Nickname: Robbie and Rachel

Married Since: 2011

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: Yes

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: No

We recognize that this is your child and your decision. No one can make this decision except you, and no one can make this decision for you. Please know that if you choose adoption and choose us to be your child’s adoptive parents, we do not want the moment that you relinquish your rights to be the end of your relationship with your child. We want them to know you and understand your story, if you are comfortable with that. We’d love to talk with you about your hopes for that relationship and what life could look like after the papers are signed.

Robert and Rachel

from Virginia

Robert

Ancestry: English, Irish, German, Prussian

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Physician

Education: D.O.

Hobbies: Mountain biking, Photography

Rachel

Ancestry: Scottish, English, Irish, Danish, German, Italian, Portuguese, Cape Verdian, Nigerian

Religion: Christian

Occupation: Registered Nurse

Education: EdD

Hobbies: Music, Mountain biking, Arts & crafts

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: African American / Asian, African American / Caucasian, African American / Hispanic, Asian, Caucasian / Asian, Asian / Hispanic, Biracial (African American + any other), Caucasian, Caucasian / Hispanic, Caucasian / Indian, Caucasian / Middle Eastern, Caucasian / Pacific Islander, Hispanic, Hispanic / Middle Eastern, Hispanic / Pacific Islander, Indian, Middle Eastern, Pacific Islander

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Christian

Favorites

Robert

Animal
Dogs. They're loyal and always seem to know when you've had a hard day and want snuggles
Color
Navy or deep sea blue
Family Activity
Going to the park or board games with good food and laughs
Food
Mediterranean or Pho. I could eat them every day!
Hobby
Mountain biking and photography. I love to stay active
Holiday
Christmas Eve and Christmas Day. The candle lighting services at church and lots of family
Leisure Activity
Video games when I have time - very relaxing!
Sport
Lacrosse - it involves a little bit of everything from other sports
Subject in School
Science - understanding the world around us
Thing to Cook
Salmon on the grill - it doesn't get better. Or chicken... I just love to grill!

Rachel

Animal
Dogs or dolphins. Dogs know when to help pick me up when I'm down. Dolphins are just so smart and so free in the water. I want to swim with them one day.
Color
The rainbow? I love the pink and orange of a sunset. I love the rich browns and greens of the forest. The red of cherries and cornflower blue. I love color
Family Activity
Family board games. No TV just having fun together.
Food
Right now I love gyros the most. The first time I had one was on an educational tour of Greece. Now I enjoy finding restaurants that sell them.
Hobby
Music. My family was musical and we all learned to play. I can play guitar, drums and a little piano. I also love to sing.
Holiday
Christmas Eve. Singing Silent Night at the Christmas Eve service with candlelight. That day holds all the magic of Christmas with none of the materialism
Leisure Activity
Reading. I love relaxing with a good book. I love fiction and often read more than one at a time.
Sport
Growing up it was basketball - I loved it! Now I love mountain biking with Robbie
Subject in School
Math and Literature. I was good at Math and loved knowing there was a right answer. I also loved reading and learning how to think like the author
Thing to Cook
Mexican food and brownies. I loved taco night growing up and enjoy using Mexican spices in my cooking. One of my favorites is a gluten-free brownie recipe that is incredible!
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From Us to You

Hello. We don’t know the feelings you are processing right now. This is a significant crossroad, and we know you probably feel the weight of making decisions that will change your life. You are working to educate yourself about all the options while thinking about this new life, who probably was not a part of your plan A or even plan B. We just wanted to say thank you for exploring adoption during an overwhelming time in your life, and we deeply thank you for considering us to be the adoptive parents for your child.

We were drawn to adoption even when we were dating. Years later, we found out that we had fertility issues, which meant that adoption might be our only means of starting a family. We researched adoption entities looking for one that seemed to understand the support needed by the entire family unit – the biological parents, the adoptive parents and the child. We’re beyond grateful and excited for the opportunity to move forward on this journey!

If you choose us as adoptive parents, we will give your child every opportunity to have a bright future and to live an extraordinary life. We believe that everyone has their own unique gifts, and it is the role of parents to discover them, nurture them, and guide the child so they may decide how to use those gifts. Our goal is to be loving, steadfast parents who will help your child to flourish. More than anything, we will encourage your child to use their gifts to enrich the lives of other people. In our home, your child will find safety, love, and support. We promise to be there for them on the good days and the hard ones, to care for them through any sickness, to create an accepting and loving environment, and to help them achieve their personal goals.

We recognize that this is your child and your decision. No one can make this decision except you, and no one can make this decision for you. Please know that if you choose adoption and choose us to be your child’s adoptive parents, we do not want the moment that you relinquish your rights to be the end of your relationship with your child. We want them to know you and understand your story, but only if you are comfortable with that. We’d love to talk with you about your hopes for that relationship and what life could look like after the papers are signed.

More than anything, we hope that, whatever you choose to do, God will bless you more abundantly than you could even imagine. We want you to know that you are loved right now, at this moment. God sees you, and He hears you. We are praying for peace for you so that you can make the best decision for you and for your child, whatever that decision will be. If we are not part of that picture, we just want to thank you for taking the time to read this letter. If you would like more information about us, we are happy to talk to you. We are “open book” people, and we’d be delighted to do that.

Sending you so much love,
Robert & Rachel

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Why We're Choosing to Adopt

Adoption has been on our minds since we were dating. It wasn’t until Rachel received her endometriosis diagnosis after losing her first pregnancy that we realized adoption may be the only way for us to build a family. We didn’t want to go the in vitro fertilization (IVF) route because we did not see the point of what seems like trying desperately to reproduce our own DNA. We believe that God causes things to happen for a reason. So, if we couldn’t have any children biologically, we took it to be a sign that God has a different plan for us and that somewhere a mom is looking for a loving couple to adopt her child.

We also believe that God uses adoption as a picture of His love for us (Ephesians 1:3-6). Just as marriage is a picture of God’s relationship and His great love for his people, adoption is a picture of how God brings people, all kinds of people, into his family and calls them His children. To us, it doesn’t matter if a child has our DNA. All that matters is that we love that child. We talked and prayed about this decision a lot, and we kept feeling that God was calling us to this path. In essence, we are choosing to adopt because God chose us to be adoptive parents, and we are following that call whole-heartedly!

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About Rachel

Rachel and I have been together now for over 13 years, and she is one of the most compassionate and caring people I know. When we met, one of the first things I noticed about her was her work ethic. No matter the day, she was always willing to put in the hours for her classwork. I have many memories of us working in the computer lab at college studying till the lab closed. If it weren’t for her, I would not be where I am today. She has worked diligently over the years, completing her bachelors and masters in nursing and, most recently, her doctorate in nursing education. Through those years, she worked as a nursing clinical adjunct faculty and had the opportunity to teach multiple groups of nursing students. She was effective in helping to mold them into excellent nurses. During my residency, I was able to work with some of her former students, and they only had good things to say about her. I frequently heard that she was compassionate with her patients and students and a clear, enthusiastic teacher. One thing I love about Rachel is that her idea of an incredible date is riding bikes together and grabbing dessert. The simplest moments can become quality time spent together. I picture Rachel doing these same things with our future kids. Whether teaching them to ride a bike or singing with them, it will be her priority to spend quality time with them and let them know that they are loved. All these qualities will make her a wonderful mother.

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About Robbie

The first attributes that attracted me to Robbie were his intelligence and humility. He is a gifted teacher, and able to break things down for others. While we were dating, I was also struck by how patient he was. I can be emotional at times, but that never seems to faze him. He’s always there for me when I need a hug and a shoulder to cry on. He also knows how to make me laugh. If I’m having a rough day, he’ll do a Donald Duck or Abu (from Aladdin) impression. My favorite memories include cuddling on the couch and watching Disney movies (we are such kids at heart), going biking, hiking, and singing Pentatonix on road trips. When we were starting out in our jobs, he worked as a Certified Nurses’ Assistant, and then a Nurse after finishing nursing school. Then, he went on to medical school to become a physician. He is not afraid of hard work, and he is committed to achieving his goals. He is such an incredible man with a big heart. During his residency, his reviews from superiors always stated that patients love him because he’s real, and he knows how to relate to them. I truly respect him so much! He has worked so hard to become the man he is today. He has a heart for people and service – values we hope to instill in our children. He’s a friend you can fully trust to have your back. Robbie is smart, brave, loyal, kind, and has a servant’s heart. I couldn’t ask for a better partner!

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Our Home

We purchased our home in June of 2021. Before we moved to this area, we already knew the neighborhood we wanted to live in and waited for the right house to appear on the market. And we found it! It was built in 1962, and it was built to last! We have about half an acre, and the backyard is fenced-in, with plenty of room to play. We love our community! The neighborhood is one of the safest in town and is a great place to ride bikes and take walks. The mountain bike trails are connected to the neighborhood so we can start our rides from the house. We like to walk to a dessert food truck right down the road on the weekends. We’ve always felt safe here, but we went ahead and got a home security system to ensure an even greater level of safety for our family.

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Our Families

Our family and friends are a huge part of our lives. Rachel is closest to her mom’s side of the family and has many cousins and extended family. She has one sister and two brothers and loves any chance she gets to spend with them! Her family is incredibly tight-knit. They have been through a lot together, including illness and loss, and they are always supportive of each other. Robbie has a much smaller family consisting of his grandma, dad, mom, and sister. His family is also filled with love and support. Both of our families cover us with prayer daily. We talk to our parents at least once a week, and we try to visit our families several times a year.

We would do anything for our friends, and vice versa. Our local support system primarily consists of friends we met through our church. Our church family came out in full force to help us with our recent move and even provided us with food. With them, we have constant support and can receive mentoring for our lives. We met our other friends, Jamie and Andrew, through medical school and residency. We call ourselves the Sunday Funday crew, and we love to relax by eating a meal together and playing a co-op board game. Andrew and Jamie are looking forward to being Uncle Andrew and Auntie Jamie!

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Our Sweet Pets

For most of our marriage, our pets have been our fur-babies, and we’ll gladly talk about them to anyone. We adopted them from different shelters in Virginia, and they are all very sweet! Every single one absolutely loves to cuddle, either with us or with each other.

The oldest is Jack Frost, “little man,” a white Cairn terrier mix. He weighs about 10 pounds, and he is our little couch cuddler. He is super sweet around kids. His only fear in life is being stepped on.

The second is Echo, who is a short-haired black and white cat. He has a usual cat-like disposition in that he likes to explore, hide, and do his own thing, except at night. Echo wants to sit in our laps and get a good back scratch if we are watching a show on the couch together during the evening.

The third is Josie, who is also a short-haired black and white cat. She and Echo look like siblings. Josie loves to sleep in the sunlight and to cuddle up on the couch with anyone. We adopted her when she was sick, and nursed her back to health. She has always been so appreciative of having a home with us ever since then.

Reecie is our big momma, and she is probably a 50/50 labradoodle mix. She has such a sweet and loving personality and wants to say “Hi” to everyone. However, she can be protective when needed. One time, we were walking the dogs outside, and a man came up to us who appeared to be in a manic psychiatric state. Reecie was not ok with that and proceeded to bark till he left. When Robbie is at work, it’s nice to have a protector and cuddle-buddy in the house.

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Family Traditions

The following are our favorite traditions: The first is family reunions on beach vacations. Rachel’s family makes plans to go to the outer banks at least every other year. Our favorite things to do there include reading by the water, building sandcastles (even now), going on bike rides, playing family games, grabbing fudge and ice cream, eating southern food, playing Putt-Putt golf, and visiting family members who live in the area.

Another tradition is cooking a fun family meal on Saturday mornings. This meal usually includes waffles, eggs, bacon, and fruit. It’s like a mini celebration of the weekend and our time spent together.

The third is Thanksgiving. We usually alternate Thanksgiving and Christmas between our families, spending one with Rachel’s family and the other with Robbie’s. During COVID, we had “Friendsgiving” with Jamie and Andrew. Rachel loves to be involved in cooking the Thanksgiving sides, and Robbie is an excellent turkey chef!

The fourth is the Christmas Eve church service. We love to worship and sing “Silent Night” with our church family under candlelight. It’s a sacred time of unity. This service embodies the true meaning of Christmas for us.

The fifth is Christmas Day. For Rachel’s family, everyone takes a turn picking up a present under the tree (one that isn’t for the selector), and everyone watches as the receiver opens the gift. It makes that time so much more meaningful and less hurried. We also have a huge Italian, four-course meal complete with lasagna and dessert. This day is filled with family time, singing, and togetherness.

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Our Faith

For us, our faith is everything. We believe that we were put on this earth to glorify God by making a difference in other people’s lives and showing them the love of God. When we make big decisions, we pray and ask God to guide the use of our time and resources. At the end of the day, God is the reason we get up and work hard, He is the reason we keep pushing through hard times, and He is the reason we are where we are now. We believe that all of our accomplishments were made possible by the grace of God. That is why we want to glorify Him in our work and in our relationships.

We will raise our family so our children know the Bible and hear the gospel message regularly. We will take our kids to church weekly and have home Bible study. However, we do not believe that we can force our faith on our children. That is their decision to make. All we can do is teach them why we believe what we believe and live it out in front of them. We will hope and pray every day for God to move in their lives so that they may understand the amazing love He has for them.

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Our Careers

Rachel: During my high school biology class, I dissected a pig. While the other girls were nauseated, I was simply amazed at the complexity of this tiny animal. My biology teacher told me that I might want to consider a career as a nurse. The time spent caring for my grandmother as her dementia progressed sealed that decision for me. So, I studied like crazy to achieve the title of Registered Nurse. After working on the hospital floor for a while, I felt that God was pressing a different call on my heart – to be a nurse educator. I loved teaching nursing students on the floor and ensuring that they learned how to properly provide care while maintaining compassion. That led me to get my masters degree and then my doctorate in nursing education. My career fulfillment comes from teaching nursing students and instilling in them a passion for patient care.

Robert: I started my college studies to follow in my father’s footsteps and become a dentist. So, I took pre-med classes, but I found that I preferred the nursing courses. They were hands-on and practical, and I felt like I needed that type of training. As a result, I pursued nursing whole-heartedly. Right in the middle of the most challenging year of my training, I felt that God was calling me to become a physician. I told this to Rachel, and she supported me 100%, but she said I should finish my nursing degree first. So I did, and then I proceeded to work on the nursing floor while finishing my prerequisites for medical school. By the grace of God, I completed medical school and residency. I love my job as a physician, and I’m so thankful I have a job that can provide for my family.

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How We Met

We met during Robbie’s sophomore year and Rachel’s freshman year of college. At that time, Rachel had no interest in dating; she was focused on her studies and goal of becoming a nurse, and nothing would distract her! One day, at the end of a class, Rachel heard the professor introducing a student to one of the course tutors (Robbie) and telling her when tutoring hours were offered. Rachel decided she had to go to tutoring to ensure she got an A in the course so that she would be accepted into the nursing program. It was her drive for learning that caused our paths to converge. After a few tutoring sessions, Robbie asked Rachel out on a date. Rachel wasn’t going to say yes, but he had found her weakness – ice cream.

Our first date was to Cold Stone on Halloween. Our interest in each other grew from there, but Rachel was hesitant about entering a serious relationship during her first year of college. She told Robbie if he wanted to date her, he would have to get permission from her parents first. That didn’t sway Robbie. He got their permission, and we started dating. Then, we both got into the nursing program together. Most of our time together consisted of studying all day, but we got to help and support each other through that rough time. That trial by fire brought us closer together, and we knew that we had a forever partner in each other. We got married after two years of dating and just celebrated our 10th wedding anniversary this past July. We have been through a lot together – nursing school, medical school, graduate school, residency, illness, and loss – but our relationship has stayed strong.

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Our Lifestyle

We would describe our lifestyle as “modest.” By that, we mean that we don’t have to have the latest gadgets or the nicest stuff. We’re not trying to keep up with the Joneses. We spend money on the things we value the most, such as laptops for work and mountain bikes for our hobby. For much of the rest, we like to visit thrift stores. We see repurposing gently used things as a virtue, and we want to avoid debt and be good managers of our finances.

On a typical day, Robbie is at the clinic where he works from 7:45 a.m. to about 5:15 p.m. Monday through Friday, ensuring that we get to eat dinner together and talk about our day. Rachel is currently a homemaker; she is looking for a job as an online nursing professor and wants to work from home. We try to set aside one day a week (usually Saturday) as a rest day when we disconnect from social media and spend time together. On Sunday evenings, we go to church together. Rachel serves on the worship team and either plays drums or guitar and sings, and Robbie comes early with her to help with setting up the equipment and sound system. We enjoy this time with our church family and typically have a meal together after the service.

For fun, we enjoy walking, riding our bikes downtown on the bike trail, or going out on a date. If we’re too tired to do anything else, we typically settle for time watching TV. Our favorite shows to watch together are The Office and Big Bang Theory.

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Our Personalities

Rachel: I would describe myself as kind, colorful, friendly, supportive, faithful, honest, goal-oriented, and a rule-follower. Growing up, if you weren’t early to an event, you were late, and I love being early! There’s something about having that margin of space that eases my mind. I love being creative and doing arts and crafts, like a paint night (canvas or pottery), knitting, cross-stitch, or interior design for my house. I also enjoy refinishing old pieces of furniture to give them new life. Music is one of my biggest loves, but don’t ask me which genre because it depends on my mood or what I’m doing. I’m currently a part of an online singing group, and I adore our collaborations. I also serve on my church’s worship team. Church service is very important to me, and I love using my musical gifts to help my church.

Robert: I would say I’m honest, funny, hard-working, patient, understanding, and inquisitive. I guess the fact that I became a doctor suggests that I love to learn. Most of the time, though, I love being “hands-on,” whether it be yard work or home projects. I value taking that mental break from my job by doing something more physically active. I’m definitely more of an introvert. I have a select group of friends that I love to spend time with, and I would do anything for them. While I’ll be friendly and respectful to anybody, I definitely prefer time spent with close friends. My favorite part of the week is getting some downtime going biking with Rachel. I can shut my brain off and just focus on enjoying nature, sunshine, and having fun. I love new experiences, and I hope to travel the world someday.

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Racial and Cultural Diversity

We are both Caucasian; however, we are open to adopting children from other races/ethnicities. While your child will be raised in a white home, we want them to know about their ethnic origins and be connected to their own culture. For example, if we adopt a Hispanic child, we would like to learn to speak Spanish together and visit a Latin American country to give us all a greater appreciation for their culture. If we adopt a child with a Chinese background, we would make frequent visits to our Chinese friends we met during Robbie’s residency, and celebrate Chinese New Year together every year. Regardless of their race or ethnicity, we want to teach your child about their unique heritage and how beautiful and rich it is.

We understand that raising a child of a different race or ethnicity can be challenging, and we have talked to friends who have walked that path before us. We believe that the key to raising a child from a different ethnic background is to connect the child to their culture so they can function in both worlds – that of their adoptive family and their biological family. In doing so, we will actively address your child’s needs for identity and belonging.

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Education

While we both have doctorate degrees, that is not an expectation we would place on your child. We completed those degrees because they were necessary for us to do what we wanted to do for our careers. For Robbie, that was being a physician. For Rachel, that was being a nursing professor. If your child wants to go to trade school, we will support that decision whole-heartedly! We just want them to finish high school. The rest will depend on their specific gifts and goals.

We plan to send your child to a private, faith-based school, such as a Classical Christian School. At those schools, the teachers make sure that children learn to think critically and express their ideas clearly. Rachel graduated from that type of school, and it helped prepare her for college and life. While that is our desire, it is not a necessity! We understand that parents need to consider each child’s specific needs. If your child has a learning or cognitive disability, or if the school is simply not a good fit for them, we will find another school that will better meet their needs and help them meet their level-specific learning goals. In essence, we want to meet the child where they are and help guide them so they may have a wonderful life.

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Our Relationship with our Parents

When we were growing up, we both had loving parents who knew when to be strict and when to be relaxed. They laid out the family rules for us so that we knew what was expected. They also loved to foster our creativity and imagination. We owe so much to our parents; they were instrumental in helping us to achieve our goals and pursue our passions.

We both have very positive relationships with our parents and in-laws. We know we can ask for help with anything, and they will respond as quickly as they can. They also know how to give advice without pushing it on us. We are our own family unit, and we make our own decisions, but we have the gift of access to their wisdom whenever we need it. We love them all, and they genuinely love us and the family we are trying to build. They have supported this adoption process and cannot wait to spoil some grandkids!

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When We Picture ourselves holding your Precious Baby...

On that day, we will be experiencing many emotions, since this has been such a long wait for us. Our first thought towards you will be thankfulness. We could not have this opportunity without receiving the most incredible gift from a woman who didn’t have to choose to give birth to her baby. We will both be overwhelmed with gratitude for your decision to choose life for your child and allow another family to adopt and raise them. We won’t necessarily know all the sacrifices you made to make that day possible. Still, we will be so thankful that you committed to having your baby and providing them with a family. The Bible says that children are a blessing, and your child is our greatest blessing, fulfilling a dream we could not accomplish without you.

The next thought that comes to mind is that we could never repay you for what you will have done for us. You changed your life around to prepare for the birth of your child. You may have experienced criticism and judgment. You let your body change, you provided that child with a place to grow, you endured labor to bring them into this world, and you made sure your child had a safe place to go and to call home. Our lives will forever be different because a woman, who used to be a stranger, allowed us to become parents and to raise her child. We can’t think of a more extraordinary gift.

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Our Promise to You

If you consider adopting with us, this is what we can commit to you:
• We promise to love your child unconditionally every single day.
• We promise to tell them about God’s love for them and how that love is greater than they could ever know.
• We promise to work for their good above our own.
• We promise to teach them how to balance working hard and having fun.
• We promise to have family meals and to ask them about their day.
• We promise to kiss their boo-boos and apply Neosporin as needed.
• We promise to sing Disney songs with them at the top of our lungs.
• We promise to unashamedly dress up with them for Halloween and take plenty of embarrassing photos.
• We promise to teach them how to be kind and help others.
• We promise to always hug them “hello” and “goodbye.”
• We promise to end every phone call with “I love you.”
• We promise that we will nurture them in their gifts and callings.
• We promise to have family fun days when the weather is nice or board game days when it rains.
• We promise to pray for you and your child every single day.

We also promise that you will always be a part of your child’s story. We desire for your child to know you and their family history. We want your child to understand adoption and that so many people came together to work for their good. The story of how they came into this world will be so much deeper than “when mommies and daddies love each other very much…” because it involves all of us.

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  • Hi, We are honored that you are considering us! Lisa, our adoption specialist at Adoption Network, will be reaching out to make sure your needs are being met and your questions about adoption are being answered. She will help us get in touch with each other. We can’t wait to connect with you!