Married Since: 2019

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

What you are considering will change all of our lives forever. We are grateful you would consider us to share in your journey. We can’t imagine what you have to consider making this brave, selfless and loving decision, but we offer you our support, understanding and gratitude.

Tom and Julie

from Pennsylvania

Tom

Ancestry: Polish, Serbian, German

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Performance Consultant

Education: Associates Degree

Hobbies: Working out, Volunteering

Julie

Ancestry: English, Irish, Greek, Czech

Religion: Catholic

Occupation: Homemaker

Education: M.P.P.M.

Hobbies: Yoga, Museums, Volunteering

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Catholic

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From Us to You

Dear Expectant Mother—

The decision you are about to make will change both of our lives forever and we are grateful you would choose us to share in your journey. We can’t imagine all the things you have to consider making this brave, selfless and loving decision, but we offer you our support, understanding and gratitude.

To place your child in our home would be a gift from God. We have all the bits and pieces ready to make a forever home: We have been together for more than 14 years and have tons of relatives and friends with kids close by. Our family already contains one teenager, Tom’s daughter and Julie’s step-daughter Kayla who is 19, as well as a pet dog and cat. Our home is in the city in a really cool, artsy, historic area that offers so many things to do just steps away from our doorstep. Not to mention the three major rivers and amazing urban parks. The best of both worlds and perfect for exposing children to creative, artistic and nature experiences.

We aren’t sure where you are on your journey to adoption but ours started like many others on this website: we tried to conceive for many years, and ultimately health issues didn’t allow that to happen. Soon after we began to learn about adoption and are convinced this was the path we were meant to be on all along. Adoption will allow us to complete our 7-year journey and will fulfill lifelong dreams to be parents together. Thank you for considering us.

Adoption, like having your own children, and even getting married, is a lifelong commitment we are so excited to make. And with that we’d like to pledge our commitment to your child:

– We promise to love your baby, unconditionally, because all children deserve love, support and compassion.

– We promise to do everything in our power to make sure they have the best life possible, so they can grow into whatever person they are meant to be.

– We promise to open our hearts to you, in whatever capacity that may be, so that we can all grow from this experience.

– And lastly, we promise to never forget the sacrifice you made and the gift you gave us. We will cherish every moment, the good and the bad, the ups and the downs because love always prevails.

Thank you for reading about us and our prayers go out to you.
Julie and Tom

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About Tom

Tom made me laugh from the moment we met and we have been laughing ever since. He is my best friend and my favorite person to spend time with. Just his presence relaxes me. He is laidback, unbelievably patient and caring, understanding and very accommodating. He is a caretaker by nature and always wants us to be safe, healthy and happy. Being with Tom for 14 years has changed me for the better. He makes sure that we are taken care of as a family financially and I am so grateful that he works so hard. We have fun no matter what we are doing together, and we definitely like separate things: him – sports, weightlifting, and cars; me – art museums, yoga and cooking! I think being different in our interests is what has made us such a stable couple. There’s always something we are learning from one another, which is exciting.

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About Julie

From the moment I met Julie, my life as I knew it was altered and dramatically changed. Julie is the most passionate, selfless, honest and caring person I have ever met. Not only does she have a huge heart, she is very intelligent and truly a professional in her career. Getting her master’s degree over the last few years taught me about continuing to grow and want more. The opportunity to have a family with her is the most important and rewarding situation possible! She has many different likes from mine and getting to know the fine arts and fine foods has been a game changer! I also rely on her keen fashion sense to bring me from a pretty sad wardrobe to a current and stylish one! I would not be the person I am today without her love and support. She is my best friend and I couldn’t be more excited to be on this life journey with such a great partner.

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Our Home

We live in a three-story row home that has 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, and a small backyard. We live in a part of the city which is widely known as a diverse, artsy and historic neighborhood with fantastic views of the city skyline and all the fireworks you could ask for! The children’s museum, national aviary, contemporary art museum and local theater are all within walking distance of our house. Not to mention the countless restaurants, major sports stadiums, riverfront trails and parks. Our neighborhood, for an urban setting, has lots to offer with monthly “stoop nights” which is like a low-key progressive party and a lot of our neighbors have young children from diverse backgrounds. The park that is just 3 blocks away has a small lake, a dog park, multiple playgrounds, tennis courts and an old-fashioned ice-ball and popcorn cart. When we aren’t walking the dog through the many parks close by, we can be found walking to our local church, volunteering at a neighborhood organization, or visiting friends and family.

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Our Families

Tom’s daughter from a previous marriage, Kayla, is 19 and studying to be a nurse in her second year of college. Kayla is an amazing girl who we keep in touch with despite being busy with school, a part-time job, volleyball, softball and her local church. When Kayla was younger we saw her every week for the weekends and other days in the week, but she is growing into an incredible young woman and we are so excited for these next chapters of her life as a young adult! Tom has one brother, Jeff, who is married to Kendra and they have with a step-daughter, Emmi, who is 20 and a son, Jack, who just turned 6. Tom’s brother and family live in Pittsburgh and much like Julie’s side of the family, we see them regularly at holidays and family gatherings. Julie has two brothers and one sister. JR lives on the other side of the state and has three boys: Jared 22, Luke 18, Wade 12. Jennifer lives in Pittsburgh and has two girls and a boy: Christian 23, Rachel 20, Hannah 16. Last is Jeffrey who also lives in Pittsburgh with one boy and one girl: Kyra 15 and Turner, 12. We both have close relationships with our siblings and parents. Having 5 teenagers and 3 over 20 makes my nieces and nephews very busy starting high school, college or their first real jobs. We all manage to get together on pretty much every holiday and major event, which is so great! We both have large extended family. Now that everyone has started their own families, we mostly see one another at graduations, weddings, funerals or reunions. Most of our cousins have tons of kids which makes our already big family even bigger!

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Our Lifestyle

Right now, both of us are working from home and don’t expect to be back in the office any time soon. Julie’s office is local and has made accommodations for all employees to be at home for the foreseeable future. Additionally, her work has extended the ability to work non-traditional hours which is nice because now she can work evening or weekend hours if she needs to accommodate things during the traditional work week. Tom’s company is national and by default he works from home with a little bit of travel which has been canceled for the time being so, we both have very flexible schedules.

In our spare time we spend a lot time outdoors, walking in our neighborhood which has several parks, playgrounds, and a fantastic riverfront. Most weekends we take at least one trip to a state park with either a lake, trails or mountain views. Other times we are together with our family and friends. Both of us work out daily. Tom goes to the gym daily and has many friends he trains with and spends time with going to sports events and Julie works out from home or goes to yoga and other classes with friends and family.

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Family Traditions

Since we both come from very large families with plenty of nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts and uncles many of our traditions focus on our families. With our immediate family, we’ve been lucky to only have to take turns on Thanksgiving. On Christmas, we spend Christmas Eve with Tom’s family and with Julie’s family on Christmas Day. Our family gatherings are centered around food and being together. We love the major holidays but also the times like birthdays or vacations when we get to spend time with our siblings and their children. All together we have 10 nieces and nephews!

Some of the traditions we have developed as a couple involve traveling, many sporting games like the local soccer game on the 4th of July that ends in spectacular fireworks, being involved in activities with our parish community, and volunteering together. One of our favorite organizations to volunteer with throws birthday parties for homeless children and it’s something that has really brought us closer together. We’ve also been taking annual trips to Florida to visit Tom’s Grandmother, something we can’t wait to share with your child.

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Cultural Diversity

We live in an urban and very diverse neighborhood. It is a historic neighborhood known for being a cultural destination due to the many attractions around the neighborhood all within walking distance. The families that live in our neighborhood are diverse in terms of age, race, and family dynamic. We find our neighborhood to be very enriching and have had many opportunities to meet our community through events, meetings, get-togethers and so much more. We are blessed to live in an area where we know many of our neighbors by name. Outside of our neighborhood, we have a diverse group of friends. People from many racial and ethnic backgrounds bless our life and we see many of them several times a year together and individually. If we are chosen to adopt, our child will attend a very diverse school within walking distance of our house. It is a top-rated magnet school.

Between the community, our group of close friends and the school down the street, we feel we have created an environment for parenting a transracial family.

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Our Hobbies

We couldn’t be more opposite in our interests, but what we do love is spending time together, with our friends and family. Tom loves all things related to cars and goes to the gym regularly, lifts weights and keeps track of all sports. Sometimes we go to football games, soccer matches, or baseball games and have a blast. Julie loves art of all kinds and enjoys yoga and going to museums. On many weekends and trips we will go to nature centers, arts festivals, symphonies and concerts. We easily blend our interests because at the heart of everything we do is our desire to be together. We also have three adopted pets: LiLi, our cat, came to us 10 years ago, as a kitten and Ginger, our dog, was found at the local shelter and is now 9, and Maggie, our second dog who is 2 came from the same shelter as Ginger. It’s a lot to keep up with three pets but they add so much fun and happiness to our lives it’s totally worth it.

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How We Met

We met at a car dealership where he worked. I came in to look at a car and even though he was a manager he took me on a test drive. Shortly after I went back and we started dating thereafter. He made me laugh from the moment that I met him and we have been laughing ever since. Tom is my best friend and my favorite person to spend time with. We have fun no matter what we are doing together and we definitely like separate things: him – sports, me – art and yoga! We don’t have so many differences in preference or taste because we generally like the same things. We do have differences of opinion with regards to finances and budgets and after 14 years of being together we just talk it through. We have gotten to a point where our biggest rule in the family is to not make any big decisions without the other and helps us negotiate big and little decisions. Tom knows that I like to write things down or make lists and he gives me time to research or change my mind a few times. I know that Tom likes to make everything happen all at once and so sometimes I have to slow him down or help him prioritize. My lists help! Our division of chores are pretty gender traditional. I take care of most things in the home—shopping, cleaning, groceries, cooking. Tom takes care of things like yardwork, car maintenance, bills, etc.

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

We have both have dreamed of starting a family together since we got married. We’ve been parenting Tom’s daughter since she was five and have wanted to grow our family for the last ten years. Tom is a wonderful father to Kayla. They have always had such a special bond that will never be broken and I am grateful to be her step-mom. Having Kayla as a part of my life has reinforced how much I want to be a mother again. Coming from a huge family, motherhood has always been a part of my life. I’ve never thought about not being a mom. We think raising children is the ultimate gift and role we will ever have. Everyone in both of our families is beyond supportive and very excited for us. We have extended relatives who have adopted and no one has expressed anything but positivity and prayers.

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Our Promise to You

As parents who have learned that two mothers and two fathers is wonderful, we know that the boundaries of family are limitless as long as love is at the heart. By choosing to parent Tom’s daughter, we grew as a couple and know that creating an open and blended family for Kayla is part of what makes her a wonderful woman today. We promise the very same for you and your child. When Tom and I first met we didn’t know we would get married, but Kayla was a part of our relationship from the very beginning. Our promise to you is to work on figuring out the best family possible. We know it might not be perfect and it won’t be easy, but this is not unfamiliar territory for us.

Message Tom and Julie

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Tom and Julie

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!