are helpful for any woman facing an unplanned pregnancy in the state of TX.
If you have decided that parenthood is not the right course for you, then one of your options is to terminate the pregnancy by way of an abortion. Abortion is legal in Texas and you are well within your rights to choose abortion if you have decided that it is right for you. That being said, the state of TX does have some of the most restrictive abortion laws in the country, so it important to know what to expect if you are choosing abortion.
- Abortion timeline – Texas allows for abortions until 20 weeks post-fertilization (unless something life-threatening presents itself in which case you can terminate even later) but after 16 weeks Texas law requires an abortion to be preformed at an ambulatory surgical center or hospital.
You will have to make at least two trips to your abortion provider –
During your first trip, TX law requires you to receive a sonogram and you will
also be given some state-mandated paperwork that outlines medical risks,
alternatives to abortion, as well as highlighting the developmental stages
of fetus growth. This first trip is followed by a 24 hour waiting period
(this waiting period can be waived if you live 100 miles or more from the
closest abortion provider) and it is only after the completion of this waiting
period that you may have your abortion.
- It is also worth noting that you must see the same doctor for both visits. You also do not have to actually view the sonogram if you do not wish to.
- Due to regulations there has been a decline in abortion providers – look into where your nearest abortion provider is, cities like Austin, Dallas, Fort Worth, El Paso, Houston, McAllen, and San Antonio have one or more, but you can find a full list of abortion providers here.
- Abortion Procedure Options – There are two ways that doctors can go about performing an abortion. The first is called a medical abortion and this is the least invasive of the two and is accomplished by taking a pill. The second option is a surgical abortion that requires the doctor to perform a procedure in order to terminate the pregnancy. You may be able to choose which abortion you prefer, but it depends on a few factors such as how far along you are and what your abortion provider offers, so make sure you check with your provider.
- Underage Abortion – In the event of teen pregnancy, or pregnancies where the individual is under the age of 18 it is still possible to get an abortion. To be able to get an abortion the person in question would need to receive the consent of a parent or legal guardian. The only way around the consent law is if you are legally emancipated or if you file an application for Judicial bypass (in which a judge grants you permission to have an abortion without parental or guardian consent)
- Abortion Cost – Unless you purchased separate abortion insurance, an abortion is not covered by your health insurance plan so the cost is something that you will have to consider. The cost of an abortion depends on how far along you are, as well as on the method by which you are receiving the abortion. For example a first trimester medical abortion is between $300 and $800 whereas a surgical abortion would cost between $300 and $1500. If you are unable to afford an abortion, there are non-profits and clinics that help women in your position pay for the procedure.
If you do choose to go through with abortion, keep in mind that there are resources available to you afterwards to help you heal if you need it, whether it be in the form of counseling or support groups. You can look online for resources near you or visit Planned Parenthood if you have any questions or concerns.
If you are a woman facing an unexpected pregnancy in the state of Texas, there is always the option of adoption. If you want to go through with having the baby, but either aren’t ready to be a parent or believe that it is in the best interest of you and your unborn child that it be raised by someone else, then adoption might be the right choice for you. If you are thinking about adoption, contact either a local Texas adoption professional or a national adoption professional like Adoption Network Law Center and they will be able to answer any questions that you might have and walk you through the entire process.
With choosing adoption you have a say in where the child ends up and can help to ensure that your baby grows up in a loving and nurturing environment in which he or she has every chance to succeed. You can find a family that will be able to provide a life for your child that you cannot. Adoption is free to you and there may be financial support available to prospective Birth Mothers to help with pregnancy and birth related costs. With open adoptions being increasingly common, you will also likely retain some level of contact with the Adoptive Parents and child if that is something you would like.
As an adoption law center Adoption Network can give you more information on any aspect of adoption that you may need. Feel free to contact us any time at 1-800-367-2367 and we will be sure to help you in any way that we can.