I am a birth mom. Some things about my identity are obvious and unremarkable. I am a female, a daughter, a friend, an employee, and I am Caucasian. If one were to scratch the surface, one would learn that I am also an only child, an only grandchild on my mother’s side, and also that…
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Being unable to get pregnant can be a heartbreaking reality for many women. An adoptive parent explains how she manages the disappointment and pain of infertility. I’ve never been pregnant. Those are words that I never dreamed I would ever say. Those are words I say now even though I have two awesome kids. Those 4…
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Looking for positive open adoption stories? Do you have an adopted child with biological siblings? What are your adoptive parent responsibilities when it comes to open adoption visitation? Birth mother Susie Book shares her open adoption experiences and says it means a lot when her son’s adoptive family make open adoption visits a priority, even…
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You’ve been matched and are eager to share the happy news with your family! Prospective adoptive parents looking for support of their decision to adopt transracially may be met with resistance from loved ones. What do you do when your family doesn’t support your transracial or biracial adoption? Adoptive parent Kristen Nicole shares her experience…
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It is hard enough these days to talk to your parents about life. Imagine having to talk to your parents about something as personal as your feelings on being an adopted child. No child wants to hurt their parents, especially by expressing his or her feelings on being adopted and sounding ungrateful. These are things…
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Being adopted at ten years old doesn’t mean I know all about my past and where I come from. For the past ten years, I have wondered where I really came from. I find myself questioning more and more who my birth dad is, where my other brothers are, and whether or not I will…
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Start talking about adoption with your kids early and use adoption language. When my husband and I started talking about adoption, one of our biggest concerns was how our kids would feel about being adopted. Along with that concern was whether or not we would have the right words for the questions they were bound…
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The adoption process can be a wild ride. Here’s our story. Eleven years ago, I was in the midst of my first pregnancy. Each week that passed was joyful. I practically skipped to work from the bus stop and shopped for maternity clothes the minute my belly popped. On the weekends, my husband and I…
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It finally happened…someone told me they were pregnant and instead of jealousy, sadness and thoughts of why? I truly felt joy! I know that may seem silly, weird, or even selfish to some of you. But I know there are many of you out there that are unable to conceive and wondering when that day will happen for you.…
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I was the only child out of seven placed for adoption by my birth mother. Labeled a ‘troubled woman’, my birth mother had two daughters before me and went on to have three more children after I was adopted. When I first found out I was adopted, I was told that I had another sibling—my…
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Whether you’re gay or straight, or your child is adopted or biologically yours, there are things our families have in common. “I can’t believe I’m already doing this,” I said to myself as I opened the top drawer of a dresser we have only had for a month. But it was time. Alexander is three months…
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They say the pain will go away. But this birth mother regrets her choice. “If they offered to give Cricket back, would you want him?” My mother asks me this every so often. She asked again after my last Skype call with Cricket—I think it had been a year since she last asked—a new record.…
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Open adoption varies because no two adoptions look alike. Open adoption is based on the type and amount of contact the birth parents and adoptive parents have agreed to during and after the adoption process. When it comes to open adoption relationships, people are curious. Many have asked me, “What do you say to your…
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My 4 year old wants to meet her birth mom. It came. The question I thought I would have a couple of years to prepare myself for came. While in the car, my 4 year old daughter expressed a desire to meet her birth mom. At bedtime a few days later she said her birth…
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Adoption means many things to many people, none more animated than those in the adoption triad. What does adoption mean to me as a birthmom? This question has been rolling around without me realizing it until someone suggested I write an article about it. Even within the birthmother community, views and attitudes vary widely. Some…
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