Married Since: 2015

Pets: No

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We believe that our goals are the same: for every child to have a safe and loving home.

Brandon and Alex

from Washington

Brandon

Ancestry: Italian, Dutch

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Registered Nurse

Education: A.S. Nursing

Hobbies: Cooking, Video games, Music

Alex

Ancestry: Scotch-Irish, Dutch

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Student

Education: BA Psychology

Hobbies: Video games, Smart home technology, Cooking, Movies

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Nonpracticing

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Dear Expectant Mother,

We cannot begin to understand what you are going through right now. We hope that you are being well supported by everyone involved with this complex and emotional decision and process. We admire and respect the decision you are making by choosing to pursue adoption for your child.

We met in December 2012 and were married in December of 2015. We have worked very hard to establish and maintain a relationship that is based on open communication, honesty, respect, and humor. We try not to take life too seriously and do our best to keep a positive attitude during difficult times. When this is not possible, we rely on each other for support and understanding when times get tough. We hope to raise a child with these same values.

We are choosing to adopt simply because we are two fellas who love each other and medical science is not advanced enough to allow for us to create a kiddo ourselves.

Alex has worked in education for many years and has a degree in psychology. He is currently pursuing an education and career in IT. He is wonderful with children and will use all of his learned skills to be the best Papa he can be. He is planning on being a stay-at-home parent, ideally until your child starts Kindergarten. Brandon is a Registered Nurse who has the knowledge and skills to keep a child safe and to respond appropriately if and when accidents happen. Although he is not a pediatric nurse, Brandon spent many years working at Disneyland and has a lot of experience working with children. Together, we believe that we will be loving parents and will use our combined knowledge and experience to foster a nurturing home for your baby.

When it comes to raising a child, our intention is to provide a supportive environment based on open communication and respect. We firmly believe in the importance of reading to children, and plan to do so every day. We believe in the authoritative model of parenting; acting as role models and exhibiting the same behaviors we expect of the child. Our goal is to involve your child (as developmentally appropriate) in the development of rules and consequences, instead of relying on “because I said so.”

Thank you so very much for taking the time to read this letter. As we said before, we hope you are being supported during this complicated time. We have no way of understanding what you are feeling or going through. Although our experiences in this process are very different, we believe that our goals are the same: for every child to have a safe and loving home. We hope to be given the opportunity to provide that to your child. Thank you very much for your time and consideration.

Sincerely,
Brandon and Alex

Q&A

What do you hope to teach your child(ren)?

We will teach our child that they are loved and a valued member of our family. It is also our hope as parents to teach our child how to get along in this world. To be kind to others and to treat others with compassion and respect. We will raise them to approach the world from a place of optimism, while providing them with the tools to advocate for themselves. We will want also teach them the value of diversity and how important it is to use empathy to try to see the world from each other’s perspectives.

What will you tell your child about his or her birth parents?

We will be open and honest (core values of our household) with our child about his or her birth parents. We want our child to have a clear, yet developmentally appropriate, understanding of where they came from. We want our child to understand the vital role that his or her birth parents have played in their life. We want them to know that the birth parent’s decision to adopt is often very difficult, but a decision made with the intention of providing them with a better life that they may not have been equipped to provide themselves.

How will a child enrich your life?

Having a child will be a dream come true for both of us. We have so much love for each other and want nothing more than to grow our family in our loving home. Other parents say that raising a child is the most rewarding experience, and while it is hard to know ahead of time exactly what that means, we are excited to find out. We have so much love to give and can’t wait until the day that we can hold our future baby and shower them with unconditional love.

Will you be a stay-at-home parent? If so, what are your day-to-day plans?

Alex plans on being a stay-at-home parent until our future child attends school. Brandon will be returning to work, but is lucky enough to be off every other week. While it is difficult to predict our day-to-day plans, we understand the importance of both structure and variety. We plan on reading to our child every day, starting from day 1. We want to foster lifelong learning and will provide age appropriate education, life skills, and responsibility. Living around such beautiful nature and clean air, we will go outside for walks and enjoy other outdoor activities. Our community includes a large number of parks where we will go to play and bond as a family. We will take our child to libraries and museums to learn about the world and how we all have a place in it and contribute in our own way. Most importantly, we will make sure to tell our child every day how much we love them, even when the going gets tough.

When you close your eyes and see yourself holding your precious baby in your arms, what are your thoughts regarding his or her birth parents?

Our thoughts on his or her birth parents are that we could not have done this without them and that we hope they are well. While we cannot understand how difficult the decision to adopt was, we hope that they can find peace knowing that their child is being cared for with unconditional love and respect. We are eternally grateful for the opportunity that the birth parents have provided us. When we look at our precious baby, we will always remember the sacrifice that they made. We want them to know that they will not be forgotten.

Message Brandon and Alex

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!

Contact Brandon and Alex

  • Date Format: MM slash DD slash YYYY
  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!