Lisa

Pets: Yes

Stay at Home Parent: No

Other Adopted Children at Home: No

Other Biological Children at Home: Yes

I promise you that if you trust me to raise your child, he or she will be loved fiercely and will be encouraged to grow into the person they are on the inside. I look forward to family vacations, trips to the beach, singing, and all the amazing things life has in store for us.

Lisa

from California

 

Lisa

Ancestry: Irish, Polish, Hungarian, English

Religion: Nonpracticing

Occupation: Lawyer

Education: JD

Hobbies: Gardening, Hiking, Biking

Baby

Preferred Ethnicity of Baby: All Races / Ethnicities

Preferred Gender of Baby: Either

Religion Child To Be Raised: Nonpracticing

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From Me to You

Dear Expectant Mother,

It’s so hard to say what I want to say without falling into clichés, yet they all seem so fitting. Of course, I could never imagine what you’re going through as you contemplate this choice. I can only try to think of times in my life where I’ve been faced with life-altering decisions. Fear, uncertainty, anxiety. I’ve felt those emotions swirling as I contemplated the gravity of a decision. I can only hope that it brings you some comfort as you go through this difficult time knowing that if your decision is to choose me to raise your child, your choice will lead to joy for so many people. I hope you can close your eyes and imagine the love your child will be showered with and the happiness that so many people will feel to receive this incredible gift that you are creating.

When I think about adopting, I am filled with a profound sense of wonder. The universe has an amazing way of putting broken pieces together, creating a mosaic even more beautiful than if things had never broken in the first place. I have always been drawn to the beauty of mosaics, even when I was young and hadn’t yet experienced the first big breaks in my world. But every setback and heartbreak that I’ve experienced has allowed me to grow and learn and build the beautiful mosaic of my life. Although my life is by no means perfect, it is filled with laughter and happiness and I cannot wait to share that with another child. I look forward to family vacations and neighborhood barbecues and trips to the beach and learning to swim and reading stories and singing songs and all of the amazing and wonderful things life has for us.

I will be a single mom and I hope that does not scare you. While I do hope to find a partner in life one day, I will never again sacrifice myself for a relationship. Having been through a difficult marriage and a painful divorce, I feel more confident in myself than I ever did when I was younger. I feel totally capable of being both mother and father to a child, and I am lucky to have many supportive friends and family members so I will not be truly on my own and neither will your child. I have reached a point in my life where I have an abundance of everything except children, and I look forward to sharing my life and my heart with your baby.

So I will end with one more cliché (so trite, but so true): trust your gut. All of the mistakes I’ve made in my life were when I’ve ignored my gut instinct. The gut is the perfect blend of your heart and your head. Trust yourself to know the right path for you and your baby. And if your gut leads you to choose me to raise your child, I hope you will find peace knowing that you’ve created a precious new addition to the mosaic of my life. You have my utmost respect as you go through this process.

Thank you for considering me. I am truly humbled when I think of what an honor it would be to love and raise your child.

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About Me

I’m a single mom to my 8-year-old son Logan, who I co-parent with his dad. I’m a lawyer who is lucky to have a flexible job that allows me to be very involved in my son’s life. I love being a “Room Parent” at Logan’s school and helping in his classroom. I also love spending time with friends and traveling (when it is safe to do so). I have a true sense of optimism mixed with a healthy dose of sarcasm. I’m well known for my loud laugh, which I use as often as I possibly can. Being able to laugh even when the chips are down is what has gotten me through some tough times. I’m always looking for a little sunshine.

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Why I Am Choosing to Adopt

I have always wanted to have a big family but unfortunately, I have not yet found a steady partner in life. I’m so grateful to have this option to pursue adoption and grow my family. I don’t let the lack of a partner stop me from living the life I’ve always dreamed about. There’s something so special to me about the idea of adopting and being able to share the good fortune I’ve had in my life, and I know that a child would add so much joy to our family as well. I know Logan is going to make an amazing older brother, and I still have a lot of love to give to a child.

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Lifestyle

“Work to live, don’t live to work.” That’s pretty much my motto in life. While I’ve been lucky in my career to find a job that I enjoy and supports me well, my main focus is my life outside of work. I like to lead a very laid back lifestyle and try not to take things too seriously. There are a number of families we are friends with in our neighborhood, and we like nothing more than getting together for a trip to the beach or a BBQ at home in our backyard. I love nature and I go on lots of hikes and bike rides, particularly when I can convince Logan to come with me. We love to visit with my family, who live a 6-hour drive away. There are lots of visits back and forth during the year so that the cousins and grandparents can see each other. Logan and I are both very social people, although we can also appreciate lazy days where we stay in our pajamas and snuggle on the couch.

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Home & Neighborhood

My entire life it seems like I’ve been blessed with what I like to call “housing karma.” Every time I’ve moved, I’ve lucked out to find a wonderful living space. I currently own a home in Southern California, in my dream neighborhood because I had my eye on the school district, which is both highly rated and very diverse. Even beyond the schools, once I moved in and got to know the area better I could hardly believe my good fortune. There is an amazing bilingual public elementary school three blocks away where my son is becoming fluent in Spanish. We have wonderful neighbors, with four of my son’s classmates living on our block and many more in the general area. There is a beautiful park one block away with play areas for the kids, a splash pad in the summer, and a library. They hold a farmer’s market there every Saturday and it’s just such a beautiful, cozy, family-oriented area. I’ve become close with many of the parents of my son’s friends and we truly do have a village for the neighborhood kids, who are always going back and forth between houses on the block. When we walk to school in the morning we often pick up a few friends along the way as everyone makes their way to class. We have lemonade stands in the summer and make lots of trips to the beach, which is only a few miles away. Our neighborhood is a rare gem and I’m grateful to have found my way here.

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Cultural Diversity

I live in an amazing community in Southern California where we are surrounded by supportive neighbors from a wide variety of backgrounds. Our local public school is a bilingual Spanish/English school and attracts a very diverse student body, and we are near a large city with a wide variety of cultural activities. I know if I were to adopt a child from a different racial background than my family, it would give me so many opportunities to grown and learn. I want to be there to encourage my child in his or her cultural identity and will do whatever it takes to educate myself to be able to support my child as well as I possibly can.

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Family & Friends

While my family is not especially large, I’ve filled out any holes with amazing friends. I’m close with my immediate family and we see each other often, particularly my parents and my brother’s family. He and his wife have two boys that are 5 and 1. The cousins love spending time together and it has brought my brother and me even closer to see our children bond. My sister has one daughter who is 18 and my entire family is very close to her since she was the only grandchild for almost a decade. She just graduated high school and is blossoming into such an incredible young woman. I love seeing her growing confidence as she navigates life as a young person in such a tumultuous period in our history. Finally, my other sister has no children but enjoys spoiling her niece and nephews with presents. I also have such an amazing group of girlfriends from all phases of my life, some dating all the way back to grade school. Some are spread around the country, but my love of travel gives me opportunities to visit, and now that many of us have kids it has been really fun to watch our kids bond in much the same way we did when we were young. Because my friendships are so important to me, I put a lot of effort into maintaining them and it is definitely worth it. My family and friends are always there for me when I need them.

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My Relationship with My Parents

I love my parents so much and have always been so grateful for them. Even in my elementary and high school days, when we lived in a fairly ritzy neighborhood and my parents didn’t have any money and drove funky cars that I was embarrassed to be seen in, I knew how lucky I was to have them as my parents. They have always been so supportive of me and allowed me to grow and learn, and they picked me back up when I fell. I learned a lot about how to parent from them. We are close to this day and see each other often despite not living in the same city. I have always relied on my parents for their wisdom and guidance, and even if I don’t always heed their advice, just knowing that I have them in my corner supporting me and ready to help me if I need it gives me so much strength.

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Family Traditions

Our family traditions really just revolve around spending quality time together. We have an annual camping trip which started when I was very young and now includes Logan and his cousins. Growing up, many of our vacations were to visit grandparents because it was important to spend time together. We celebrate a hodgepodge of holidays, my mother’s family is Jewish and my father’s was Catholic, so they came together and took a little bit from the traditions of each. We celebrate both Christmas and Hanukkah, Easter and Passover. We put a Jewish Star of David on our Christmas tree. But it’s more about family time than religion in our household. We like to be goofy and wear matching pajamas and do puzzles and play charades and board games. My sister and I were so good when paired at Pictionary that we are no longer allowed to be on the same team. We also have silly songs that we sing that no one outside our family knows. I’m excited to teach all the words to your baby so they can join in on our fun.

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Vacations

I live for vacations! I will take any vacation, even a stay-cation will do. I am happy going camping or staying in a fancy hotel at a resort or pretty much anything in between. Throughout my life, I have been lucky to have been able to travel to many places in Europe, Asia, and Central and South America along with many places in the United States. I love to go on adventures and explore, and it has been really fun to do that with Logan now that he is older. Our next family vacation was supposed to be a multi-day river rafting trip, which will be put back on the schedule as soon as it is safe to travel again. There’s almost no adventure that I wouldn’t be willing to try at least once. High up on my list are visiting Australia and the Great Barrier Reef, going on a safari in Africa, and hiking Machu Picchu in Peru. My dream vacations tend to be on the more active side, but I’m also happy lounging around a pool. I love to try new food (although I’ll probably shy away from the super exotic items) and visit new cities. And now all I’m thinking about is going on vacation…

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My Relationship with You

I realize that my relationship with my child’s birth mother will not be a one-way street, so it’s not entirely up to me, but if I had my choice, I would love to build a respectful and communicative relationship with her so that neither birth mother nor child is left with too many questions about the other. I want my child to know where he or she came from. I want my child’s birth mother to feel confident in the life I’m providing for her baby. Regular updates to the birth mother will be a large part of that, and hopefully an in-person meeting when the time is right for everyone.

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What I Will Share with My Child About Their Birth Mom

I plan to be very open with your child about adoption from the very beginning. Your child will know about his or her birth mother from before he or she can even remember; it will be something we talk about often and openly, and with much gratitude. I will make sure your child knows how brave and strong his birth mother is and how much she loves him. We will always be in awe of your sacrifice and generosity.

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My Promise to You

I promise you that if you trust me to raise your child, he or she will be loved fiercely and will be encouraged to grow into the person he or she is on the inside. My only goal in raising my family is that my children are happy. It has been such a joy to watch my son grow and to nurture his interests and encourage him and support him as he learns what he wants in life (which right now is most definitely not a haircut!). I cannot wait to experience this again with another child.

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