Married Since: 2016

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: Yes

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We can’t begin to imagine the emotions flowing through you at this very moment. Which is why we want you to know that we believe in you and in your decision to love and provide the life you wish for your child. We hold your selfless act of devotion in the highest regard and we promise to always make sure your child knows of your infinite love for them.

Jeffrey and Amanda

from North Carolina

Jeff

Ancestry: German, English, Scottish, Belgian

Religion: Episcopal

Occupation: Executive Director and Faculty

Education: MBA, MA

Hobbies: Gardening, Watching sports and movies, Hiking, Kayaking, Travel and Running

Amanda

Ancestry: German, Polish, Czechoslovakian, Russian

Religion: Episcopal

Occupation: University Program Director

Education: BS, BA

Hobbies: Cooking, Yoga, Reading, Hiking, Travel, Gardening

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Episcopal

Favorites

Jeff

Animal
Dolphin
Book
Iliad by Homer
Family Activity
Nature walks
Food
Shepherd's pie
Holiday
New Year's Eve
Movie
Dead Poets' Society
Sport
Futbol (aka soccer)
Early Bird or Night Owl
Both
Music
All kinds
Vacation Spot
Porto, Portugal

Amanda

Animal
Owl
Book
American Gods by Neil Gamin
Family Activity
Nature walks
Food
Soup dumplings
Holiday
Halloween
Movie
Labyrinth
Sport
American football
Early Bird or Night Owl
Neither, I love sleep!
Music
Indie, House and Rock
Vacation Spot
Outer Banks, NC
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From Us to You

“Salud!” Our family starts each day with this Spanish greeting to celebrate and wish for good health. That is how we want to start this new day with you. So from Amanda, Jeff and our two-year-old son, Kelby, “Salud!” We wish you good health and peace in your journey.

We are beyond honored that you are taking the time to read our profile. We can’t begin to imagine the emotions flowing through you at this very moment. Which is why we want you to know that we believe in you and in your decision to love and provide the life you wish for your child. We hold your selfless act of devotion in the highest regard and we promise to always make sure your child knows of your infinite love for them.

We read Kelby a book called “I Wished for You, An Adoption Story.” It’s a story of a momma bear who wished for a child and one day her wish came true. While the story is beautiful, it leaves out the one person who made it all possible, the birth mom. The story happened because of her courageous decision to search the world for the best possible future for her child. We understand that our story also begins with you. We know that growing our family is not possible unless you are part of our story. So, we wish for YOU.

In 2018, three months after we began our first adoption journey, we received the call that our son’s birth parents chose us.  In an instant our hearts were filled with immeasurable love for a baby we had never met. That day enhanced our lives forever and we are beyond grateful for his birth parents. Through their challenging decision they gifted us our son. Being Kelby’s parents is the most extraordinary blessing.

Growing with Kelby over the last two years has shown us that we want to experience the joys of adoption again. We want Kelby and our future child to know the pure happiness of being siblings. Kelby will be the best big brother a child could have. His kind, caring and helpful ways tell us that he will be first in line to help feed, soothe, play and read “baby” a book.

We understand that the blessing of another child will transform our lives for the better again. We are thrilled and ready to begin that journey. We promise to honor the gift we are given and to make sure that your child knows how they came into this world, and into our lives. We will respect you and your decisions about your relationship with your child. We also know that those decisions can change over time.

What we can 100% promise you and your baby, without any doubt, is that your child will grow up in a family who loves them with full hearts, will stop at nothing to provide the world for them and will honor who they are. We will teach them how to respect and protect others, stand up for justice and care for all that inhabit our planet. We will provide your baby with adventures locally and globally, and with the opportunity to try everything their hearts desire.

At the end of each day we will come together as a family to reflect on our adventures and enjoy our evening. We might build forts, play a board game, watch a movie, have an impromptu dance party, or play dress up. After our play time together, we will cook a family meal and sit at the dinner table together. We will always finish the night with a great book, tons of snuggles and the promise to do it all again the next day.

With our deepest sincerity we wish you the best in life and hope that you have the support you need during this challenging time. If you are willing, we would love to know more about you and invite you to learn more about us.

Salud,
Amanda, Jeff and Kelby

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About Us

The moment we saw each other, we fell in love. It was “love at first sight” for both of us. That love has only grown because we desire to make each other happy all the time. As a couple we enjoy expressing our affection daily in “little” ways. Whether it is getting each other’s tea at night, opening doors, or giving the other space to unwind, we relish every moment we can show each other how much we care. As parents that love continues to strengthen because we both are passionate about raising a family that has a positive impact on others, our community, the environment and society as a whole.

We have built our relationship on respect, trust and excitement for exploring the world together. We always make it a point to listen to each other, understand each other’s perspective and maintain equal partnership in our relationship, home and family life. Our experience raising Kelby has proven that these foundational strengths, not only help our relationship, but also help our family thrive and have added to our desire to always do the best we can for each other.

We are the couple who likes to hold hands when we walk, unless we can’t because we are carrying our son or walking the dogs. And when each day is done, we make sure to kiss and say “sweet dreams” and that we love each other. We do this, quite simply, because we do full-heartedly love each other in every way and want to do our best to start and end each day in a positive manner. We cannot wait to welcome your child into our family and continue to build an atmosphere that nurtures growth, health, infinite love and immeasurable happiness.

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About Amanda

From the very beginning, I knew Amanda was born to be an extraordinary mother. She showed me, even on our first date, that she is the most loving, caring and selfless human being I have ever been around. That’s why I had to marry her. True to form, since the moment we met our son, she has proven she is the best mom ever! She pours every ounce of her heart and soul into her family. She will do anything to make sure our son is healthy and happy, and she will go to the same lengths for your child.

It didn’t take long for me to find out that Amanda is incredibly creative, whether through the ways she shows that she loves me or her incredible Halloween decorations or the intricately delicious meals she loves to prepare! She has gone well beyond what I ever thought possible with our son, like creating games, making sensory play opportunities and encouraging his artistic side. Your child will get to do everything from art and music to science, sports, and so much more with Amanda guiding them.

Amanda lends a helping hand to everyone she sees and creates community everywhere she goes. People who meet her get inspired by her great intelligence and her drive. Likewise, she sees the best in everybody she meets. Her care for others shows no bounds. I cannot think of a better characteristic for a mother, a role-model, a mentor. That’s what Amanda will be for your child. But most of all, she will expend every ounce of love and energy that exists to make sure that your child is supported, healthy and free to enjoy life and experience the countless beautiful things this world offers. I have already seen her do that for our son and for me.

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About Jeff

From the moment I saw Jeff walking across the parking lot to meet for our first date, I was in love. His genuine smile captured my heart immediately and his compassion for others made me fall even more. Jeff loves fully and deeply, and his heart shows no bounds. Family means everything to him. Not just immediate family, but extended family, friends, and our dog family.

I always knew Jeff would make an exceptional father and the moment he held our son it was apparent that Kelby was his world. Being a father has brought out the sweetest side of Jeff I have ever seen. Watching him playing, digging in the dirt, kicking a soccer ball, teaching or gently guiding Kelby makes my heart melt.

Jeff has always been a remarkable mentor. He encourages people to push harder for their dreams, to not be afraid to try new things and to always challenge the world they see. I have no doubt that your daughter or son will have a father who inspires them to see the good in all people, to help others, to care for all on our planet, to dream big and most of all, to believe in themselves.

Besides being a wonderful dad and husband, Jeff has been and always will be a huge sports fan. He is the person who has a jersey for every team he likes and will cheer them on, no matter how bad they are. He has already shared this love with our son. Jeff is certainly going to be the father cheering on his child at every game, recital, play or event they take part in. I have no doubt that our newest addition will forever be spoiled by his encouraging smile, endless knowledge and his enormous loving heart.

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Why We are Choosing to Adopt

Love is why we are choosing to adopt again. The second we met Kelby our hearts were bursting with the most unexplainable and overwhelming love we have ever felt. Staring into his eyes, feeling his fingers and toes and watching his face slowly explore the world changed us forever.

Over the past two years the love we have for our son has grown even deeper and wider than words could ever explain. Kelby has been a true blessing to us and our family. He has inspired us to be the best couple and individuals we possibly can so that we can help guide him on his journey of independence and discovery. He has shown us that love never runs out and instead can flow endlessly.

We deeply desire to provide for and share our love with another child. We have always known in our hearts that we were destined for adoption to be the way we grow our family. Since we both come from larger families, we cherish our sibling bonds. More than anything, we want Kelby and his brother or sister to experience the closeness and unconditional love that siblings bring. We want them to benefit from getting to experience the world as a team, to celebrate the wonderful times together, to find comfort when times are difficult, and to go through life’s uncertainties and wonders side by side.

We wish to adopt again because our hearts yearn to love another child with the same passion and reverence that we love Kelby and because we believe that adoption is the greatest gift imaginable.

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Our Home

Our home is a two story, four-bedroom house, with an additional playroom upstairs and an open layout downstairs. We recently had our yard fenced in to provide a safe space for our son and dogs to roam and play. We look forward to creating our new organic garden and natural play area for our son and future child to explore.

Our home is located in a culturally diverse neighborhood full of children of all ages. When choosing our new home last year, we specifically looked for a neighborhood that would allow our children to meet many different people and provide a safe environment for them to play and freely ride their bikes or run to their friends’ houses.

Our home is located in a beautiful community near a large lake that is perfect for kayaking, fishing, hiking and family picnics. Our community has over 20 miles of sidewalks for family strolls, a large playground, a water park with two pools – one designed specifically for younger kids, an amphitheater with a fire pit, a clubhouse and tennis, basketball, and volleyball courts. We are a ten-minute drive to three major shopping centers and markets, and we are a short drive to two different cities that offer children museums, science centers, theaters, animal conservatories and various farms.

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Our Families

Beyond our partnership as a couple, we are lucky to have amazing family and friends who are always ready to support us and celebrate life with us. We both come from larger families who have spread out across the country over the years, giving us tons of vacation options. Although they live a distance from us, we are very close with them all, especially our brother and sisters. They lovingly share lessons learned about raising a family and building a nurturing atmosphere for siblings to grow together, like our son and your child. Our son is blessed to have dedicated grandparents, many great aunts and great uncles, 17 aunts and uncles, 21 cousins and many more family members who love him and are excited to welcome your beautiful child into our big family.

Children are raised by dedicated parents AND a loving community. We are extraordinarily lucky to have amazing friends who have supported us throughout our lives and will be there for our entire growing family at the drop of a hat. While they are not considered “family” biologically, they truly are part of ours and will be loving aunts and uncles to your child.  Before the pandemic we spent a lot of time with our friends. We often had them over to our house for delicious meals, game nights, watching movies outside in our yard, or we would meet them out for playdates with their children.

We are so blessed to have such loving, caring and devoted people in our lives. Even during the pandemic, our family and friends still take special care so they can continue to be with us online and in person when possible. From virtual parties to outdoor social events, we have continued to create memories with our family and friends.

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Our Sweet Puppies

Our children are a very big part of our family and we love to include them in all we do. Prior to Kelby joining us, we always referred to our dogs as our children and said that when we were lucky enough to have a baby enter our lives we would then have a puppy. So we have affectionately nicknamed Kelby, “Puppy.” With that said, we love our dogs.

Our oldest is Precious, a 15-year-old, 4.5 pound Yorkie that joined our family when Amanda’s mom passed. She is still very spunky for her age and appreciates Kelby’s daily food droppings. Franklin is next in line. We rescued him when he was a puppy and he is now 4 years old. He’s the cutest Shih Tzu mix who has a seriously human personality, especially when he relaxes on the couch. Our youngest is Simon, a 3-year old mix of all the cuteness in the world, whom we also rescued when he was a puppy. Simon is Kelby’s protector and friend. There is not a moment when Simon is not watching him or cleaning him with a million kisses.

As a family we love to go for one really long walk around the neighborhood each weekend. We also take shorter, and sometimes longer, strolls with Kelby helping to walk the dogs. Kelby loves all of the dogs and enjoys helping to feed them, pet them and steal their toys. It’s not unusual to find Kelby running away from the dogs with one of their toys and the two boys chasing behind him. We are blessed that he gets to grow up with that kind of love and appreciation from his doggie family.

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What We will Teach Your Child

Love. We will always teach our children to love themselves and to love all others, animals and the planet.

Patience – for themselves and for others. As we each develop in unique ways, it is important to teach our children that patience is essential in establishing relationships.

Communication – we both strongly believe that open and honest communication is imperative and also extremely difficult. We are always actively working on our communication skills. When we model effective communication, we teach our son those same skills.

Failure is more than okay – allowing and learning from failure is a good thing. We believe in the motto, “fail early, fail often, fail forward.” By teaching this to our children, we enable them to try more things and to not give up. By teaching them that perfection is an unrealistic goal, and instead that great things can be achieved if you have an open mind, they will go farther in life with more confidence and character.

Respect – if we cannot respect ourselves and others, then we cannot work to create an environment where all feel safe and welcome. We will teach our children to respect all people, wildlife, things and the environment.

Laughter – you might not be able to teach laughter, but we will certainly teach our children the joy of laughing and being silly, but never at another’s expense.

Dancing – when have you danced and not felt great after? We will teach our children that there is always time for an impromptu dance party.

Education – we will teach our children that education is the key to a fulfilling and successful life. You don’t have to know everything, but being open to learning about everything is very important. The more we learn, the better informed decisions we can make to live a happier and healthier life.

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On a Typical 3-Day Weekend

Life certainly changed this past year and shifted our focus from traveling over long weekends to creating new ways of exploring and playing at home and locally. Since moving in the middle of last year, we have worked hard to create a home in which Kelby can play and thrive. Our playroom has afforded us the opportunity to transform a space into unique experiences for Kelby based on his current interests, while keeping him safe. Often we set up Kelby’s tent, tunnels and climbing gyms or build elaborate cities with his toys.

On beautiful days Kelby enjoys playing outside in his sandbox with his trucks, digging in the dirt with his gardening tools, cruising down his slide, playing keep away with the dogs’ toys, riding his balance bike or driving one of his electric vehicles. We like to go on long walks throughout our neighborhood or visit the nearby lake, pool, animal conservatory to see big cats, or local farms to mingle around goats, horses, chickens, pigs, donkeys, cows and much more.

One of our favorite local treats is visiting our science center and watching the penguins, sharks and other animals play. There is so much to do near us, including children’s museums, libraries, play gyms and water parks. Best of all, when we feel it is safe for our family to travel, we are only a short drive to beautiful beaches and mountains.

Before the pandemic we took mini-vacations. Jeff loves to carefully and methodically pack up the car for maximum comfort and capacity. Amanda prepares fun activities for the car and for wherever we stay. We are kids at heart. Often we’ll go to the beach for three days and visit a national wildlife refuge. We are ecstatic to raise our children with an appreciation for nature and all its wonders.

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Family Vacations

We live for vacations! To us, vacations are about family and exploration. It’s always about coming together, having fun and experiencing our world. We are lucky to be just a couple hours from the beach and a couple hours from the mountains.

We get to see so much of the country visiting our brothers and sisters who live in seven different states from the east coast to the west coast and from border-to-border. We love to visit family and friends. We enjoy going on road trips in an RV as a family with our three little dogs, making a weekend vacation out of enjoying a sports event, heading to the beach or mountains, and so much more. We have traveled the world and yearn to travel around the world with our children. We had planned a trip for the three of us to go to Europe and were planning a trip to Japan before the pandemic hit.

Vacations for us are about meeting so many different people and communities in the U.S. and around the world. We feel it is incredibly important to learn about and experience other cultures, environments, food, sports, ways of living, wildlife and perspectives. We have so much fun on every trip!

We believe that traveling and experiencing different cultures is very important in a child’s life. We want to raise our children to be open, caring, inclusive and loving human beings. We have so much to learn from others and we incorporate that value into our exciting vacations. We enjoy experiencing different natural environments and witnessing wildlife on land, in the water and in the sky. All these experiences make our lives richer, help us feel connected to all people and to our planet, strengthen our family and help us grow.

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Our Traditions

We firmly believe that the traditions we grew up with helped shape our lives as individuals and provided us with cherished memories to share. Which is why we love carrying on those traditions and making new ones.

One of Amanda’s favorite family traditions is simply coming together for a loved one’s birthday and singing “Happy Birthday” a million times and blowing out the candles. Growing up Jeff often spent the days leading to the New Year at a ski lodge with family and friends in Michigan. He has fond memories of skiing, snowboarding and taking breaks to drink hot apple cider or hot chocolate. We were looking forward to starting that with our son this year, but instead look forward to planning the trip next year due to the pandemic.

We also love to celebrate the major holidays. Halloween is Amanda’s favorite and we go all out with decorations inside and outside of the house. Having Kelby has made it even better as we get to experience the joy of trick or treating all over again. Then there is Christmas, which we both love to celebrate. Although we couldn’t be with all of our family this year, we were blessed to have some of them with us to celebrate in our new home. We baked dozens of cookies, played games every day and had the best time cooking fabulous dinners. On Christmas Eve, our family always has a visit from Santa’s elves who bring us matching pajamas and we make sure to put out Santa’s milk and cookies. While we love to celebrate all the holidays with favorite foods and decorations, to us a true tradition happens when you get to come together as a family.

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Cultural Diversity

After the year that has just transpired, it is as important as ever to teach our children and to re-educate ourselves about cultural diversity and celebrate all people for their differences. We have always thought of ourselves as individuals who value and respect peoples’ cultures, ethnicities, identities, religions, and all the other beautiful ways that people define themselves. We prioritize this in our family life, our communities and in our work. What we have learned is that we always need to do more, learn more, show more and be more.

Cultural diversity does not end once you learn about it. Life is fluid, things change, people change and we all must learn to be more respectful of others’ lives and choices. We must fight for those who are treated unfairly and teach our children to fight against discrimination and racism and to fight for the rights of all humans, not just those that resemble or relate to them.

Everyone deserves the tools and means to better their lives. Everyone deserves to feel appreciated, loved and valued. We plan to raise our children, your child, to always support, help, and advocate for others, seeing the differences in people and cherishing them. We will help our children discover their ability to listen to, hear and learn from different perspectives, and to find common ground when needed. We want our children to have respect for all people, no matter their race, identity, religion, personal beliefs or any other self-identifying characteristics. Love is love, no matter what.

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Our Hobbies

In addition to loving Kelby and our three dogs, we each have hobbies we enjoy doing alone and others we have formed together. One of Amanda’s biggest hobbies is cooking and reading cookbooks. She finds it incredibly relaxing. She just loves finding something unique and fun to create for others to enjoy. She also loves practicing yoga and even completed her teacher training in 2017, just so she could learn more. Although this past year she hasn’t practiced as much with studios being closed, Amanda is looking forward to getting back on her yoga mat more and teaching again. She also enjoys reading mystery, fantasy, crime and memoirs and will devour a good book on a weekend.

Jeff loves sports – attending games, learning about cultural connections to sport, watching sports and playing with Kelby and the dogs. When he can find time, he likes to run to build energy. He enjoys filmmaking, working in the yard, grilling, dreaming up and planning trips, learning about other cultures and places, and watching documentaries. Jeff enjoys working with children of all ages to empower them, to help them unleash their creativity and to help them find the opportunities everyone deserves.

As a couple, we have enjoyed growing our own organic vegetable gardens and connecting what we grow to our cooking and grilling. We love everything it provides us, from the time we spend together building, maintaining and picking our food, to working as a team to plan what we will grow throughout the year. We also love playing board games together, watching movies, and exploring new places. We look forward to teaching our children about our hobbies and developing new family hobbies.

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What Kind of Parents We Are

Before we were married we discussed what we thought were the key elements needed for raising healthy and respectful children. Fast forward years later and many of our thoughts still hold true. The most important aspect, we believed then and still do, is that we parent with each other and for each other. We don’t have designated responsibilities. We share equally in everything, in celebrating all the amazing moments and in tackling all the inherent challenges. When one of us has another commitment or is ill, the other quickly and happily steps in to care for the family.

Another important characteristic of our parenting style is that we like to provide our son with a “yes” house and not a “don’t touch” house, while keeping him safe. That way, our son is free to learn and play independently, while knowing that Mommy and Daddy will be there to help if he needs it.

At two years old, Kelby craves helping around the home. He loves to assist us in preparing meals, washing and putting away dishes, setting the table for dinner, unfolding laundry, vacuuming, sweeping dirt all around the house and cleaning up his spills. To us, Kelby is so much more than a toddler, he is an integral part of our family life and values. We want him to succeed both in the home and outside of it.

We also spend a ton of time outdoors. We allow our son the time and space to experience his surroundings and learn from nature. We adore Kelby with all our hearts, so we lovingly create environments for him to safely explore and learn. We are very excited to welcome another child into our home and look forward to creating new environments for two adventurous children to play in together.

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Our Lifestyle

Each day we wake up and get started together. Our son clinks our coffee mugs with his milk cup and we say “salud,” which is Spanish for “health.” We like to begin each day with a positive outlook – even if we are exhausted. We lead a healthy, active and community-driven lifestyle focusing on family fun. We love to be outside, whether that means family walks throughout the neighborhood with our dogs, hiking on trails, visiting a local farm, playing in the yard, going to a baseball or football game, or gardening. We find our happiness in experiencing life as a family. We do almost everything together, whether that’s going to museums, zoos and sporting events or celebrating our holidays with passion, especially Amanda’s favorite – Halloween!

We love cooking, supporting local farmers, going to local restaurants and growing our own food. We cook together as a family and always sit at the dinner table to enjoy our meal. Amanda leads us in the kitchen. She is truly an amazing chef who knows how to create tasty and healthy meals from scratch. Jeff tries to understand where our ingredients come from, the people they represent and stories they tell. We try to choose food that represents a positive impact on people, wildlife and the environment.

We enjoy sports for entertainment, but also because of the connection it creates to people locally and globally. We also like to support our community through volunteering to help provide opportunities for underserved children, supporting our local artists and helping to alleviate food insecurity for all people. Our passions for helping others and our sense of purpose in how we do that play a role in most aspects of our lifestyle.

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Our Relationship with Kelby's Birth Mother

Currently we have a semi-open relationship with Kelby’s birth mother. When we were blessed with Kelby, it was a quick, whirl-wind experience. We went from a happy couple to a joyous family of three within a few hours of the phone call. We were told that Kelby’s birth mother had a beautiful baby boy the day prior and she decided that adoption was the right choice for her and her son. When we met her at the hospital she told us that she instantly knew, when she saw our profile, we would be the best parents to raise her perfect baby and that upon meeting us she was at peace with her decision.

Since our initial adoption experience was much shorter than anticipated, we did not go into our adoption with a clear plan of how his birth mother and father would remain in his life. We instead left it open for his birth parents to decide. Currently, we text his birth mother with updates about milestones and sweet moments we’ve had together and send plenty of photos. There are times we receive messages back and other times when we do not. We understand that there may be moments when it is easier for his birth mother to respond and times when it might be difficult. We will always honor her decision and, if she does not tell us to stop, we will continue to share the sweet moments of Kelby’s life with her.

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Our Promise to You

We promise to love your child unconditionally. We promise to provide them with an enriching environment full of wonder and adventure, where they feel safe to explore and learn. We promise to hold your daughter or son in our hearts and minds every second of every day, in our arms as much as she or he allows us to, and we promise that our love will be boundless and unconditional.

We promise that we will provide your daughter or son with the best possible life that we can give them. We promise that the way we became a family will be a cherished and treasured blessing that we will share with your child. We promise that our son Kelby will love your daughter or son and be the best big brother he can be.

We promise, if you are open to it, to keep communication open so that you have the opportunity to see your child grow and develop. We promise to always respect your decisions about how you wish to be a part of your child’s life. Above all, we promise to give your daughter or son all the love, hugs, kisses, encouragement, patience, respect, laughs, dancing and fun family adventures as humanly possible.

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